Still alive

[Pekka]

Hi CO! Yeah, I got really sick and then I got better It was like 1:100 but hey, sometimes you get lucky

Anyway, So I didn't post before but I wittnessed real rage in her.

Like her pupils got to be the size of pins and her teeth were showing. It was really scary. I told her she isn't scaring anyone with that **** but I was scared as hell.

As a result, I got a new lock to my bedroom door, and I have sneakers and some self defense here. So when she goes nuts, I'll have enough time to break the windows, run and call the cops on her psycho ass.

I have to sleep here, the kids are here.

So that' show I'm living these days... Life is interesting.

[Dinner]

Make sure she can't steal any more money. Also that was a rookie mistake leaving any money in an account she had access to.

[Pekka]

yeah, but she'll give it back. She's not getting anymore money out of me that's for sure.

[Bereta_Eder]

I realize these are difficult times and I hope with time things will smooth out.
I understand the strain everyone is under but I can't help but cringe a bit at your soon to be ex wife's mother's excuse.
"She cheated yeah, but she had to do all the house chores"
"She 'liberated' 5.000 euros from the bank account but finances should never be spoken about when someone's at the wheel".

That's called "lost the ball"

[kentonio]

Are you sure the house swapping thing isn't going to put undue stress on you Pekka? Would you have to leave alternate weeks? Sounds like a lot to handle if your health dips at all.

[pchang]

Make a deal to sell your wife to Kim Jong Un.

[rah]

My fear would be that if there's a house swapping deal that she would use it if you die to claim possession.

[kentonio]

He's not going to die though, the smooth mother****er will outlive us all!

[Ben Kenobi]

My fear would be that if there's a house swapping deal that she would use it if you die to claim possession.

Not if his father is alive when he passes. He owns the house and Pekka and his (soon to be ex-wife) were paying him back to buy it. It's a simple enough thing to do for his father to write off Pekka's portion of the debt and hold the (soon to be ex) responsible for the rest.

The tricky part is what would happen if he outlives his father.

[Pekka]

THis will be handled by our lawyers. We got lawyers for finances from my bank that I work for and we'll get other lawyers to handle the custody case.

I'll try to get the house 100 & now. That is, I'll get her loan under my name, so then she gets nothing, I get the house and kids get hte house when I die. Simple. She is definitely not in a position to get much anything even if this fails. At best, I'll give her my POS car that is broken and I refuse to fix it. She can pay for it now. That's probably what ends up happening. But we're talking thousands at most. Tens of thousands in terms of the house but I'll just get her off the loan so that's one way to do it.

As for custody, she can plead an dlie all she wants, for this we have all the documentations. In any case, she is very unlikely to get anything more than half. If she insists being difficult, it can be less for her as well. We are ready to go to court for it.

Oh, and anohter thing. She has definitely lied to her mom about this whole thing. NOW that my mom sent her an email, calling a stop to this vicious cycle, it was obvious she had no knowledge that my wife had first cheated a long time ago and THEN refused to quti the "relationship" and has been constantly telling me how she hates me and bullying me and reminding me that I'm going to die soon. She had no knowledge of this. So she backed off.

Even with this information, it's only the tip of the ice berg of what can be called the real madness of my wife.

She even made a physical threat to me few days ago. I said I'm taking this all very seriously so as to never ever make any threats to me ever again.

She's been an idiot for few days, not even really working on her goal (to provoke me), making stupid facebook updates... the last one is fairly scary though. She took a selfie, and she really looks like a damn psycho in it. It IS scary.

[Ben Kenobi]

She even made a physical threat to me few days ago. I said I'm taking this all very seriously so as to never ever make any threats to me ever again

Did you record it?

[Pekka]

Did you record it?

I have some of them yeah... too bad this is a country where no true equality exists in these matters.

However, so a lot of very owrrying things have come up in the meanwhile.

I found notes where she has written:

1) about having psychoses
2) About crisis support line advising her to get AIDS/HIV test
3) about waiting another day before commiting a suicide
4) about delusions, manipulation
5) about hearing voices (and hearing voices network)
6) Aout all kinds of stuff that clears it up that she has psychoses, she hears voices, she has a decadent double life that involves SEVERAL MEN, unrpotected sex, drugs (she has written about this as well, not details, but in terms of topics). And on top of this she has a "relationship" with a married man. ONly this (part 6) she has confessed to. But I knwo about all fo these other things as well.
My neurologist could not believe her ears when I told my wife left me for another man. She shook her head in disbelief and at the end said "she needs to see a psychiatrist ASAP" and ordered me for neuropshychological testing so she can attest that I am not aggressive or a bad parent because of my cancer and if someone even says it, they'll lose points by blow below the belt.

In any case, as for other stuff, house is mine, car and motorcycle are mine as well, she gets nothing. IF she wants to fight, she will actually have to pay me. She has inherited 4th of a house, of which half would be mine in these proceedings so... plus she has some stock. I only have cash and vehicles. So she ends up paying me

She probably wants to avoid that and take our deal. (leave us alone, just leave).

Next, we'll settle how to parent our kids. That one will be an interesting one, I'll have another set of lawyers for that. If I bring about all the evidence I have against her, she will never ever work in child protection, she will probably not be able to see our kids alone, etc. So I'll try to figure otu how to handle the situation.

[korn469]

It sounds like a horrible experience on top of an already bad situation. Hang in there! I hope it all works out. Also, maybe you should get tested for STI and diseases transmitted by IV drug users. It would suck to beat cancer and die from hepatitis killing your liver.

[-Jrabbit]

Wow. Hang in there, man.

And don't touch that thing - not even with a proverbial 10-foot pole.

[Pekka]

Wow. Hang in there, man.

And don't touch that thing - not even with a proverbial 10-foot pole.

No I won't!

She has now been isolated for 2 months, and armed. I KNOW she has AT LEAST schizophrenia. At least. She has taken the passports of our kids to her bag, I told her she can't do that adn she said she'd give them to a child protection worker. I don't get it. She is really out of it. I'm mostly scared she will kill herself once she finds out I've known about this all for a long time already. Not about hte other man, but about the whole other ****.

And yes, I'll get tested.

What can I say? In few months, I'll have a big house to myself AND I'm single so I can start dating other women, should I find them somewhere. All in all, I think I won.