Still alive

[Pekka]

You are most welcome, Pekka.

Thanks BK.

Pretty much everyone said, get a lawyer now, she's not coming back... and you were all right about that! Thank you, it's not the best idea to ask for an advice on the internet, but this time it was spot on.

I WOULD consider, on theory, that I'd try it again because she is sick... should I blame her or her illness... then again, the kind of illness she has is usually incurable, it's like having a violent husband, you've got to leave him.

I heard some really ugly stuff today from my mom I never knew... liek he said my grandpa was a narcissist in a bad way, that he used to beat on my mom and my two aunts... like he would come from work and just beat them up for no apparent reason. That's just horrible, nto the grandpa I knew at all! But oyu never really know, some people are monsters and some of them are really good at wearing their mask for the public... even my wife is now trying to win me back. But like you all know.. it's just not going to happen. I was an idiot for years but now? She's the idiot for thinking I would even consider.. she can be will all she wants, she can cry for sympathy, but it's all her games.. it's really just lies, more lies... not buying into it.

Imagine the shock, when the person you loved for years suddenly says that she never really loved you, in fact se mostly hated you, and it was difficult to put up with you so long, coming from heart, knowing this was the truth, she was acting up just to use you as a resource... it's some really disturbing stuff! Scary, even.

[Sava]

[DaShi]

Good new on the cancer, Pekka! Great news on the wife! There's no greater feeling that absolutely crushing your enemies. Well, it should at least be in the top 10.

[PLATO]

Pekka

[Hauldren Collider]

Aren't you finnish? You're supposed to do the BIathlon

Just kidding. I'm really glad to hear you're doing better

[DinoDoc]

Good new on the cancer, Pekka! Great news on the wife! There's no greater feeling that absolutely crushing your enemies. Well, it should at least be in the top 10.

[self biased]

So.. I've decided to take on that as well, but plan it a bit more to not rush it too much. Also, I'll END that relationship and all the man's wife. The deserve to know what kind of an ******* cheater they have in their house. He deserves everything that comes from it. Plus he knows I've caught them now so if eh keeps on fooling around with my wife, he's lucky I'm just calling his wife.

please don't do this. Revenge is a stinky cologne, and everything will eventually come out in the wash without you meddling. don't allow someone else's ****ty choices drag you down to their level.

[Hauldren Collider]

I think it would be worse for him not to let the woman know about her husband's infidelity. Revenge would be something purely destructive like egging his car. This actually benefits another person.

[DinoDoc]

please don't do this. Revenge is a stinky cologne,

I thought it was a dish best served cold. Seriously, the man's being cuckolded. He's justified a little revenge.

[Fake Boris]

If you want to do something useful Pekka tell your soon to be ex-wife's lover your story with your wife and advise him to make amend and stay with his family.

[DinoDoc]

He'd care about Pekka's story for what reason? The guy already knows his lover is married.

[Fake Boris]

He may have been manipulated.

Pekka shouldn't be seeking revenge as much as he should try to leave nice trails around him.

[self biased]

I thought it was a dish best served cold. Seriously, the man's being cuckolded. He's justified a little revenge.

revenge is for the impatient. in my experience, people who act in a way that inspires thoughts of revenge in another person eventually sabotage themselves, so no vengeance is needed. to me, it's far more satisfying to see someone reap the natural consequences of their actions than to have those consequences polluted by my own actions.

[Aeson]

I think it would be best to let it go. That's their business and you want to be free of it completely. Letting it go reaffirms your wife doesnt have control over your actions or emotions.

[Ben Kenobi]

please don't do this. Revenge is a stinky cologne, and everything will eventually come out in the wash without you meddling. don't allow someone else's ****ty choices drag you down to their level.

Pekka I would suggest it's best to walk away. She wants to be this dude's gf? Then let her do that. Her options are then.

1, convince the guy to leave his wife for her.
2, watch as he chooses his wife over her.

Do either of them sound like particularly happy choices?