Still alive

[Pekka]

This is, perhaps, my greatest victory... kicking cancer's ass and my wife's infidenlity, a real combo. It's so great that these narcissists have no idea how they look outside to other people... they think they're so clever and yet not anymore than your average person. So they get caught doing stupid stuff easily. Just think "what an idiot would do" and you've got it. Or better yet, what a "small child in a toy store" would do.

[Aeson]

Great news on the treatment

Being free from a relationship like that sounds good too.

[regexcellent]

Holy **** Pekka, fantastic news about the treatment! Not that the cancer ever stood a chance.

[Lorizael]

Pekka emerges victorious once again, as we all knew he would. Hail Pekka!

[Hauldren Collider]

Keep the kids, keep the house, kick her the **** out.

[Dinner]

Get a lawyer my friend and consider some consuling as you just are getting out of an abusive marriage and you've had a lot of medical scares.

[Bereta_Eder]

Supercitizen prevails, once more

[dannubis]

Good news on your health Pekka !

Regarding the soon to be ex wife: don't forget your children. They need at least one loving parent to show them the high road. Be fair but just. Not vindictive.

[kentonio]

Awesome news Pekka!!

[rah]

congrats on the medical side.

Condolences on the marriage side. It's tough to give up on someone you loved. I hope you're as free as you state.
Now win the last fight by denying her anything. She can only poison the kids through talk, but you can always redeem with actions.
When the kids grow and get smarter, they'll see the difference.

[Sava]

Sorry!

Got results! Good results!

So... there were no "enhancements" from contrast agent in my MRIs.... meaning no super aggressive cancer cells in big groups were detected. It doesn't mean I'm clean but it does mean the treatments were beneficial I'm in no acute danger anymore

[Fake Boris]

Glad to hear about the good news Pekka

[-Jrabbit]

Great news all around, Pekka. Stay strong, stay focused, stay the course.

Much love to you, man.

[Pekka]

Thanks friends

I cant' even begin to describe, it's like the best high that isn't just coming down (yet). I went to talk to a therapist today who said this is very common (not brain cancer but other stuff) , and that he thinks my plan is the best possible. That is divorce her immediately, not even tell her about it (to avoid trash talking and war in the process), get statement from my neurologist that my condition does NOT cause aggressive behavior and graet memory losses or rage. But he also suggested that I should let her mom know, because if I don't tell her mom, I'm still playing into her games. She needs help, and it's the only way. It'll hurt a lot of people badly, but it is not me who did all these outrageous things. So.. I've decided to take on that as well, but plan it a bit more to not rush it too much. Also, I'll END that relationship and all the man's wife. The deserve to know what kind of an ******* cheater they have in their house. He deserves everything that comes from it. Plus he knows I've caught them now so if eh keeps on fooling around with my wife, he's lucky I'm just calling his wife.

TO tell you the truth, I'm jsut so disappointed and grossed out that I'm incapable for any violent thoughts even. I don't know, if I caught them red handed in our bed, that would have been different but now? Just stop it and move out of our lives.

Like Jrabbit said, stay strong, focused and on course. This is what I'm doing. I am still feeling pretty good. I think it is the pure exctasy of being alive and knowing that I'm healthier than I dared to wish for the moment... and clearly I did things right and keep doing them the same way, I should be fine for some time to come. I think I will only grow stronger and healthier in teh near future (unless bad luck strikes me). Especially because one great stress factor (my wife) is removed from my daily life.

I'm very much looking forward meeting new people, obviously I'm not ready to date and obviously I'm out of the game, I've been with my wife for 7 years so... getting back on track is not very easy. I don't even know how to approach women. DO I go talk to them jsut some weird stuff... I dont't know but I know that I was, also, unsatisfied with our relationsdhip, but I was more than willing to work on it... I respected our marriage and meant when I said to the priest that I'd be with her until I die. Now she waited for me to die, but that didn't happen, so I guess I just consider that vow is now void.

She's been trying to be extra nice to me for the last few days but it isn't working. BEcause her actual behavior is still weird, and she still refuses to quite her relationship, you know, nothing has changed and won't change. She figures I might stillw ant to try with her, to be her victim, it's just not gonna happen. I'm divorcing her, she will be left with nothing or very minimum from this relationship. We'll have to plan out in a civilised way how we can grow our kids, I want the kdis here, in this house, so that might prove to be difficult but my therapist already suggested few ways to accomplish this. And also, this is why it's important for her mom to be involved in this, now she only cares about our kids after knowing what her daughter has been up to and how she has treated me (and the kids). So... she will be devastated and broken (which is sad because I really do like her a lot, I don't, she's my mother-in-law but I always liked her and we've grown kind of tight), but she deserves to know. And after she knows, we can plan this growing kids (her grand kids) better. Because she will not take any **** from her daughter or listen to some narcissist demands on how she has to have everything. So we need her mom on this together. Also, I don't trust my wife on anything now, she's a liar and a cheater, cruel, cold and abnormal, but her mom is not. So I trust her to handle our kids, with my wife, she can supervise it better if I can't be around (in case of shared custody). So she is in a very key role for the future.

And I don't want to break my relationship with her (being my kids grandma anyway) this way. She deserves more than this. Of course it's much worse to her than my mom. But she's again playing games, trying to get my attention and sort of make me feel bad for her. NOT WORKING ANYMORE! IT's O-V-E-R! I'm growing my kids with sanity and real caring, teaching them about empathy, life, deserving things, values... stuff that you can't buy, things that define and build your character, that's with you when you're stripped with everything else. Because, whne you die, or are about to die, you look back and think if you did it all right or wrong. When you know you did it right, it's all worth it. It means abstinence from things every now and then (no cheating), it means all kinds fo things that gives you a brief moment of satisfaction but a life time of pain. That's what I want them to really learn. To grow up positive people that contribute and not expect to be treated like royalty for no reason... insttead of being parasites and negative ******, bastards of the party.

I decided yesterday that I'll start working out for a thriatlon. It's kind of trendy now but I think I'll do it. Just to point out it's NEVER too late. You can ALWAYS change, make the right decision, have better luck, someone caring for you... to inspire my kids. To let them have a great story, so that they learn about persistency, and that it pays off. And even if the odds are againnst you, go on, you never know until you know.

So.. on paper this summe rshould be my worst... but I think it's my best! Lost my wife, yes, but she left me a long time ago anyways... and it was never real, that kind of hurts beucase I did love her and thought she really loved me, so many years of lies, that relaly does hurt, even when I don't like her anymore.

O **** I forgot, I got some weed here... let's get some of that medicine to kill some more cancer cells, now that they're on retreat, I better go out to the terrace and declare some more war on them.... -->

Like... I think you people care for me more than my wife did. I really believe this. That's how bad the situation really was.

[Ben Kenobi]

I think you people care for me more than my wife did. I really believe this. That's how bad the situation really was

You are most welcome, Pekka.