Still alive

[pchang]

If the state social workers aren't convinced she is insane by her letter, hopefully a judge will be.

[Pekka]

If the state social workers aren't convinced she is insane by her letter, hopefully a judge will be.

I just read the letter to my dad who was shocked (of course) and said it's from someone whoj is bat**** crazy, insane. Like my wife actually suggests that I should meet her secret lover (who has his own family) so I would get to know the future step dad. WTF??!!! We could go and ave a dinne riwth the kids so they would not be shocked about daddy #2 when the time comes.

1) the man IS a cheater, has and is cheating with my wife so he should be happy to be able to walk home.
2) I'm going to outlive that man anyway so no daddy #2 for him at least.

Also, she gave me a bday card, in which she says she is sorry for ruining everything, and how great of a father I am.

Thanks for evidence.

She's so stupid she does not even realise she is leaving me with gems like every day.

[Pekka]

I'm getting a bit scared now...

... I jsut realsied she has manipulated her mom for months, making her believe I AM the narcissist! And I've been controlling her, takign "away her rights" etc. Holy crap. Of course she is now ready for war and does not believe a word I say.

It's been happening for months

Then again,she has no evidence. I do. I filed for divorce. A narcissist probably would not do that, right?

Also, I got her writing me about BEING a narcissist.

That's two fairly heavy strikes that should count for something.

I called "child protecton" today, that take care of how parenting will be shared in divorce situations, and I've got an appointment there in a month. It's actually quite fast, so I'm happy about that. It's valuable to be their first to set the record straight. I got this hint from a friend of mine whose husband was a narcissist. It was to get there first. Tell the truth first. So that's what I'm doing here... It's spooky, as she is now in full paranoid state, very agitated and aggressive.

[N35t0r]

Man, it sucks

She definitely needs some profesisonal help, for both her, you, and your kids sake...

Is there anybody else on her side you can talk to? A brother/sister, or a friend maybe? You understandably have enough on your plate right now to also take care of her, but not doing anything will also be detrimental to you.

[kentonio]

Don't lose too much sleep about her mom. No matter how nice a lady she is, her daughter is still her daughter, and if it comes down to taking sides you're always likely to lose that one.

[Pekka]

Don't lose too much sleep about her mom. No matter how nice a lady she is, her daughter is still her daughter, and if it comes down to taking sides you're always likely to lose that one.

True... I just hope she won't lie to officials should it come down to that. For her daughter that is, who is the real victim of course.

Then again I have ALL the evidence, even her writing about her narcissism. So.... that's it I figure (hope).

I just had the spookiest moment with my kids. It was HORRIBLE.

My daughter is suffering a lot, she screams, cries, kicks, hits, bites and barks like a dog sometimes for 20 minutes in a row. My wife ties her up and I have to intervene. Because our 3 year old daughter is anxious, scared and confused about what is going on. My wife ALWAYS fights and goes psycho when the kids are present, NEVER when they are not. It's hurting the kids so much I get angry. I dont' say anything, because this is a situation wehre she gets to make 1000 wrongs and I only 1 mistake and it's game over for me. Sucks.

THe horrible moment, yes. My daughter was playing with lego figures, it had "little brother, big sister, mom, and big brother(WTF?)." but "Dad is missing". OK... let's go find dad.. so I find this lego man "look I found dad!" "No that's not dad, dad is dog". We don't have lego dog.

So I asked... "But guys, you don't have a big brother? But you have a dad" "Yes" "Have you ever seen your older brother?" "Yes" WTF! "Where?" "At park close by" "OK... was daddy there?" "Yes" "Was mom there?" "Yes" "Was daddy, as in me, Pekka, your father, was I there?" "No, you were home sleeping":

A huge WTF!!!

So... now I suspect (but kids can be confused eand get things wrong) that my wife has secretly met with her "lover" the "step dad" at the park next to us, and introduced him to the kids and ALSO "Here's your future big brother". I MEAN WHAT THE ****!!!!

I'll find out if this is true and if so, there's gonna be hell to pay. Then I'll take the kids for sure. This is so sick I can't believe it.

[-Jrabbit]

Wow.

[C0ckney]

yeah that's pretty far west dude.

[rah]

Yeah, it sure sounds that way. Keep up the documenting. Let her dig her own grave..

A video of one of her park adventures would be priceless.

[Pekka]

Yeah, it sure sounds that way. Keep up the documenting. Let her dig her own grave..

A video of one of her park adventures would be priceless.

Yes, I documented her fit tonight before leaving... she was raging. Just like a little teenager, made no sense at all. Everything was my fault, I was insane, out of touvh with reality, etc. She even threw a hoodie in my face quite hard. She looked like she wants to kill me. I actually got a bit scared. I've never seen such face before ever. Teeth showing, eyes bulging out, eyes the size of a pin. TOo bad I only got the audio, even though it was ridiculous on its own.

I'm quit out of it. I can't believe my soon to be ex-wife might have, on top of cheating on me with a married man, while I was undergoing rough radiation/chemo, so while I was sleeping due to extreme exhaustion, she went on to introduce our kids to this man, and sort of "he'll die soon and then we will move into the house". It's just too disturbing. I know everything is true for a fact except the park thing. But she wrote a letter saying that I should accept their relationship, and so I could meet the new step father, adn the kdis could meet their new father as well. So that letter alone was disturbing but this thing, now leaking out of my 2 year old's son. WHAT THE **** !?!?

[Ben Kenobi]

A video of one of her park adventures would be priceless.

Document document document, Pekka. It's good you woke up now and are feeling well enough

[lightblue]

It is the tying up of your daughter that gets me. In the UK at least that would be classed as child abuse, and probably get the kids taken into care, and definitely not left with the mother (obviously as long as it was reported). Is there a recourse to social services or the like? It would definitely be something that if I heard it as a teacher I would have to report immediately as a urgent concern.

[Pekka]

Yeah... I got like 30 minutes of reality distortion/rage video of her (audio), I got her confessing narcissism on a letter, having cheating me (same letter), not wanting to stop, or taking the kids. That I could meet this man and kids could meet him too, so my death would be easier for everyone. So I've got that... plus I just got my daughter having a serious attack on a video, I got my mom hearing such an attack on video.

I've got bunch of stuff now. I keep documenthing, she just doesn't get ti for some reason. I figure she can't help herself, shejust has to run her mouth, even when she KNOWS I'm documenting, she just can't help herself.

[Bugs ****ing Bunny]

THe horrible moment, yes. My daughter was playing with lego figures, it had "little brother, big sister, mom, and big brother(WTF?)." but "Dad is missing". OK... let's go find dad.. so I find this lego man "look I found dad!" "No that's not dad, dad is dog". We don't have lego dog.

So I asked... "But guys, you don't have a big brother? But you have a dad" "Yes" "Have you ever seen your older brother?" "Yes" WTF! "Where?" "At park close by" "OK... was daddy there?" "Yes" "Was mom there?" "Yes" "Was daddy, as in me, Pekka, your father, was I there?" "No, you were home sleeping":

A huge WTF!!!

So... now I suspect (but kids can be confused eand get things wrong) that my wife has secretly met with her "lover" the "step dad" at the park next to us, and introduced him to the kids and ALSO "Here's your future big brother". I MEAN WHAT THE ****!!!!

I'll find out if this is true and if so, there's gonna be hell to pay. Then I'll take the kids for sure. This is so sick I can't believe it.

Pekka- can I be the voice of reason here?

This is a 3-year-old child speaking. Please keep that in mind. There's every chance you're being a bit mad.

[Pekka]

I'm definitely paranoid, but my wife has admitted being mad and written about it.

FACT:
She state that she should be able to c ontinue her cheating relationship, so she could offer me to be with the kids, and that I could meet the man, the future step dad, and that the kids could meet their new father as well so when I die, it would not be such a big shock to them either.

The above is a fact. And that is just one piece in this sick relationship we have.

I have her on video admitting all kidns of things too. And how it is all my fault. I've got her admitting, on video, and a written eltter to me, that she is a narcissist, an empty shell.

These are all facts I can prove.

OF COURSE it's still possible, little kdis can say anything, adn you would need a REAL expert who can "not lead the kids too much" to get to the truth, and even then it's always a bit of an iffy. I know this.

But so far all my gut feelings have turned out true. That's why I still don't take this as a fact, but something I worry about and something I'll try to figure out somehow. Because I can't take it from the kids' mouth alone.

SO what difference does it make?

It makes ALL the difference.