"Kansas has found the ultimate way to punish the poor"

[Kidlicious]

What level of disgust is that?

The same amount that I have for myself.

[Ben Kenobi]

Aeson is getting rich from the apparent increased traffic. I don't think he cares.

This.

Also, brown women are awesome.

[-Jrabbit]

How would you know?

[Ben Kenobi]

How would you know?

How indeed.

[rah]

Yeah how indeed. Are you admitting to have had premarital sex or are you just making it up like almost everything else you post here?

[kentonio]

Ben, until you've lived with a woman and actually experienced the realities of day to day life with a longterm partner, you don't know ****.

Dating isn't any kind of realistic representation of what its actually like. Every time you're seeing her she's making an effort to look good, and get into date mode. Even when you have bad times when you're dating, you're still only seeing part of the picture.

When you live with someone you get the entire warts and all experience, and until you've experienced that you have absolutely no qualifications for talking about relationships.

[rah]

I think history has proven that ben needs no actual experience to claim expertise.

[snrjefe]

Just though I'd add that the IRS does provide compensation for theft. http://www.irs.gov/taxtopics/tc515.html

Regulate, tax and compensate for property loss/damage.

[Ben Kenobi]

Yeah how indeed. Are you admitting to have had premarital sex or are you just making it up like almost everything else you post here?

So women are only awesome when you have sex with them?

[Ben Kenobi]

Ben, until you've lived with a woman and actually experienced the realities of day to day life with a longterm partner, you don't know ****.

Really. Well I suppose knowing them for years doesn't count in the slightest.

Dating isn't any kind of realistic representation of what its actually like. Every time you're seeing her she's making an effort to look good, and get into date mode. Even when you have bad times when you're dating, you're still only seeing part of the picture.

All I can say is that I've been really blessed.

When you live with someone you get the entire warts and all experience, and until you've experienced that you have absolutely no qualifications for talking about relationships.

I'm not giving advice to folks about moving in with their partners. I'm giving advice about things like, "what to look out for in a long distance relationship". I was in one when I went away to college. Nice lady, we're not together now, but that still doesn't change the fact that she was a very kind woman and we were happy together.

And yes, she was Brown. East Indian.

[kentonio]

Really. Well I suppose knowing them for years doesn't count in the slightest.

Nope, it really doesn't.

All I can say is that I've been really blessed.

Of course, you've had the hard real life stuff largely filtered out.

I'm not giving advice to folks about moving in with their partners. I'm giving advice about things like, "what to look out for in a long distance relationship". I was in one when I went away to college. Nice lady, we're not together now, but that still doesn't change the fact that she was a very kind woman and we were happy together.

If you're giving advice on just dating, then sure why not. Just don't make the mistake of thinking you've got the full story on women until you've lived with one. Until you've woken up beside a woman who first thing in the morning looks like she's just rolled through a bush fifty or so times and had her look at you like she wants to kill you and refuse to tell you whats wrong for the first 20 or so times you ask, and then finally work out that she's been brooding over something you said about a month previously that she's never previously mentioned.

Oh and the endless annoyances of things like finding the bathroom practically unusable because its permanently full of a thousand random items, the vast majority of which you have no idea what they're for or what they do. Or discovering that just like men, women also fart, **** and do all the other things that we like to forget about. Oh and the endless ****ing arguments over toilet seats..

They're still pretty awesome though.

[rah]

So women are only awesome when you have sex with them?

Some day you'll probably figure out then that your definition of awesome was quite understated.
But then maybe not.

[Ben Kenobi]

Nope, it really doesn't.

Hmm, I'd wager most would disagree on that. If you've known someone for years, you'd have talked about these things, and not just the highlights. Everything by that point.

Of course, you've had the hard real life stuff largely filtered out.

Yeah, I'm sure, I have. Sure, I guess we can go along with that.

If you're giving advice on just dating, then sure why not. Just don't make the mistake of thinking you've got the full story on women until you've lived with one. Until you've woken up beside a woman who first thing in the morning looks like she's just rolled through a bush fifty or so times and had her look at you like she wants to kill you and refuse to tell you whats wrong for the first 20 or so times you ask, and then finally work out that she's been brooding over something you said about a month previously that she's never previously mentioned.

Yeah, can't say I've ever been in a situation like that.

Oh and the endless annoyances of things like finding the bathroom practically unusable because its permanently full of a thousand random items, the vast majority of which you have no idea what they're for or what they do. Or discovering that just like men, women also fart, **** and do all the other things that we like to forget about. Oh and the endless ****ing arguments over toilet seats..

They're still pretty awesome though.

I'm not discounting your experiences. But I don't see why you're discounting mine. Dating isn't just all sweetness and light, past maybe the first few. Really, it's not.

I think we can both agree that they are worth the hassle. Like I said, I've met some really nice ladies over the years.

[Ben Kenobi]

Some day you'll probably figure out then that your definition of awesome was quite understated.
But then maybe not

You mean they get even more awesome?

[kentonio]

I'm not discounting yours really, just saying that yours are experiences of dating, and the experience of actually living with a woman is very different. It strips a lot of the romantic glamour from the whole thing, and its really the only way to find out if you're really meant to be with someone. If you can go through all the **** that comes with actually spending all your time with someone and STILL think they're amazing, then you're you know you've found the right one.

That's why I can never agree with the whole 'living in sin' message of the catholic church. That person who seems like the perfect love doesn't always seem like that after the initial love buzz has worn off, and you get to know what they're really like day on day. Some people are lucky enough to find that person the first time, but for most people its a trial and error process. If I'd been locked into the first serious relationship I had, then my life would be a lot worst than it is today, and so would hers. The fact we can fall in love with more than just a single person should provide enough evidence that marrying someone just because you fall in love with them is a foolish endeavour.