Please don't take this too seriously.

[Elok]

Well, ****. Sorry, should have kept my mouth shut.

[Lorizael]

No biggie.

[Lorizael]

Sigh. I really wish I were the type of person who could engage in casual sex. Alternatively, I wish I were in a fulfilling romantic relationship. But I'll take the sex.

[Elok]

I sometimes think I'm fortunate that I've never had an ex, strictly speaking. OTOH, I never had an ex because I spent about a decade of my life idolizing ridiculously inappropriate women and getting shot down over and over again on the rare occasion I tried to do more than sigh from a distance. There are times where, looking back, I wish I hadn't had my head up my butt and I could've had fun just getting to know girls. But I know full well that there would've been plenty of pain there too. It's just easier to think of the happy potential than the inevitable thorns and brambles that mix with it.

[Dinner]

I find it is a numbers game. Granted I haven't played that game much recently but back when I did it really was a 90% won't go any where so if you want to have a choice make a pass at as many women as possible, most will say no, but a certain percentage will say yes so just hit on enough of them.

[Sava]

Tell her that you want her gone from your life. Reciprocity is a prerequisite for friendship.

This.

[Lorizael]

This.

I really don't understand this attitude. I have a lot of trouble making friends. Why would I voluntarily give up one?

[self biased]

because it seems like this friendship is toxic to you? I went through something similar, but recounting the anecdote dom my phone isn't really feasible.

[Sava]

I really don't understand this attitude. I have a lot of trouble making friends. Why would I voluntarily give up one?

I agree with self biased

From what has been described of the situation, the friendship seems toxic. A bad friendship isn't worth having. But there's no need for a direct confrontation over this matter. If it were me, I'd just stop talking to the person. Respond if they reach out. Reciprocate friendship if it is offered (in a healthy way). But don't put up with bull****.

And yes, your ex fooling around with a new BF while you are around (or going to be expected) is bull****. It's abusive. It's passive aggressive bull****. It's toxic. It's unacceptable behavior AFAIC.

That's my take on it. But also, we're different people. And I'm outside the norm when it comes to socializing and whatnot.

[Buster Crabbe's Uncle]

I do not think Tuber, self and Sava are wrong.

Lori, I know you don't want to give up your gaming group or even contact with her, but maybe you'd be better off not encouraging/seeking contact. The very best to be said of the incident is that she was inconsiderate.

[Lorizael]

The friendship seems toxic? Because of this one incident? The ex has gone out of her way thus far not to do anything even remotely romantic or sexual with the new boyfriend in front of me. I know this, because I know what the two of us were like together. I can't speak for the new boyfriend, although he seems like a decent enough guy. But if my ex really did this to hurt me in some fashion, then she's simply not the person I thought she was (and I've known her for 5 and a half years).

[Lorizael]

If they did do it on purpose, they're damn good actors. Overheard after they got out of the shower:

New bf: "I think someone's here."

Ex: "Who?"

New bf: "Someone who drives a < Lori's car >."

Ex: "Oh, that's Lori."

New bf (calling out): "Hi, Lori!"

Lori: "Hello, folks."

[DaShi]

Again, I very much doubt my ex did this on purpose. For the duration of our time apart, she has maintained that she wants to remain friends with me--that I'm her best friend--and that she doesn't want me gone from her life. If she genuinely believes that, I can't imagine why she would intentionally do something like this. On the other hand, I can't speak for the new boyfriend. It's certainly possible he delayed events so as to create such a scenario. I don't know him well enough to know. I hope my ex isn't dating someone who would behave thusly, but I just can't know.

I've never met this boyfriend, but based on what you've said about him, I can say with 100% certainty that he is a sociopath. I suggest using your best-friend status to make subtle and innocuous hints that your friend is two-timing him and watch the drama ensue. You might even get laid out of it.

[Buster Crabbe's Uncle]

Now, how did the meeting at school go?

This time I checked what day today is before I asked.

[Lorizael]

I'll be taking a retroactive "leave of absence" for this semester and I should be allowed to return next semester without having negatively affected my GPA. Although I'm pretty sure the leave of absence thing will go down in my permanent record.