Please don't take this too seriously.

[ColdWizard]

Take a break from your gaming group by substituting in Felch.

[Lorizael]

Feel free to tear into me all you like. I'm sorry things haven't really worked out for you, Lorizael.

Okay, let's start here. I obsessively read over my old threads, so I have a good idea of what people have said to me over the years. Observation one: About half the posts you make in my me-threads are you saying something along the lines of, "I offered the correct advice last thread, Lorizael." Observation two: More often than not, you offered either (a) no advice at all or (b) the opposite advice in said thread.

You being wrong is not the point, though; that's just normal. So let's be clear here. The precise amount of help that saying, "If I remember correctly, this is what I said about the subject 2 years ago" is, if I'm doing my math correctly, **** all.

[Bereta_Eder]

The question Lori, is why you put yourself through punishment. What are you? Opus dei or something?
QUIT the gaming sessions.
Yes, it will be painful but now you're sucking at a dead whale's tits (quite a gruesome analogy I know).

Confine yourself, like a man, to the isolation your initial decision entailed.
Then, this isolation will push you to seek out something fresh and new.
You broke up for a reason and you are depriving yourself of the opportunity to move forward.

(disclaimer: just my opinion)

[DaShi]

You shouldn't put too much into your boss putting too much hope in you, at least not until you get to know him better. Maybe he's like this all the time? Do you really believe you're not up to the job?

I do this all the time to my employees. "I believe in you." "If anyone can do it, you can." It makes their inevitable failure all the more tragic because they are also upset that they disappointed me. I don't care. I just don't want anymore calls from HR.

[Lorizael]

The question Lori, is why you put yourself through punishment. What are you? Opus dei or something?
QUIT the gaming sessions.
Yes, it will be painful but now you're sucking at a dead whale's tits (quite a gruesome analogy I know).

Confine yourself, like a man, to the isolation your initial decision entailed.
Then, this isolation will push you to seek out something fresh and new.
You broke up for a reason and you are depriving yourself of the opportunity to move forward.

(disclaimer: just my opinion)

Quitting gaming would be tough. Here's the situation. I've been gaming with this group of people for over a decade. Five and a half years ago, I met my ex. I got my ex into gaming, and she eventually became part of the group. We dated for four years, during which time gaming eventually relocated to the house she and I moved into. A year ago, we broke up. Then she started dating a new guy who happens to also be a gamer, so she brought him into the group. But my gaming group is basically my only real group of friends. If I stop hanging out with them, I more or less stop having social contact.

[DaShi]

You need to meet someone else.

[Ben Kenobi]

More often than not, you offered either (a) no advice at all or (b) the opposite advice in said thread.

I'm trying to find the old thread and search was unsuccessful at digging it up. I am very sure that on this point I suggested that your ambivalence towards children was something that you should work out with your now ex-girlfriend rather than end what had been (at least as I understood), an otherwise successful relationship for you.

Now, if I didn't offer this advice in this thread then I apologize, but I am pretty certain that I did.

The precise amount of help that saying, "If I remember correctly, this is what I said about the subject 2 years ago" is, if I'm doing my math correctly, **** all.

I'm either right or wrong. I don't have the thread, but I'm assuming that you do. I'd like to see what I actually said and how close this came to being mirrored with what you said here.

[Lorizael]

You need to meet someone else.

Easier said than done.

[Lorizael]

I'm trying to find the old thread and search was unsuccessful at digging it up. I am very sure that on this point I suggested that your ambivalence towards children was something that you should work out with your now ex-girlfriend rather than end what had been (at least as I understood), an otherwise successful relationship for you.

Now, if I didn't offer this advice in this thread then I apologize, but I am pretty certain that I did.



I'm either right or wrong. I don't have the thread, but I'm assuming that you do. I'd like to see what I actually said and how close this came to being mirrored with what you said here.

Here's the thread.

Yes, in that particular thread, you suggested that I would be better off having children. But that's not the point, BK. The point is that going, "I think I said such and such 2 years ago" is a ****ing useless thing to say to me, right or wrong.

Also, it's probably still the wrong piece of advice, because I'm still a broken sack of **** who's unsure about the whole kids things, and going into that the way I am now might be the thing I need that turns everything around, or it might ruin the lives of multiple people (me, my ex, my children).

[DaShi]

Easier said than done.

As Ming blatantly ripped off from Nike, "Just do it!" Of course it's not easy. But it's one of those things you force yourself to do, and you'll be happier for it...you know...until she moves in and nags you about leaving your socks in the living room.

[Lorizael]

Yeah, I'm working on the whole meeting new people thing. I joined my university's astronomy club thingy. And a new gaming place just opened up near where I live, so I might check that place out and see what's happening. But I am not very good at this whole being social thing. I'll get there, but not without considerable consternation.

[Ben Kenobi]

you suggested that I would be better off having children. But that's not the point, BK. The point is that going, "I think I said such and such 2 years ago" is a ****ing useless thing to say to me, right or wrong.

Also, it's probably still the wrong piece of advice, because I'm still a broken sack of **** who's unsure about the whole kids things, and going into that the way I am now might be the thing I need that turns everything around, or it might ruin the lives of multiple people (me, my ex, my children).

I vehemently disagree with this crap. Everything I've seen of you suggests that you are someone who cares a great deal for the welfare of others. I think you'd make a great father.

[Ben Kenobi]

I joined my university's astronomy club thingy. And a new gaming place just opened up near where I live, so I might check that place out and see what's happening. But I am not very good at this whole being social thing. I'll get there, but not without considerable consternation.

Sounds like a good time. You should go. I personally know chicks who dig stars

[MOBIUS]

FFS BK, why are you being such a c*nt with your sanctimonious bollocks!!?

You're not helping the situation, you're making things worse with you smarmy 'I told you so' crap, which I imagine is the last thing Lori wants to hear!

Not only that, but your 'advice' is defective for the reasons Lori gave - not to mention dragging up a past situation for no actual gain.

If you actually want to help Lori in this thread, butt the **** out, because that's what he's already told you to do! If you continue to persist with your 'advice' then you'll only be proving what all of us here already know - that you're a spiteful troll that feeds off the anguish of others because your own life is so ****ed up on so many levels that it's the only way your shriveled limp dick gets a hard on these days...

[MOBIUS]

Yeah, I'm working on the whole meeting new people thing. I joined my university's astronomy club thingy. And a new gaming place just opened up near where I live, so I might check that place out and see what's happening. But I am not very good at this whole being social thing. I'll get there, but not without considerable consternation.

I think you do need to cut your ties from this gaming group, if only for a little while...

Try out other gaming groups or clubs to get another group of friends going as you seem to be doing, maybe you'll even meet someone new as you certainly won't carrying on as you are.

In time, things won't be as raw as they are and you might find you'll be able to re-engage with your current group - especially if you meet someone of your own. Can you meet them socially at all, you know, for coffee etc as one to ones? Or specialised board games like chess where you don't need the group but can still keep in touch without seeing the ex?