Casual Sex

[Aeson]

[Elok]

Is it a normal British thing to casually and openly hit on your coworkers at work? Bearing in mind that this is a call center, a fairly high-stress workplace.

[kentonio]

Is it a normal British thing to casually and openly hit on your coworkers at work? Bearing in mind that this is a call center, a fairly high-stress workplace.

Ah, I'd forgotten about teh famed American prudishness.

The assumption was that there was already an obvious attraction on both sides and that it was said with a laugh, not in a sleazy way.

[Elok]

We don't have the British habit of three drinks before noon to help us loosen up.

It's fairly moot, as I believe Lori would pass out with anxiety if he attempted to approach a woman he didn't know very well and call her "alluring."

[Ming]

I believe Lori would pass out with anxiety if he attempted to approach a woman he didn't know very well and call her "alluring."

True dat...

[kentonio]

We don't have the British habit of three drinks before noon to help us loosen up.

It's fairly moot, as I believe Lori would pass out with anxiety if he attempted to approach a woman he didn't know very well and call her "alluring."

He just needs to keep telling himself it's not the woman that's alluring its the grammar.

Also the British almost never drink before noon, we're alcoholics not barbarians.

[Ming]

It's always noon somewhere

[Elok]

Yeahhh, I'm sorry, man, but when you said alluring I instantly thought of Zapp Brannigan from Futurama telling Leela he found something about her . . . E-ROT-IC!!! Possibly there's someone who could pull that off and not come across as scuzzy, but he'd have to at the very least bear a strong resemblance to Ryan Gosling.

[Lorizael]

Ah, I'd forgotten about teh famed American prudishness.

The assumption was that there was already an obvious attraction on both sides and that it was said with a laugh, not in a sleazy way.

I suspect she knows my name.

[rah]

I have something weird to tell you... You are right, that would be bad.
But nothing wrong with "Did you know that you are the only one in this company that uses punctuation properly in the client notes?"

Or try, "If this company paid it's employees based on their proper use of punctuation in the client notes, you'd be the highest paid employee in the company"

And yeah, I'd stay away from using alluring.

[kentonio]

Yeahhh, I'm sorry, man, but when you said alluring I instantly thought of Zapp Brannigan from Futurama telling Leela he found something about her . . . E-ROT-IC!!! Possibly there's someone who could pull that off and not come across as scuzzy, but he'd have to at the very least bear a strong resemblance to Ryan Gosling.

You just need to master the art of sounding self-deprecating. And maybe get an English accent.

[kentonio]

I suspect she knows my name.

Halfway there!

[Lorizael]

You just need to master the art of sounding self-deprecating. And maybe get an English accent.

I am excellent at self-deprecation, but others are better.

[Jon Miller]

I don't really want to give up the gaming group, since they're my only reliable social life. I am around people the rest of the time, but they are strangers and it's exhausting. I need some contact with people I'm relatively comfortable with.

Yeah, I completely feel you.

I think you would be happier if you did what I did at times in my life as a student and say 'hey, I have things I need to focus on, everything is going pretty good, I don't need to focus on women'.

JM
(Of course, I did lots of obsessing over women too. Even when I should have been focusing on work and other areas of life.)

[Ben Kenobi]

Her semicolon use is, I **** you not, what first got my attention. It is attractive to me in a way I am too embarrassed to fully express.

I met a lady like that once. Funny story. We bonded over Putin of all things. She hated Putin and his nonsense, but she also hated the European Union. First question, 'you're a rare lady, how did you end up with that combination of positions? I don't know many who see things the way that you do.

Instant conversation starter. I remember when we were having lunch about a year and a half later together and she mentioned that. "You know what got us talking? Putin. And we gave a toast to Putin.

Lori, what you are talking about is aesthetics, and you're right, it's a very deep and difficult thing to express. But make that observation to her. I would probably go about and say something like this:

Pardon me, blah. You really stand out! If she asks why, point out your observation, word for word like you do here. Say, "I have to go through peoples stuff and the most folks here have illiterate crap. blah. Then there's you and you take the time to use semicolons correctly. Semicolons! Who does that? (big smiles) What's your story? How did a nice gal like you end up in a dive like this?

You're in a call centre ffs. That's got to be the selling point.