Casual Sex

[Ming]

Gee... the last person you need to take getting laid advice from is the virgin BK.

[Ben Kenobi]

the last person you need to take getting laid advice from is the virgin BK.

Given that my first advice in the thread is that he should listen to you...

[kentonio]

How did a nice gal like you end up in a dive like this?

Is 'gal' really ok in Texas? Because it makes you look like a ***** anywhere else.

[Ben Kenobi]

Is 'gal' really ok in Texas? Because it makes you look like a ***** anywhere else

I was paraphrasing, not giving him a word for word directive. Actually in Texas, it really depends. Know your audience is the most important thing. There are ladies in Tx (and up in Canada too), that would respond well to 'gal', and there's ladies in Texas that would give you a withering look. Particularly in Austin, you have to be careful. I've met both types.

[Ming]

So if you "have to be careful" why did you even bother using the word in the first place...

[Elok]

Somebody mention gals?



TRIGGER WARNING FOR TRAUMATIZED CANADO-TEXANS: Contains highly acrobatic black men, who might mug you in a terrifyingly snazzy manner.

[Ben Kenobi]

So if you "have to be careful" why did you even bother using the word in the first place...

One, I think Lori isn't pedantic enough to read it through word for word. I think he can get the gist easily enough.

Two, I've met some really nice ladies here. Know your audience is basic. Chances are if she's a liberal, not from the South, etc - you know well enough to not use that. I'm not sure why because *some* ladies would be offended that means I can't use it with the ladies who like it.

[Lorizael]

Since I absolutely don't want my thread to be about BK, here's a story from today. I noticed awhile back on Facebook that an old friend of mine appears to be friends with a classmate in my astronomy cohort. I passed this classmate in the astro department today and, deciding that starting unsolicited conversations with strangers/acquaintances is something I need to work on, turned back around and was like, "Hey, do you know so-and-so?" Then we talked for a minute about knowing so-and-so and went our separate ways.

This is behavior I almost never engage in and it's probably a normal thing to do, but it also feels like it could be really creepy because the encounter was predicated on me noticing this classmate in a picture with my friend on Facebook. Anyway, that's Lori being social for the day. Then I came home and all my roommates were in the living room talking and having fun and I microwaved my frozen dinner and crawled up to my room and did not cry.

[Ming]

Baby steps... Baby steps...

[Ben Kenobi]

Lori, apologies. Good luck with your quest!

[rah]

There was one stretch When I was taking a vacation from college I lived with three guys. To this day I remember none of their names. The only roommates I ever had that I don't remember.
I'd walk in and no one would even say hi. It was weird.

[Lorizael]

My roommates are perfectly friendly to me but I think they stopped trying to engage with me awhile back because I, uh, didn't reciprocate at all.

[Garth Vader]

How did you manage to have multiple long term relationships?

I have many similar issues as you, although to a lesser degree than you have described here. Yet I can't imagine being as successful as you have been.

[Lorizael]

I think that's a complicated question and I'm not sure that my experiences comprise a model one should follow. In terms of why my relationships might have lasted as long as they did, I am patient, I do not lose my temper, I apologize readily, and I listen. All three of my relationships also started with a period of non-dating friendship that transitioned into relationship. That's important, because I don't not lose my temper with everybody (my middle brother being the prime example). So maybe I just took the time to figure out if I could have the kind of relationships with my then future girlfriends that I would want to have. But many people will say that's a bad idea, that there's only so much work you can do beforehand to figure out if you're compatible with a person, and that the best way is just to date a lot of people and see who sticks.

[kentonio]

I'd only say it was (sometimes) a bad idea because of the risk of that person either just meeting someone else or mentally transitioning you totally into friendship zone. If you can pull it off it's a great idea in principle though.