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[Bereta_Eder]

Hm.
I see

[Bereta_Eder]

And you were together 8 years?

[Elok]

Have you considered finding "extracurricular activities" to get involved in? You do live in an urban area, there's sure to be multiple local clubs who get together to discuss some of your interests. Whether you have the free time for them is another thing, but if there's a regular mixer of astronomy geeks or role-players or futurists or writers or philosophers or whatever around, well, the whole point of such things is to bring strangers together. If there's a likeable girl at such a gathering, there's nothing weird about you walking up to her and saying hello. It would give you better odds than a work situation. Or, if all the girls are uninteresting or spoken for, you'll get handy socializing practice.

[Lorizael]

And you were together 8 years?

4 years. The rest of my experience comes from two other long term relationships.

Have you considered finding "extracurricular activities" to get involved in? You do live in an urban area, there's sure to be multiple local clubs who get together to discuss some of your interests. Whether you have the free time for them is another thing, but if there's a regular mixer of astronomy geeks or role-players or futurists or writers or philosophers or whatever around, well, the whole point of such things is to bring strangers together. If there's a likeable girl at such a gathering, there's nothing weird about you walking up to her and saying hello. It would give you better odds than a work situation. Or, if all the girls are uninteresting or spoken for, you'll get handy socializing practice.

Time is the issue. School during the day. Work in the evening. Leaves weekends, where I work every other Saturday, game with my long time gaming group most Sundays, and still have to fit homework in there somewhere.

[Bereta_Eder]

What you need is socialism.



Well, I don't have anything to add, I'm sure it will all work out

[Jon Miller]

Time is the issue. School during the day. Work in the evening. Leaves weekends, where I work every other Saturday, game with my long time gaming group most Sundays, and still have to fit homework in there somewhere.

It may be that you need to be less involved with your long time gaming group. Or decide that your current life is OK until you graduate.

JM

[Lorizael]

I don't really want to give up the gaming group, since they're my only reliable social life. I am around people the rest of the time, but they are strangers and it's exhausting. I need some contact with people I'm relatively comfortable with.

[Lorizael]

Well of course, if girls (and there are many different) generally see you as being a weirdo, they'll not want to have anything to do with you.

If however they see you as just awkward, which is what you are, they will still be flattered by the attention.

Case in point, one day I had not slept enough. There's this girl I used to see like every other day. She is, objectively, pretty.
I was a bit deazy from not getting enough sleep so I said hi to her and then I almost bumped into a lampost.

Her hellos have been warmer ever since. not because of my kinetic skills

I am a weirdo. Here's an example. Call center, so every customer has a file with notes documenting whatever stupid ass **** they've done. Everybody types these notes in mangled shorthand. My cute coworker, on the other hand, correctly and appropriately uses semicolons in her notes. Nobody else in the company does this. Her semicolon use is, I **** you not, what first got my attention. It is attractive to me in a way I am too embarrassed to fully express. Yeah, she's physically cute (not hot), but that ain't what caught my eye. I have no desire at all to tell her that she looks pretty today or anything like that. However, I would totally want to tell her that I appreciate her punctuation. I am a weirdo. I recognize that this is a wacky thing to want to tell a girl, which is part of why I say nothing at all.

[Ming]

Not a bad conversation starter... It focuses on her, shows you think she is special, and gives her a chance to talk about herself.
WIN WIN

[Elok]

Yeah, I concur. Go up to her and tell her you really, earnestly appreciate her using the damn semicolons correctly. It doesn't sound remotely like a pickup line, you'll doubtless sound sincere, and if she's turned off by that there's no way she'd stick around for the grey goo stuff so you'll know you're better off this way.

OTOH, you should avoid a ten-minute digression on clauses, or anything else that might give you a visible erection.

[Lorizael]

I... I really can't imagine a way to start that conversation with anything other than, "I have something weird to tell you." There just doesn't seem to be a natural way to bring up semicolon usage.

[Ming]

I... I really can't imagine a way to start that conversation with anything other than, "I have something weird to tell you." There just doesn't seem to be a natural way to bring up semicolon usage.

I have something weird to tell you... You are right, that would be bad.
But nothing wrong with "Did you know that you are the only one in this company that uses punctuation properly in the client notes?"

[kentonio]

I... I really can't imagine a way to start that conversation with anything other than, "I have something weird to tell you." There just doesn't seem to be a natural way to bring up semicolon usage.

A touch of whimsy never hurts. Something like "I'm not sure which is worse, the fact the you're the only other person here who uses proper punctuation, or the fact that I find it strangely alluring".

[Elok]

No, don't call it alluring. Don't preface it either. Just do what Ming said.

[kentonio]

No, don't call it alluring. Don't preface it either. Just do what Ming said.

Have a lot of experience with picking up women do we?