Casual Sex

[Ming]

Well... that is a problem. If you can't overcome it, you will then have to figure out a way to be present in a social situation with her.

[Lorizael]

That's a dangerous suggestion, because it encourages me to go online and find every single scrap of publicly available information about her and from that deduce what she does with her life outside of work, which I clearly haven't done already because that would be super creepy.

[Elok]

Level is not terribly important to me. But I'd like to multiclass out of my current class, because Socially Anxious Weirdo is kind of underpowered.

Judging by the rest of your posts, it might be simpler to try "cleric" at this point.

[Lorizael]

Monk is a class, and I've given it serious consideration over the years.

[Ming]

That's a dangerous suggestion, because it encourages me to go online and find every single scrap of publicly available information about her and from that deduce what she does with her life outside of work, which I clearly haven't done already because that would be super creepy.

No need to stalk her
But there is nothing wrong with checking out her social media and seeing if you share some interest or location.
And again, the simple alternative is simply go up to her and start a simple conversation

[Elok]

Monk is a class, and I've given it serious consideration over the years.

For the record, I met my wife shortly after I'd decided I was never going to meet anyone and said to hell with trying. But it was probably coincidence.

[Lorizael]

No need to stalk her
But there is nothing wrong with checking out her social media and seeing if you share some interest or location.
And again, the simple alternative is simply go up to her and start a simple conversation

We do share interests and go to the same (gigantic) school.

[Ming]

I met my wife shortly after a failed relationship. I really had no interest in starting a new relationship at the time, and she just fell into my life. A week after I met her, she moved into my place, and we have been together ever since.

[Elok]

We do share interests and go to the same (gigantic) school.

I assume she has no blog of her own where she talks about astronomy, philosophy, and singularity death cults? That would help a great deal.

[Lorizael]

No current blogs, near as I can tell, unless they have no connection to other readily available online identities. Which is always a possibility. For example, unless you are friends with me on facebook, my real name will never connect you to my blog.

[rah]

Hmm you're in a call center.
Lots of possible work related type questions.
Is the network having problems? Are you getting any static? How's your response time. etc.

Or my favorite, that one a my programmers used all the time on the call center bunnies.
He bought a handful of extra ear foam muffs for the headsets and would walk up to the girls and ask if they needed fresh muffs.
As corny as it sounds, it was usually a great ice breaker. What woman doesn't want a fresh muff.
Eventually he'd get a positive result. He was a high volume kind of guy.

[Elok]

If I worked in a call center, I wouldn't want earmuffs, I'd want a bottle of hard liquor. Or pills. Maybe both.

[rah]

So if you were a female in a call center, you'd be an easy pickup.

[Dauphin]

Maybe you should try walking up and talking to a random person, and see if you can start a conversation where you have no real interest in the outcome aside from the fact you want to practice talking to a person. Although that may be hard with no excuse to talk. Maybe start simple and just say hello to someone when they get in the elevator - you aren't starting a conversation, you are just being social and there is no requirement to follow up (in some countries you will get a look of "who's that weirdo" if you dare speak in an elevator, and in other places you are rude if you don't say at least a "hello", not sure what the norm is where you are).

I don't think you need to create a reason to talk to someone you want to ask out. You just ask them out.

[Lorizael]

Hmm you're in a call center.
Lots of possible work related type questions.
Is the network having problems? Are you getting any static? How's your response time. etc.

Those all work for someone in the next cube over, but not someone I have to basically track down in the office. My understanding is that making conversation is supposed to be natural and opportunistic, not some quest I'm on directed at a single person. There's no way that comes out as me just being friendly rather than seeking her out for a special conversation event.