If she's a stalker it makes sense, but only if.
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You know, I was thinking, if she's really as manipulative as Lori says she is, then her ultimate goal was to have Lori obsess over her and what she wants. So... mission accomplished.“I give you a new commandment, that you love one another. Just as I have loved you, you also should love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.”
- John 13:34-35 (NRSV)
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Just got home from a long drive through the snow. So here's a fuller post...
After I replied to EBF about why she would want to interact with me, she sent me this message:
EBF: Because I love & value you & the amazing, formative relationship we had. I would like to be able to talk with you while we are in the same space at least. I have no bad feelings associated w interacting w you other than about you not wanting to. Your being helped greatly to shape my being (some of the best parts of my being) & it's kind of cosmically heart breaking to be actively closed out. I certainly have grown as a person & I suspect you have too, but why should that prevent communication? I'm curious about who you are now, how you've changed & how you've stayed the same.
I will always love & cherish you even if you never choose to speak to me again. I am extremely grateful for you & all you have been & done in my life
So why *wouldn't* I want to interact w you?
I didn't have a chance to respond to that before the wedding. At the wedding, I did a spectacular job of avoiding her for a good 7 hours. Unfortunately, the whole thing lasted 9 hours, and my brother was having a good time (drinking) and didn't want to leave. A 9 hour party, btw, is about 8 hours too long for me. Eventually, exhausted from all of the socializing, I escaped to a little room off to the side to be by myself for awhile. Then EBF cornered me and we talked.
Yeah, I had fun talking to her, but that's exactly the problem. It's so easy for me to talk to her and have fun with her, and that's part of why my interactions with her in the past have been so dangerous. It's not easy for me to talk to most people. EBF has always been so alluring to me because our communication was so effortless. But I don't want to be reminded of any of that, because when she and I were close I made bad, mother****ing bad decisions. She scares the **** out of me. I don't trust myself around her. So yeah, failing to simply make brief small talk and walk away means I ****ed up.
On an unrelated note, the wedding was held in a private residence currently occupied by Neil Gaiman and Amanda Palmer (both of whom were present) and originally owned by John Kenneth Galbraith. So that was pretty ****ing rad. And my high school girlfriend, the bride, was ridiculously happy about everything, and I'm ridiculously happy for her. ****, I even cried a bit during the ceremony, which I don't do in public and have certainly never done at a wedding.
Anywho, I'd like to ask again, exactly what is so unbelievable about my story? I'm genuinely curious. I'm not terribly surprised, given that I've left out a lot of details (this is a story that's taken place over the course of 11 years), but I don't know what about it is coming across as false.Click here if you're having trouble sleeping.
"We confess our little faults to persuade people that we have no large ones." - François de La Rochefoucauld
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Well, at least you realise she's dangerous.DISCLAIMER: the author of the above written texts does not warrant or assume any legal liability or responsibility for any offence and insult; disrespect, arrogance and related forms of demeaning behaviour; discrimination based on race, gender, age, income class, body mass, living area, political voting-record, football fan-ship and musical preference; insensitivity towards material, emotional or spiritual distress; and attempted emotional or financial black-mailing, skirt-chasing or death-threats perceived by the reader of the said written texts.
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Originally posted by Lorizael View PostAnd remember, I'm a dysfunctional ****head lacking any will of my own, so I will do whatever Apolyton thinks is best for me.I make no bones about my moral support for [terrorist] organizations. - chegitz guevara
For those who aspire to live in a high cost, high tax, big government place, our nation and the world offers plenty of options. Vermont, Canada and Venezuela all offer you the opportunity to live in the socialist, big government paradise you long for. –Senator Rubio
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Err, what? This ex is someone I stopped dating 10 years ago. We've been great friends since then. I didn't go to the wedding of my second ex; I still haven't seen her since before I broke up with her.Click here if you're having trouble sleeping.
"We confess our little faults to persuade people that we have no large ones." - François de La Rochefoucauld
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Originally posted by Lorizael View PostOn an unrelated note, the wedding was held in a private residence currently occupied by Neil Gaiman and Amanda Palmer (both of whom were present) and originally owned by John Kenneth Galbraith. So that was pretty ****ing rad.Jon Miller: MikeH speaks the truth
Jon Miller: MikeH is a shockingly revolting dolt and a masturbatory urine-reeking sideshow freak whose word is as valuable as an aging cow paddy.
We've got both kinds
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Originally posted by MikeH View PostThat is ****ing cool!Click here if you're having trouble sleeping.
"We confess our little faults to persuade people that we have no large ones." - François de La Rochefoucauld
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Originally posted by MikeH View PostThat is ****ing cool!
I don't suppose he let slip any info about the upcoming HBO adaptation of American Gods?"My nation is the world, and my religion is to do good." --Thomas Paine
"The subject of onanism is inexhaustable." --Sigmund Freud
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Heh. If he did, he didn't to me. I merely gazed at him from afar. He's not a very good dancer.Click here if you're having trouble sleeping.
"We confess our little faults to persuade people that we have no large ones." - François de La Rochefoucauld
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Originally posted by Lorizael View PostIndeed. However, that bit of information allows an enterprising stalker such as Speer to figure out exactly who my high school girlfriend is.
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Good point. To my knowledge, no such pictures exist.Click here if you're having trouble sleeping.
"We confess our little faults to persuade people that we have no large ones." - François de La Rochefoucauld
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What? You deleted Nudie pictures? Oh, the humanity!“It is no use trying to 'see through' first principles. If you see through everything, then everything is transparent. But a wholly transparent world is an invisible world. To 'see through' all things is the same as not to see.”
― C.S. Lewis, The Abolition of Man
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