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On Wednesday I will be attending my high school girlfriend's wedding. That will mark 2/3 of my exes being married. Cue me whining about how I'm an immature child forever pretending to be an adult and how I'll never amount to anything, bla bla bla. Anywho, I'm actually really happy for her.
Also in attendance at this wedding will be the evil best friend who ruined my life. I haven't spoken to her in about a year, but today she sent me a message over ghcat.
EBF: Lorizael
me: hi.
EBF: Hello! I too will be at [the] wedding. Would you prefer I leave you be while we are in the same space?
me: my goal is to avoid awkwardness. we're both there to celebrate [high school gf]'s awesome thing, and nothing between us should detract from that. but i don't know if that comes from us avoiding each other, or trying to act normally, or what.
EBF: on my end of things, I would like to just treat you like a person and I don't expect that to create awkwardness or discomfort on my end. I would be stoked to have interaction with you. I would also gladly respect your wishes and your space and act as if you were not there
EBF: based on recent history, I would default to leaving you alone and, should we find ourselves in a group of people, limiting interaction with you. I would do this out of respect for how I think you might feel. So I suppose I will do that unless you expressly tell me you want some interaction beyond that or that you don't feel a need to set a limit
me: i suppose that's probably best.
EBF: okay, then I will do that. and should you feel differently at any time, please let me know
me: okay.
EBF: I feel very positive caring feelings for you and I wish you the very best
...
So, Apolyton, how should I behave at my friend's wedding? Should I shun the EBF, ignore her completely, try to be friendly, try to hook up with her after the reception, not go to the wedding at all, not be a helpless dickwad, show up roaring drunk wearing nothing from the waist down...?
And remember, I'm a dysfunctional ****head lacking any will of my own, so I will do whatever Apolyton thinks is best for me.
Also in attendance at this wedding will be the evil best friend who ruined my life. I haven't spoken to her in about a year, but today she sent me a message over ghcat.
EBF: Lorizael
me: hi.
EBF: Hello! I too will be at [the] wedding. Would you prefer I leave you be while we are in the same space?
me: my goal is to avoid awkwardness. we're both there to celebrate [high school gf]'s awesome thing, and nothing between us should detract from that. but i don't know if that comes from us avoiding each other, or trying to act normally, or what.
EBF: on my end of things, I would like to just treat you like a person and I don't expect that to create awkwardness or discomfort on my end. I would be stoked to have interaction with you. I would also gladly respect your wishes and your space and act as if you were not there
EBF: based on recent history, I would default to leaving you alone and, should we find ourselves in a group of people, limiting interaction with you. I would do this out of respect for how I think you might feel. So I suppose I will do that unless you expressly tell me you want some interaction beyond that or that you don't feel a need to set a limit
me: i suppose that's probably best.
EBF: okay, then I will do that. and should you feel differently at any time, please let me know
me: okay.
EBF: I feel very positive caring feelings for you and I wish you the very best
...
So, Apolyton, how should I behave at my friend's wedding? Should I shun the EBF, ignore her completely, try to be friendly, try to hook up with her after the reception, not go to the wedding at all, not be a helpless dickwad, show up roaring drunk wearing nothing from the waist down...?
And remember, I'm a dysfunctional ****head lacking any will of my own, so I will do whatever Apolyton thinks is best for me.
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