Women - Pretentious or Prudish?

[Ben Kenobi]

Awkward really isn't the feeling I was going for. I was being purposefully obtuse. I can be more specific if you wish. Personally, I'd much rather know before hand that my potential spouse was into something I find repulsive, like the aforementioned golden showers, etc before getting locked into a marriage. Cards like that need to be on the table. And the simple fact of the matter is, if the parties aren't experienced sexually, they aren't going to know the extent of their own perversions. And do you really want your spouse to be sexually unfulfilled in your marriage?

I think the subset of those who are into that, which I hope isn't what I think it is and those who are a virgin until marriage would be very, very small.

[Alinestra Covelia]

Originally posted by Lancer


My wife is barely 5 ft tall. Putting her on a pedestal just makes sense.

A (male) friend of mine is 6'5". A (female) friend of mine is barely 5' evens.

I keep trying to get them to hook up for an evening. I wonder how the old "soixante-neuf" would go for them.

[Lancer]

I'm 6', one foot difference is enough. Another 6" would be too much...in the beginning. If all of a sudden I grew 6" it wouldn't make a difference now.

You're asking alot for them to overcome that at the start.

[Colonâ„¢]

Goddamn you, the METRIC sytem, mmkay, yes, okay?

[Alinestra Covelia]

Hmm, so "barely 5' " would be about 150 cm.

6'5" would be 77 inches, or 38.5 cm + 154 cm = 192.5 cm

[Alinestra Covelia]

Originally posted by Lancer
You're asking alot for them to overcome that at the start.

Well I think that all depends on how much carrion he's carryin'... if you catch my drift.

[Lancer]

Your drift is perpetually evident.

[David Floyd]

Ben, I really think you are putting sex on a pedestal. It really isn't, when it comes down to it, what you are making it out to be, or as big of a deal as you think it is. It's a big deal biologically - we all have sex drives, which sort of indicates to me that sex is natural. That being the case, to intentionally turn down sex until marriage, and to read everything into it that you are reading into it, is unnatural.

[asleepathewheel]

Originally posted by Ben Kenobi


I think the subset of those who are into that, which I hope isn't what I think it is and those who are a virgin until marriage would be very, very small.

Well, it doesn't have to be anything that kinky, it could be something as pedestrian as the a nice blowjob. You may want it on occasion, she might say that it is something she wants to try after marriage, she might even believe that. But there is a possibility that the actual act grosses her out-pre-ejaculate etc-to the point where she won't perform the act on you. If its something you want but she severely dislikes-you've got sexual incompatibility.

And that's an example on the most basic level. It could be something more...interesting, like the accidental brush of the anus leads to unexpected sensations and desires that might not be a bilateral feeling, or the use of toys or props to aid a fantasy. Something unexpected might be a turn on, unexpected because your partner has never had an orgasm or physical sexual experience.

[Kidlicious]

dp

[asleepathewheel]

Originally posted by Kidicious
dp

Yes, that could be another example of something someone wouldn't know they were into if they hadn't experienced sp.

[Jon Miller]

Asleep, people discover new sexual turn ons 10, 20 + years after they start having sex. This won't change if your first time is with your wife or your first time is with a freind at age 12.

JM

[asleepathewheel]

Originally posted by Jon Miller
Asleep, people discover new sexual turn ons 10, 20 + years after they start having sex. This won't change if your first time is with your wife or your first time is with a freind at age 12.

JM

Obviously. You certainly are going to discover more things about yourself and mate if your starting point is at 0 versus a starting point at 5.

[Jon Miller]

I disagree. And I think the important thing is compromise and control over oneself. And someone who hasn't had sex until they are married is more likely going to be able to control themselves or sacrifice (ie compromise):
"You know, we don't have to do golden showers for me to get off, I guess I never need to try that."

Jon Miller

[LordShiva]

Originally posted by Alinestra Covelia
Hmm, so "barely 5' " would be about 150 cm.

6'5" would be 77 inches, or 38.5 cm + 154 cm = 192.5 cm

Not quite; it's *2.54. I'm 194cm/6'4".