Women - Pretentious or Prudish?

[Kidlicious]

I was married long enough to find out how much I don't know though.

[Fake Boris]

Women are definitely into casual sex.

[LordShiva]

[Imran Siddiqui]

Originally posted by Kidicious
I was married long enough to find out how much I don't know though.

Nice save.

[-Jrabbit]

Originally posted by Rufus T. Firefly

So sociology and anthropology -- and for that matter zoology -- are invalid disciplines?

I'm referring to Polytubby extrapolation, not academic study.

[Rufus T. Firefly]

Originally posted by -Jrabbit

I'm referring to Polytubby extrapolation, not academic study.

Oh, ok, fair enough.

[b etor]

Originally posted by LordShiva

[Cartimandua]

Each woman is so different there is no way you can throw them into a little category and claim that "they all like casual sex" or that they all want a certain thing and act a certain way.

Granted, some women are into casual sex, I however, am definitely not. I waited until I was married before I did anything more than kiss a man. Kissing, that's as far I ever went, despite the best efforts of some of the men I dated. I know that not many women would wait until marriage, but that was my prerogative and they have theirs.

Let me be clear though, I didn't wait because I was jealous or worried that people would call me a whore (as stated in the OP). I waited because I had respect for myself and my future husband. Staying celibate until marriage is a great way to avoid unwanted pregnancies, STD's and horrible memories.

[b etor]

my older sister would love you.
except she's waiting to kiss until her wedding day.

[Lancer]

Originally posted by Cartimandua
Each woman is so different there is no way you can throw them into a little category and claim that "they all like casual sex" or that they all want a certain thing and act a certain way.

Granted, some women are into casual sex, I however, am definitely not. I waited until I was married before I did anything more than kiss a man. Kissing, that's as far I ever went, despite the best efforts of some of the men I dated. I know that not many women would wait until marriage, but that was my prerogative and they have theirs.

Let me be clear though, I didn't wait because I was jealous or worried that people would call me a whore (as stated in the OP). I waited because I had respect for myself and my future husband. Staying celibate until marriage is a great way to avoid unwanted pregnancies, STD's and horrible memories.

Total class.

[Rufus T. Firefly]

Originally posted by Cartimandua
Staying celibate until marriage is a great way to avoid unwanted pregnancies, STD's and horrible memories.

It's also ensures that you don't have a frame of reference for your husband's sexual performance. I suspect this is why many men still want to marry virgins.

[Lancer]

sshhhh!

[Rufus T. Firefly]

[Cartimandua]

Thank you Lancer

B etor, Good for your sister. I think it's admirable to be careful and self-respecting. Not kissing before marriage would have probably killed me off, and might make it harder to convince a guy to get married, but I wish her luck in her efforts

Originally posted by Rufus T. Firefly
It's also ensures that you don't have a frame of reference for your husband's sexual performance. I suspect this is why many men still want to marry virgins.

I will be very honest, that is one of the reasons why I married a guy who was also a virgin, I didn't like the idea of being compared to someone else.

[David Floyd]

Fair enough, and thanks for the response, Cartimandua.

I guess my point would be, whatever the reasons for your point of view, there are also guys who share that same opinion - a couple of them posted on this thread. I respect that, naturally, I'm just not sure it's a common opinion held by either men or women, at least in the US.

Since it kind of came up, I think that a good sex life is a very important part of any relationship - marriage or otherwise. To me, that's just something so basic that without it, you can't really have a meaningful relationship. Not that it's all about sex, just that it's certainly PARTIALLY about it. That's my viewpoint, anyway - obviously two people who feel the same way can have a great relationship, but if one of the two doesn't truly share that viewpoint, then I think it's doomed to failure because of sex drive/human nature.