Bossy girlfriend

[Dis]

Originally posted by JohnT
People...

Sometimes, "love at first sight" does happen. It's not very common, but it is not unknown. It happened to my grandparents, who eloped after knowing each other for 3 months... had to cross State lines (from West Virginia to Ohio) to be able to legally wed - she was 16 at the time, he was 18. 73 years later their marriage ended with the passing of my grandfather.

Every couple, every person is different. What might not be right for you is not necessarily wrong for others... so pile on me as you wish, but it is y'all are are denying the existence of a real phenomenon.

FWIW, Laura and I moved in together after 4 years so it's not like we followed my g'parents example.

sounds like statuatory rape to me

you can't compare your grandparents to people today.

Clearly people are different in the younger generation. How else do you explain a 50% divorce rate compared to a very low divorce rate in your grandparents generation.

[Dis]

Re: Re: Re: Bossy girlfriend

Originally posted by Spec


And this is based on your ''experience''?

Your are still figuring out how to talk to a girl.




Spec.

fine then. I will not post in this thread anymore

*Diss runs off crying*

[JohnT]

Yes it was a different time, however my point still stands... people can and do fall in love that quickly. It might be a rash decision for many of them, but not all.

[Straybow]

The problem isn't falling completely in love in 3 months. The problem is "move in or I'm gone" at 3 months.

Better off without her.

[Spiffor]

Originally posted by JohnT
I'm sorry... there's been some confusion here.

The "God Forbid" line was directed at Sprayber and his generalization, not to the situation at hand. Obviously in the OP's case there was nothing deeper than a need to have somebody share the rent/bed, something I made clear in my follow-up post.

ok

[Zkribbler]

Re: Bossy girlfriend

Originally posted by Buddally
. . . I told her I am not ready (which I'm not). Well she decided to break up with me . . .

Understanding wench, wasn't she?

Some people have speculated that she wanted someone to help with the rent. If so, she'd have said so. No, she wanted a lap dog. "Yes dear. Yes dear. Yes dear."

[Az]

Originally posted by JohnT

Sometimes, "love at first sight" does happen. It's not very common, but it is not unknown. It happened to my grandparents, who eloped after knowing each other for 3 months... had to cross State lines (from West Virginia to Ohio) to be able to legally wed - she was 16 at the time, he was 18.

[quote]
Originally posted by Dissident
sounds like statuatory rape to me[/q]



TEH PWNAGE

[Ben Kenobi]

3 years would be a bit long if you ask me. A year seems about right to me

Considering that I'd be married by the time I moved in with her, 3 years sounds about right to me.

I mean, I've known some friends of mine now for 5.

[Flubber]

# months may ormay not be too quick to move in . .. it depends how you feel about the situation. But 3 months is definitely too quick for ultimatums . . . But I generally hate ultimatums and made my feelings known quite clearly to anyone I dated that if they told me to do something "or else", they better be prepared to go through with the "or else" since I don't respond well to threats

[Flubber]

Oh and I won't get into the contest of who knows more about " women". Long term relationship folks, people who date a lot . .. heck even the guy that has a lot of female friends . . . they all learn a lot but they learn different things about different women. Does it help when interacting with women generally in the future?? Absolutely but doesn't change the fact that IMHO we all know squat about " women".

I'm a married guy that dated a lot so I have seen things from both those viewpoints. But despite success in my interactions, I would never claim to "understand" women as a group. Too many variables . .. .

[Ted Striker]

Word

[Imran Siddiqui]

The "God Forbid" line was directed at Sprayber and his generalization, not to the situation at hand.

They are more similar than you think. Spray is right in that the woman demanding a committment this early in the relationship is silly. It's been only 3 months and if it is love at first sight, what is wrong with letting it develop before asking for a committment.

[Provost Harrison]

[QUOTE] Originally posted by Azazel

Originally posted by Dissident
sounds like statuatory rape to me[/q]



TEH PWNAGE

Funny to think JohnT is the ultimate result of kiddyfiddling

[Dracon II]

living with your girlfriend is no big deal really.... it's actually quite nice. Just make sure your personalities don't clash BEFORE you do it... maybe have a test run of it.

[Dinner]

I thought we all decided that chick was psycho weeks ago.