Bossy girlfriend

[Dis]

Originally posted by MikeH
Basically my view on this is as follows.

Are women emotional and irrational? - yes.

Are men? - yes.

Any man that thinks he isn't emotional and irrational doesn't know himself very well.

I live my life like a Vulcan. Including having sex only once every 7 years. I live by rule of logic.

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Originally posted by JohnT


Yeah, God forbid she likes you. A LOT.

you are kidding right. 3 months? That's hardly enough time to get to know someone. She could be a serial killer.

[JohnT]

The voice of experience and desire so hath spoken...

[Imran Siddiqui]

Can I also join the pile on JohnT for making the stupid statement?

Asking to move in after 3 months is nothing to jump at. It really isn't a good sign when she sets her foot down at 3 months and says move in with me or I'm gone.

[Ben Kenobi]

3 months?

I have a hard time wrapping my head around 3 years!

[Urban Ranger]

Originally posted by Ben Kenobi
3 months?

I have a hard time wrapping my head around 3 years!

That's a personal problem

[Sprayber]

Originally posted by Ben Kenobi
3 months?

I have a hard time wrapping my head around 3 years!

3 years would be a bit long if you ask me. A year seems about right to me

[Sikander]

Originally posted by Imran Siddiqui
Can I also join the pile on JohnT for making the stupid statement?

Asking to move in after 3 months is nothing to jump at. It really isn't a good sign when she sets her foot down at 3 months and says move in with me or I'm gone.

Why not, I'm going to also. John T may have had a good experience instantly attaching himself to his woman, but most people won't. This woman is obviously unstable. Her desire to move in so quickly isn't a deal breaker, but why if she is so desperately in love does she break up because he isn't willing to live with her? It's the same sort of "logic" arc that ends with "if you don't love me as much as I love you I'll kill you".

[Sikander]

Originally posted by Ned
Barinthus, you might really try putting yourself in a woman's shoes sometimes.

Are you kidding? They are usually too small, uncomfortable, cheaply made and expensive.

[julykisses]

I think 3 months is definately too soon to move in together. With her getting so upset because you wouldnt it leaves me to believe that she had other reasons for wanting you there besides just being in love. Could be that she is insecure and thinks that if you live with her your more hers? Or maybe it was a financial thing that was making her rush it. Doesnt really matter because she obviously wasnt the right person for you or else she wouldnt have broken up with you over this.

[JohnT]

People...

Sometimes, "love at first sight" does happen. It's not very common, but it is not unknown. It happened to my grandparents, who eloped after knowing each other for 3 months... had to cross State lines (from West Virginia to Ohio) to be able to legally wed - she was 16 at the time, he was 18. 73 years later their marriage ended with the passing of my grandfather.

Every couple, every person is different. What might not be right for you is not necessarily wrong for others... so pile on me as you wish, but it is y'all are are denying the existence of a real phenomenon.

FWIW, Laura and I moved in together after 4 years so it's not like we followed my g'parents example.

[Spiffor]

Originally posted by JohnT
Yeah, God forbid she likes you. A LOT.

She obviously likes him so much that she left him over that issue. Or at least, she's blackmailing him.

Yep, looks like the kind of no-problem romance I'd advise to experience

[JohnT]

I'm sorry... there's been some confusion here.

The "God Forbid" line was directed at Sprayber and his generalization, not to the situation at hand. Obviously in the OP's case there was nothing deeper than a need to have somebody share the rent/bed, something I made clear in my follow-up post.

[Spec]

Re: Re: Bossy girlfriend

Originally posted by Dissident
You need to know someone at least a year before moving in imho.

And this is based on your ''experience''?

Your are still figuring out how to talk to a girl.




Spec.

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Originally posted by JohnT
The voice of experience and desire so hath spoken...

then you better restrict this thread to the other posters who aren't married.

So you know everything about women because you are married? I call bull****.