"I don't know if I'm in love with you any more..."

[Tiamat]

Originally posted by Dr Strangelove


Oh, you mean nurses.

As one who is about to become a nurse let me just say.........HEY!!!

[Ben Kenobi]

Oh, and Ben--don't expect me to type that phrase

Ever

Again.

Take care of yourself.

There are ways you can indulge yourself without booze or cheap woman, but I don't really know your tastes.

Since you have to go to Columbus to do your residency, find something that's appealing, but most of all, takes your mind off everything else. Keep for yourself that time, and don't let anyone take that time away, even if they mean well.

It helps if you can cut loose for awhile.

[East Street Trader]

It is sad to lose someone you love and hard to come to terms with rejection. You seem to be making progress in coming to terms with the thing and I hope that process continues. Tears help a bit and someone sympathetic to tell your troubles to also.

While you get yourselves separated it may be worth remembering that she has gone through quite a lengthy period getting to where she is. Because when she first started thinking about splitting up she will have suppressed the thought and felt guilty about entertaining it. Whereas you now have some emotional catching up to do.

I'm not sure if you are carrying on with the counselling but if so, and if the purpose turned out to be to help her to explain to you that she has made up her mind, then that might be a useful thing. Although in that case if you find you have accepted her decision and tell her so I suppose the counselling sessions might then be un-necessary. Which would save a bit of pain.

I was very happy during the 11 years I lived with my wife but she is a terrifically hard woman to please and one thing which helped me quite a bit when we split up was the thought that at least I wouldn't have to try to do that any more. And the subsequent years have indeed been very self indulgent and comfortable ones. I get to please myself pretty much 24 hours a day. If I had my druthers I would live with a partner and give up some of that freedom. But meanwhile the freedom is a thoroughly worthwhile consolation prize.

Your new job is going to take you out of yourself soon enough. Which will help you get over the first flush of sadness at what has happened. Regret stays but before too long the new life you make and the memory of all that was good about the years you spent with your partner will reconcile you to what has happened.

[Dis]

sometimes I feel lucky no woman on this planet will even go out with me.

Is the yes song correct?

owner of a lonely heart is better than owner of a broken heart?

[Urban Ranger]

Originally posted by East Street Trader
While you get yourselves separated it may be worth remembering that she has gone through quite a lengthy period getting to where she is. Because when she first started thinking about splitting up she will have suppressed the thought and felt guilty about entertaining it. Whereas you now have some emotional catching up to do.

I feel that, if she could be more honest and open with how she felt at the time, there's a good possibility that they could have avoided this outcome.

You're right though, many women tend to keep these sorts of emotions inside until there's no turning back. Only her body language betrays her during the early stages.

[Ted Striker]

Guynemer is going to be okay.

He is a WARRIOR

[Sikander]

Sorry Guy.

[Sikander]

Originally posted by Spiffor

I can't be emphatic enough to actually feel what Guynemer really feels.

Try typing in all caps, using a lot of emoticons and exclamation points, and short even abrupt sentences that come right to the point.

[Snowflake]

Originally posted by Dissident
sometimes I feel lucky no woman on this planet will even go out with me.

Is the yes song correct?

owner of a lonely heart is better than owner of a broken heart?

A lonely heart can be a kind and rich heart. And a broken heart can be painful forever. But my heart had been broken, and I've never regreted.

[Japher]

Try typing in all caps, using a lot of emoticons and exclamation points, and short even abrupt sentences that come right to the point

or just type all in italics

[DeathByTheSword]

I don't know if I'm in love with you any more...

heard the exact same thing yesterday on our one year anniversary thingy...(not married but my first great love)

relationsships can hurt...damn...but good luck to you...

[Barinthus]

Bah, I sometimes wonder is that all we do - hurting each other?

Agape is very difficult to achieve but once achieved it's awesome. Or that's what I've heard

[Sirotnikov]

Hey Man.

I was there. Not that I had a wedding planned, but my ex told me that phrase a week before our year together, having spent 4 hours choosing jewelry for her, which were lying in my pocket with the receipt as she said those words.


THen she sort of took it back and wanted to think about it for a while, but wouldn't explain to me what was wrong all that well.

Then she wanted to get back, but I felt I can't handle it anymore. Plus she had a short incognito with someone. It didn't bother me, but it started to when I honestly confronted myself on whether I want to go back in that relationship.

It was the 3rd time we had such a situation, and was the most serious one. For me it was 3 strikes and you're out. Plus I am sure that our relationship would have went downhill.


I was shatterred by this for the first period. Very. It took me by surprise. I began having my doubts some weeks before that, because she seemed distant, but then, in the last week she was ok and really excited, and I thought to myself "**** man, you're just paranoid. drop that defensive bull**** and give yourself in". I was in alright - for a bad punch.


I recovered from it having good friends and chatting with new girls (never seriously enough though, wasn't in the condition).

It happenned over half a year ago, but honestly, I feel that I only recently really accepted.

I miss our good times, but I'm aware that these couldn't come back, so I think I made a wise choise.

We're still trying to remain friends, though it's difficult. I felt uncomfortable when I began chatting up women and dated some girl. I felt somehow persued or evil eyed.

Now she dates another and sleeps with him. I felt wierd at first, and it was wierd seeing her with someone else, but I got used to it. He's a nice guy - could have even been my friend had I met him earlier.

So now I await the continuation of my service (moving to permanent unit) where I could find new girls.


Obviously nothing of this compares to your pain, having been together for 4 years and almost married. But I know how you feel and how much your heart bleeds and feels crushed.

You should confront her, and confront yourself and be honest - each of you should decide is he truely comitted to wanting this to work, and does he think it has a chance.

If you think her health problems may interfere with her good judgement, help her fix that, and be patient. But do be sure you want to spend time on it.

Much of the pain I felt went on exactly this - deciding I can't go on and sticking to it.