Please don't take this too seriously.

[Lorizael]

That's why I've been sending testicle pics. Trying to stand out from the crowd.

[Elok]

Think that's old hat by now. Try drawing a funny face on it, shaving the pubes into a little beard and stuff. Ladies appreciate a little extra effort.

[self biased]

I've met a few dames off okc. Banged most of them. Actually dated a few of them. Would recommend.

[Lorizael]

Man, high school was dense. It's hard to believe how much happened during that span of my life. And all I've got are select online conversations from the time. Much of it hints at stuff I have almost no recollection of. There was so much happening all at once. And I was not equipped to handle all of it. Not at all.

[pchang]

Man, high school was dense. It's hard to believe how much happened during that span of my life. And all I've got are select online conversations from the time. Much of it hints at stuff I have almost no recollection of. There was so much happening all at once. And I was not equipped to handle all of it. Not at all.

The part that amazes me is that you actually keep all that stuff. Several dead machines (or hard drives) later and all that stuff would be gone. Or, I would just hit "delete".

[Lorizael]

Bytes are cheap. It's cost me essentially nothing to keep all those old logs (discounting the tremendous emotional strain). In fact, I keep everything from my old computer whenever I get a new computer, and every computer I've owned has had an order of magnitude more storage space than the previous one.

[Aeson]

Delete it all. Start fresh.

[rah]

Yeah really. At my age I remember very little from high school (thank god. But the most important thing is when I look back, all the crap I went through in HS is meaningless today.
A good lesson to learn.

[Lorizael]

Once, during my senior year, my high school girlfriend and I were arguing outside of class and I said something ridiculously stupid to her. She was so upset by what I said that she began crying and screaming hysterically. This did not go unnoticed by the rest of the school population. I was mortified, but I pretty much deserved it.

My high school girlfriend was way less stable than I was. She had a ****ed up family life and a lot of insecurity and she knew how to turn the crazy on to get what she wanted.

I went to her wedding this past January. She's a music teacher, in two bands, happy, successful, and married to a wife she loves very deeply (who--funny story--she only knows because of me).

But I'm still that kid who brought her so much pain that day in our senior year. It's very heard to let go of the past.

[rah]

She's obviously gotten past it, so there's no reason for you to hang on to it.

[Bereta_Eder]

Do you have this expression: "eyes not seen, easily forgotten"?
Dwelving on the past, escapism, all of that are good things, to a degree, sometimes they help us cope with our true, in front of our eyes reality, (by diverting our eyes from looking at it directly).

But it is a diversion that could become counterproductive if there is no balancing grasp in our everyday reality.
By looking back (at photos, texts whatever) you basically see a snapshot of who you were then. Maybe they don't have a tangible relevance for today. (except if you keep coming back again and again on a specific recouring theme)

[Lorizael]

Do you have this expression: "eyes not seen, easily forgotten"?

Sounds like, "Out of sight, out of mind."

By looking back (at photos, texts whatever) you basically see a snapshot of who you were then. Maybe they don't have a tangible relevance for today. (except if you keep coming back again and again on a specific recouring theme)

Yeah, this is one of the things the therapist has tried to impress upon me, that there are superficial similarities between who I am now and who I was then, but there are clear, objective differences that show I'm a different person now.

[pchang]

Bytes are cheap. It's cost me essentially nothing to keep all those old logs (discounting the tremendous emotional strain). In fact, I keep everything from my old computer whenever I get a new computer, and every computer I've owned has had an order of magnitude more storage space than the previous one.

It's not the cost. It's the effort required.

[rah]

So when I got a new computer, I was getting ready to chuck the old one and my wife goes, "you can't do that, there's a lot of things on there that I need".
So I left it side by side to my new one and set it up for remote connect so it could be accessed. Time passes and she never uses the remote connect.
So When I got a newer computer, I was getting ready to chuck the old one and the one before that, but again my wife goes. "you can't do that, there's a lot of things on there that I need".
So instead of pointing out that she NEVER went back to the previous one I said yes dear. (There is a reason we've been married over 25 years.

But this time I cheated and bought a few external hard drive cases and removed the hard drives and now have them USB attached FOR THE WIFE NOT TO USE ANYTIME IN THE NEAR OR FAR FUTURE.
But at least they take up a lot less space. The next time I'm just going to lay the old drive on my desk and tell the wife that I can remote into it.

[pchang]

So when I got a new computer, I was getting ready to chuck the old one and my wife goes, "you can't do that, there's a lot of things on there that I need".
So I left it side by side to my new one and set it up for remote connect so it could be accessed. Time passes and she never uses the remote connect.
So When I got a newer computer, I was getting ready to chuck the old one and the one before that, but again my wife goes. "you can't do that, there's a lot of things on there that I need".
So instead of pointing out that she NEVER went back to the previous one I said yes dear. (There is a reason we've been married over 25 years.

But this time I cheated and bought a few external hard drive cases and removed the hard drives and now have them USB attached FOR THE WIFE NOT TO USE ANYTIME IN THE NEAR OR FAR FUTURE.
But at least they take up a lot less space. The next time I'm just going to lay the old drive on my desk and tell the wife that I can remote into it.

I tell the wife we need to donate the old computers to the local school or library. This usually gets her to do something or let them go.