Please don't take this too seriously.

[Jon Miller]

Is the debt to friends and family or to banks? If it is too banks, then your parents might be willing to provide minimum payments meaning that you just would need a situation where you could make enough to live. If it is to friends and family, then they would probably be glad to wait a few months for you to try something.

Except it is usually costly, I would suggest one of the volunteer organisations. Once you recognise that the activities are for the volunteers and not for the people where the volunteers are 'helping', you recognise that it can be a valuable tool of life change (for the volunteers). The situations I know of are mostly religious, but there non-religious volunteer organisations. And here the time scale is purposefully limited.

Alternately, there are jobs on the other side of the US, you could apply for those?

JM

[The Mad Monk]

What kind of debt?

[Lorizael]

Debt to friends, school loans, car loan, and credit card debt. My parents wouldn't be able to help me pay off any debt, but there's always room in the house.

[Jon Miller]

School loans and friends should be possible to delay for some months. I don't know how high your car loan and CC debt is. If it is higher than a years salary (gross), I would suggest talking to someone. It is likely you are paying a high interest rate, this would be to take into account the chance that you can't pay. You should look carefully and be sure that you can pay.

JM

[The Mad Monk]

Maintain your auto loan, everything else is negotiable.

In my own experience, utilities are pretty flexible.

[Sava]

I'm not sure if the laws vary by state, but... student loans can be "forgiven" if you are disabled

so... it might be in your best interest to "get the help you need"



just sayin'

[Lorizael]

My car loan will be paid off by October, my credit card debt shortly thereafter. The school loan is the biggest chunk, followed by the debt to my friend. My friend is ridiculously nice in a very annoying way, such that if I didn't remind him that I owe him thousands of dollars, he'd be likely to (literally) forget the debt existed.

[The Mad Monk]

Sounds like you're starting to get ahead of the game then. That's good.

[pchang]

If I were greedy, I'd ask you to introduce me to your friend.

[Lorizael]

You're not in his monkey sphere.

[Lorizael]

I don't know if it's a major breakthrough or not. My therapist helped show how my obsession thing fits in with my other issues and why, because of that, it's not something I should be afraid of. This isn't an immediate fix, of course. It's just a new way for me to think about the issue, which I can make the dominant way with prolonged effort.

[Sava]

[Lorizael]

Well, I think part of the problem is that I couldn't tell the difference between what I'm doing and what a predator is doing. They are superficially similar, but that's it. My therapist explained that my behavior is kind of a fledgling attempt to fulfill unmet needs (companionship), and the fact that I do desire companionship and I don't desire to (and am repulsed by the thought of) hurting people exposes that superficiality. If I had no desire for companionship, but I were still engaging in this kind of behavior, then I'd have reason to worry, my therapist said.

[N35t0r]

Alby always manages to entertain

His reaction was really really lol. It's like he's never ever been in contact with Lori before. Hell, even I knew it wasn't going to go in that direction (disembodied brain! Called it first! ), and I've got the social skills of a badly trained ferret.

[Lorizael]

I ain't normal. If I were normal, I'd have a healthy response to unmet needs such as, I dunno, asking girls out on dates.