Please don't take this too seriously.

[ricketyclik]

...We were quite happy together. There were problems, but they weren't overwhelming. We only broke up because she wants children and I don't. How the **** am I supposed to find closure there? We were good together. We made each other happy. We were building a life together. It was ****ing working. And then it just stopped. What the **** is that? What the bloody ****? How do I stop being in love with someone when they're still the person I was in love with? When nothing's changed? Blarggggg.

Get back together with her now and procreate

[ricketyclik]

I'm not joking. I know of so many men who've regretted doing what you've done. Note: I'm talking about men who were genuinely in love with the women concerned.

[Lorizael]

It's too late. She has a new boyfriend, for one. And two, even if she didn't, she wouldn't take me back. She doesn't want to risk going through that emotional turmoil again. And of course, I still can't say definitively that I want children, so she's not even wrong to be afraid of that.

I haven't spoken to her in two and a half months. Aren't I supposed to be better now?

[Bereta_Eder]

Not yet

[ricketyclik]

2 and a half months is nothing.

A good friend of mine's mother left his "father" because he didn't want to have kids. She left him, took up with another guy, had a kid, left the guy. Original lover realised his mistake and they got back together. My friend loves his "dad" and vice versa, but wouldn't it have been better if he was really his dad in every sense?

Let me underline: never have a kid with a woman who you aren't absolutely sure about. But if you're sure about the woman, uncertainty about parenting is a bad reason to split. How old are you? If you're 30+ and still uncertain, you're never going to be. Just go for it. We were born for it!

[Lorizael]

We broke up a little over a year ago. I haven't spoken to her in two months because continuing to talk to her was becoming too painful. She's moved on. She misses having me as a friend, but that's all.

[ricketyclik]

Oh well. Plenty of fish in the ocean, as they say.

[Lorizael]

[rah]

We all have some regrets in life. As you've already stated, there's nothing you can do about it, so focusing on it is a waste of time and emotions.
Keep trying and EVENTUALLY something will replace it. But I guarantee it will happen more easily if you're not stewing in the past. Women can sense it.

[Lorizael]

What I regret most is how much of my life I've wasted regretting things.

[dannubis]

Self relativation

[rah]

Well that is certainly something you can do about as you move forward.
And believe it or not, based on what I've seen in this thread, I really think you want to.
You're the only one that can hold you back.

[ricketyclik]

Self relativation

"Relativation"?

[ricketyclik]

Rah

[dannubis]

"Relativation"?

indubitably