Sex cause your just 'friends'. Is it right?

[DanS]

"I think there is a word for this."

Pocket *****.

[Serb]

Originally posted by Caligastia


No. Is this so strange?

Yes, it's very strange.

You have a strange concept of morality.

Morality? What the f*ck is it? If I have your concept I'll probably was married long ago, but I'm not. (And btw, I don't regret about this)

[Imran Siddiqui]

Cheating scum he is. Just friends, my ass! He just wanted to cheat and get away with it. Your lady friend shouldn't put up with it and tell him to get lost.

[Caligastia]

Originally posted by Serb
Morality? What the f*ck is it?

If you and your wife/girlfriend have an understanding that your relationship is monogamous, and you go and sleep with another woman, you are a liar and a cheat.

[Ned]

Originally posted by Imran Siddiqui
Cheating scum he is. Just friends, my ass! He just wanted to cheat and get away with it. Your lady friend shouldn't put up with it and tell him to get lost.

I agree. It is also obvious that this "next door neighbor" has a thing for your friend. She may want him all to herself.

[Bereta_Eder]

So I can say: hey darling don't you mind, I'm screwing her because she's my friend

Excellent

So only sex with strangers is forbidden?

[The Emperor Fabulous]

hmm...I guess it all depends. I mean, you have fun when you're younger, you play together. When you grow up, to have fun, why can't you play in a more adult way?

However, this guy was cheating. I don't agree with that.

[Boris Godunov]

Paitkis: Er...I should certainly hope not!

[Bereta_Eder]

obviously Boris obviously

[Kepler]

The example given is pure, unvarnished cheating, and it's stupid and mean.

What would be fine is if nobody involved thought they were in a committed relationship and everybody knew all the permutations. You must always be honest with your partner (and expect the same honesty) because multiple partners increases the risk of STDs, weird emotional side effects, etc.

For men, 9 out of 10 girls won't accept sharing since they are wired for an entirely different concept of sexual intimacy. Men just have to deal with it: if you really want somebody honestly polyamorous, you'll eventually find them out there (generally older and less attractive, but you can't have everything and you should put honesty first).

Women under 30 and men under 35, unless they have some form of deep religious commitment that has short-circuited their libidos and their imaginations, just shouldn't be in exclusive relationships. The guys naturally want to stray and the girls generally want their men for the wrong reasons (various forms of economic or emotional parasitism).

Stay loose until you're 30; stay honest with everybody. If you follow those guidelines then those who would deny you your honest promiscuity should be ignored as the usual sex-haters and -fearers.

[Lung]

A good example of emotional side effects was a well-publcised murder in South Australia a few years back.

A woman was interested in the idea of seeing her husband have sex with her best friend, and so asked him. He was against the idea, but she kept pestering him for months to do so. Eventually he agreed, and so it was arranged. Anyway, when he ultimately did so with her best friend in her presence, the wife was overcome by jealous rage - an unintended emotional side effect! She then took to beating up her husbandat every opportunity. Apparently, the husband had been treated in hospital more than once for wounds inflicted by his wife. The story ended tragically with the husband killing the wife after years of physical abuse

I can only presume that this is what happened as the husband was ulimately exonerated. I guess the lesson here is that even among consenting partners it may not ultimatley be harmless

[Zylka]

Originally posted by faded glory

Damn whats that word for this? It starts with a P I think. I hate brainlock.

Pfantastik Phriend Phucking

[Sprayber]

there is nothing wrong with sex because your friends. But If one participent is committed to another relationship then the only result will be pain for one or all.

We all look and we all wonder what it would be like to do certain things. But in the end it comes down to controlling your desires and tempering them with what the feelings you have with another person. There are no accidents when it comes to cheating. It's a lack of control and its based in selfishnes. And I despise people that can't control themselves. I'm not trying to claim a moral high ground. I just speak from experience.


as a sidenote, I used to sneer at those that condoned cheating of their SO's. But experience has thought me that for the most part, love has no logic and does not depend upon common sense. For those that seek logic, do not go looking for it in love.

[Bereta_Eder]

Well said Spray.

I have nothing to add. I agree with you on all of that.

[David Floyd]

My rather unpopular view is that it's a bad idea to have sex with someone you aren't in love with and don't see yourself possibly ending up with.

Yes, that means I would turn down a one night stand with the hottest girl at my university.

*prepares to be flamed*