Ohio governor signs bill making state 38th to ban gay marriage

[Ben Kenobi]

Not only does it ignore the fact that homosexuality is a orientation,

Fact, eh? Can you tell me whether or not people are born gay, or do they learn the behavior?

it also indicates you APPROVE of people taking advantage of the marraige laws in order to take benifits from the state without perhaps the most IMPORTANT quality for a marraige: love.

Desire = love in the sexual sense.

[mindseye]

Originally posted by yavoon

state them.

state why gay ppl want the state to recognize their marriage

if u keep this up much longer I will suspect its a smoke screen for an actual lack of an answer

also realize this was not some super anti gay marriage trap I'm leading u all down. it was an honest question that so far no1 has had the courtesy or ability to answer.

Jeez Yavoon, we weren't trying to be discourteous, it's more the case that we simply couldn't believe that you could be a member of our society and profess not to know why straight people wish to marry. Why, it's one of the central themes of all of our arts.

You don't know why your father married your mother?

You don't know why you want to get married?

If you really, truly don't know, I will help you out: the list begins with something like "they want to form a recognized life-commitment based on love".

[Ben Kenobi]

mindseye:

But you expect gays to be satisfied?

Everyone wants the law to adapt to them, so of course they will not be satisfied.

As you just pointed out, the only other choice they have is to "opt out" of marriage.

If I choose to opt out of a health plan I don't recieve the benefits. Same deal here. I choose not to enter marriage, why should I recieve the same benefits as those who do?

[yavoon]

Originally posted by mindseye


Jeez Yavoon, we weren't trying to be discourteous, it's more the case that we simply couldn't believe that you could be a member of our society and profess not to know why straight people wish to marry. Why, it's one of the central themes of all of our arts.

You don't know why your father married your mother?

You don't know why you want to get married?

If you really, truly don't know, I will help you out: the list begins with something like "they want to form a recognized life-commitment based on love".

none of that requires gov't. tho thank u for keeping up w/ the thread. it helps me in not having to say the same thing 5 times.....

[Drake Tungsten]

You don't know why your father married your mother?

I don't think gay people want to get married because one of them knocked the other up...

[The Emperor Fabulous]

Yavoon: it is obvious through debating with you that any answer any of us give won't satisfy you. First, you said that you wanted to know why gays wanted marraige. We all said the same reason you do. And you said specifically why. Then you state that it doesn't require the government. That wasn't in your first question. I answered that with the less humanistic, more superficial facts, and that didn't satisfy you either. Therefore, it is pointless to argue with you.

Voting and Marraige = State institutions

Voting Benefits (voicable opinion to your senator/governor; ability to take part in your city's decisions) = right guarenteed by the state to those who can vote
Marraige Benefits (health insurance, inheritance) = right guarenteed by the state to those who can marry

When you don't allow someone to vote or get married, you deny them the ability to receive certain rights.

Now, tell me more for me to explain?

[Ben Kenobi]

Look at that old soft shoe... Look at 'em dance.

the list begins

But it does not end there, eh?

[The Emperor Fabulous]

Originally posted by Ben Kenobi
Desire = love in the sexual sense.

So your purpose for banning gays from marraige is you can't imagine allowing a penis entering an anus?

Because of COURSE that's ALL that gay people want from each other

[mindseye]

Originally posted by Ben Kenobi
Fact, eh? Can you tell me whether or not people are born gay, or do they learn the behavior?

Yes, I can tell you!

Did you ever ask a gay person that question? I have. Hundreds of times. And I've read articles and surveys with the answers of thousands more. And the answer is always the same.

They didn't choose it. They didn't learn it. They were it.

True for me as well.

Couple the answers of virtually 100% of gays with the readily observable fact that the animal world (especially the mammalian world) is rife with homosexuality - including examples of child-rearing by same-sex couples - and its hard to believe that it is anything other than a natural condition one is born into.

[yavoon]

Originally posted by The Emperor Fabulous
Yavoon: it is obvious through debating with you that any answer any of us give won't satisfy you. Therefore, it is pointless to argue with you.

Voting and Marraige = State institutions

Voting Benefits (voicable opinion to your senator/governor; ability to take part in your city's decisions) = right guarenteed by the state to those who can vote
Marraige Benefits (health insurance, inheritance) = right guarenteed by the state to those who can marry

When you don't allow someone to vote or get married, you deny them the ability to receive certain rights.

Now, tell me more for me to explain?

what an absurd attempt by you. u have yet to give me an answer. "wont satisfy me" haha.

again u assert to me that voting rights and marriage rights are the same thing. sorry, it just doesn't float my boat. I don't consider it a "right to marry." marriage is a state provided institution that is pragmatic and traditional in origin. it is not an inalienable right. u can reply to this w/ another infantile flame and another comparison of an analogy I don't find pertinent or credible.

or u can just answer the question, u keep acting like it is a simple question but all ur posts are multi part posts including flaming and other random crap.


just cuz I have some time lets back up and take apart the utter stupidity of ur first paragraph cuz its annoying me. first u say u answered the question "same as straight ppl." then u sed that my answer to why I wanted to get married was the valid reason why straight ppl wanted to get married, BUT MY REASON DOESN'T REQUIRE THE GOVERNMENT. and ur other reason? that marriage is a right akin to voting? and thats why gay ppl want to marry? ....

[Ned]

Are gays really "surprised" by the reaction they got to the Hawaii decision in the mid-90's?

[Ben Kenobi]

mindseye:

Did you ever ask a gay person that question?

Yes.

They didn't choose it. They didn't learn it. They were it.

But what is it? The desire, or the action? Finally, can you say that because you desire peppermint ice cream that you are ice cream? Desire does not equate with identity. You are more than who you sleep with.

and its hard to believe that it is anything other than a natural condition one is born into.

Just like alcoholism, to which I have made the analogy many times. Also, one could say that a good definition of society is the collective denial of our natural impulses in order to live with one another.

[mindseye]

Originally posted by Ben Kenobi
Everyone wants the law to adapt to them, so of course they will not be satisfied.

Would you be satisfied if the government arbitrarily picked you out and said you could not get married? Perhaps mariage does not mean very much to you, but it sure does to me. All of my siblings are married, but the government says that one person in my family can't be.

You can bet I'm not satisfied. I think marriage is a basic human right, far more important than voting. Most married people I know think of their wedding day as one of - if not the - single most important day in their life.

If I choose to opt out of a health plan I don't recieve the benefits. Same deal here. I choose not to enter marriage, why should I recieve the same benefits as those who do?

I'm not following your analogy. Who is asking to opt out of marriage? "If I chose not to enter marriage"? But gay are asking to enter it! No one is asking that unmarried people have the same benefits as married couples.

A better analogy would be that most employees were allowed to opt into the company health plan, but 5% of employees weren't, based on some arbitrary, irrelevant reason. Those employees don't have the same choice as the majority, and are being arbitrarily denied an opportunity to participate in the health plan.

Now, those employees are asking why, and no one can give them a good reason.

Catchin' my drift?

[Ben Kenobi]

So your purpose for banning gays from marraige is you can't imagine allowing a penis entering an anus?

Outward impressions often conceal inward realities. I find it odd that you would presume to know what I can or cannot imagine.

[MichaeltheGreat]

Originally posted by yavoon


if its so rhetoric to u why do we spend 5 posts going back and forth. giving two smartass question replies, when a simple answer would have sufficed. I really don't understand.

Since you assumed by default that gays have different motivations, I challenged you on that assumption. I'll try to keep things simpler in the future.

I want to know why gay ppl want the state recognition of marriage. but u dont answer me. is this how u treat all ppl who ask honest questions? w/ venom and uninspiring attempts at wit?

Depends on the nature of the question. Why do you assume that gays want the legal ability to marry each other for any different reason than non-gays might want the legal ability to marry each other. Why assume that being gay somehow causes a whole different set of motivations?