hell, apparently, has frozen over.

[connorkimbro]

am i hoping there might be a chance? yes. is that what i really want? not so sure at the moment. doubt is draining that infection more than logic could.

I cann't really do much more than just nod my head and think "yes i feel that way too" . . . because i don't know what to do exactly either.

one different facet of my case is that SHE has initiated the increase in our communicating again, not myself.

[Ted Striker]

Originally posted by self biased
TCO?

GP

[connorkimbro]

Having said this, if you 2 try and go out and "save" these girls I will personally track down both of you and beat you senseless.

Oh, it's his girl that need's "saving" not mine. My girl is not a monster. she's actually shaped up into quite the model christian again, after all these years.

i'm not sure which is worse though, self biased's monster, or my model christian.

[self biased]

there's more to the story... we have a mutual aquaintence, and i noticed the two talking on a bbs... so... i imed dolly, and played coy, asking what was going on between her and amanda, it seemed either conspiritorial, or, frostily polite. it was the latter. drama had ensued... and that's all that i'll say... it's not really my story to tell.

but dolly still talks to amanda. so... she played go-between/chaperone... and facilitated the conversation.

[Ted Striker]

connor,

*sigh*

no offense but talk about pedestals

sorry son but she cheated on you when you needed to count on her the most

find a girl that doesn't have a habit a having sex with other guys while she's going out with you

[self biased]

:gives ted a puzzled look:

[connorkimbro]

*sigh*

no offense but talk about pedestals

sorry son but she cheated on you when you needed to count on her the most

find a girl that doesn't have a habit a having sex with other guys while she's going out with you

Rationally, I know that you're absolutely right.

I only wish it was the rational side of my brain that was in control of this one. . .

[self biased]

ted, and you would think i wouldn't love her after all that... and yet i do... i think.... like i said: i'm unsure of what i want at this particular moment.

[Ted Striker]

true

[connorkimbro]

didn't mean to thrust my own story into your thread, self, sorry. but they are very similar . . . thats why i brought it up.

[self biased]

damn connor... we're in practically the same boat.

[Az]

she was 15 at the time the pic was taken. she got a whole lot better looking since, great body, too. broke my ****ing heart, during all highschool, and then some.

I am of course well over it now, and she's quite the *****, too, so nevermind.

[self biased]

and no problem, connor. it's by the sharing of experiences that we diversify our life. those of us with a problem in common might find strength in finding a solution together.

[Ted Striker]

word

[East Street Trader]

Married couples often have a second (or third, fourth or fifth) try at making their relationship work. If you guys think your are still drawn to your former girl friends now try the same case but after making a home together and maybe having children.

Sometimes the second try fares better but it always takes an effort. Whatever caused the initial estrangement sits between the two making stuff which otherwise might come very naturally more laborious.

So, as you gentlemen don't have much invested in these girls, I'd say don't bother - unless the prospects of finding someone else are really horribly low.

In which case stop thinking about the past and just woo the lass.

Maybe you get burned again but that is better than life in emotional limbo.