What to do about my girl's overprotective mother?

[Az]

@story.

Speer, take it slowly and easily with the mother. It will take a lot of patience with this sort of mother, to get on her good side, and all. Maybe, just maybe, you shouldn't even try that.

[Drake Tungsten]

I still think that moms needs to die, but whatever.

[MichaeltheGreat]

She may have a shotgun or an impressive collection of butcher knives, so probably your best bet is to very politely say "Yes, ma'am" or "No, ma'am" whichever is appropriate, whenever you are asked anything.

Otherwise, just be an obediant, compliant, future son-in-law.

[Ben Kenobi]

it seems like too much. maybe chaperoned dates will work (an 18 and a 17 year old being chaperoned by a grandmother...) as that was what her mother said she would approve of.

For the first while, perhaps, but later on she might trust you more if you did this.

Still, that's pretty conservative.

[Ted Striker]

Originally posted by DaShi
Break yo foot off in her ass!

[FrustratedPoet]

Originally posted by Ben Kenobi
Still, that's pretty conservative.

When Ben says this stuff, you know it must be a bad case.

[Zero]

Originally posted by FrustratedPoet

her mother went crazy... you know what i'm talking about when they start stopping strangers

You may be suprised to know that this has never happened to 99% of people. Either we're not so scary-looking that a girl's mother freaks out whenever they see us or we don't date people with such abusrdly conservative views that being seen holding hands in public is a scandalous event. Do you live in Afghanistan or something?

I had to hide in a closet once. Is that conservative enough?

[Spiffor]

Be patient. Be mannered. Make sure your girl never cries or never feels visibly bad. If your girl has visible problems, you can be sure the mother will blame you, no matter how unrelated the problem is.

If your girl is visibly happy, gets better grades, and basically does better everything her mother expects from her, you'll be tagged as a "good influence". Manners, politeness and patience help to that.

A friend of mine's mother is really, really protective. We nearly clashed at some point, but my image suddenly got better when I helped her with computers, and when I offered them flowers to thank her for the welcome. Small attentions like that can really turn the tide, if the mother has come to admit the idea of meeting you.

[KrazyHorse]

Originally posted by Albert Speer


no. I live in Philadelphia...



My girl was quite worried that us sitting next to each other on a bench would make her mother angry so she got up and stayed some feet away from me.

as for that ****, Pekka... i dont know. it seems like too much. maybe chaperoned dates will work (an 18 and a 17 year old being chaperoned by a grandmother...) as that was what her mother said she would approve of.


thanks

Holy ****...chaperoned dates.

[Az]

now, people, I don't think that what he needs is us laughing but us trying to help him.

[DanielXY]

You are dating the girl not the mother. Ignore the mother, dont go to your gfs place. Get together at yours.
If she`s too dependant on what her mother thinks and cant make her mind up on her own (after some advice from you of course...), really nothing helps -> Next!

[KrazyHorse]

Tell the girl it's either you or the mother. If she hems and haws, ditch her and pick up somebody who's prettier and easier.

[Az]

You two suggest taking the other route. I think that if he truly likes this girl, he's going to have to go the hard way.

[KrazyHorse]

He's 18. He doesn't know what the **** he likes and doesn't...

If I was dating a girl and she told me we couldn't go out without a chaperone because her mother objected then I'd tell her to **** off. If she doesn't like me enough to stand up to her mother then why the **** should I put myself through ****?

[Hueij]

If I caught my daughter running around in malls with a guy that uses a nazi warcriminal's name as a handle I would beat the **** out of her. And out of him too...