Please don't take this too seriously.

[I AM MOBIUS]

There's loads to be positive about, Lori...

Firstly, the fact that she listed being in a relationship as only the second reason! Surely that should always be the first reason for someone not going out with another person...!?

Also you said it was a long email response - she really didn't have to go to the trouble. She clearly likes you, or she wouldn't have bothered with that sort of reply. Also, maybe you didn't get the signals wrong, maybe she was trying to just be friendly but was actually interested - apart from the fact that she's already in a relationship? For her, if she didn't care about you, the safest response would have been not to reply.

So I'd strike it down as a 'near miss' where if the circumstances were different, she might have said yes.

To me those are positives to take away and add to your newfound aura of confidence around women, relatively speaking. So dust yourself off and move on.

[Bereta_Eder]

And all this waiting could have been avoided by a simple, you wanna grab a cup of coffee?

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[rah]

You obviously haven't been paying attention throughout these 39 pages.

[Lorizael]

You all should get a kick out of this. After I asked EBF for advice on TA, she told me that she'll always be there for me, that she'll love me forever, and that I could visit her any time.

[Sava]

Lori

[Colonâ„¢]

You all should get a kick out of this. After I asked EBF for advice on TA, she told me that she'll always be there for me, that she'll love me forever, and that I could visit her any time.

One, why did ask her for advice, of all people? Two, if you can't stop yourself staying in touch with her anyway, then why just not bang her?

[Lorizael]

Lori

What are you ing?

One, why did ask her for advice, of all people?

She was the closest woman on hand.

Two, if you can't stop yourself staying in touch with her anyway, then why just not bang her?

For a variety of reasons, chief among them being that she's been very clear that she is not sexually attracted to me.

[Colonâ„¢]

Either she's delusional about her feelings for you, either she's delusional to believe that "I love you, visit me" could not be taken sexually.

[Colonâ„¢]

Either way, that's really the last place you ought to be expecting trustworthy advice from. Even behind poly.

[rah]

Unfortunately I have to agree 100% with that. And this place is pretty bad

[Lorizael]

Her precise words...

you will always be welcome to me
I mean, I may go through my own **** that renders that temporarily untrue because I'm ****ing up
but like, I love you permanently
I've never not loved you since I met you
you are an honored and celebrated part of my life
I mention you and give credit when talking about certain of my personality traits
in terms of providing a special kind of intimate, positive, loving, supportive, honest, thoughtful, intelligent company
/relationship
and other good things I think we encouraged in one another
your parents and your family made a really big impression on me/contribution to my life and development too. Your parents totally helped raise me in such beautiful ways.
I'm so glad I got to spend all that time being your friend and having our lives be so intertwined
I understand the story reads differently in your book
and I very much respect that
but like, yeah man, I love you forever

...

also I have twice thought to let you know you're also totally welcome to come visit me in < EBF's city > and stay on my couch or make it a day trip or whatever works best for you if you ever want to. I would guess that might not interest you currently, but I want you to know it's available to you in case it ever does
there would probably be some weirdness, but I think we'd probably make good company for each other if we just talk about things that interest us and play chess or something
and if it was too weird you could always just leave, at any time, because I totally support you doing whatever it is you feel you gotta do at any point
(THIS IS SHARING TIME. Sharing time gets abstract sometimes. Please let me know if I seem like I'm babbling so I can try to clarify)

Trust me, this isn't a come on.

[rah]

I've said it before but reading that is just creepy.

If she's not just keeping you dangling as a spare just in case, I just don't understand it. I've seen the always be friends routine but this seems to be more than that. (which is what makes it so strange)

But then, I'm not an expert, just an curious observer.

[Lorizael]

If I were a spare, you'd think she would have gotten a flat some time in the last 12.5 years.

[rah]

That's part of the creepy aspect to me.

It still seems more than just friends to her. But as I said, I'm not an expert and despite your repeated attempts to explain it all, I can't know all the details.

[Sava]

What are you ing?

You.