Christianity ruins families.

[-Jrabbit]

Did you let her know your SO was willing to bring his own chair?

[Berzerker]

FWIW, I was invited to their house for thanksgiving a couple years back but when I asked if I could bring my partner they told me they didn't have any more chairs.

sorry, I have my answer to that now Hey, the fact your brother has gotten this far with her daughter shows she aint that irrational. It took the pressure of an impending marriage for her to start cracking

oops, Rabbit got there already

[Al B. Sure!]

Canadians celebrate thanksgiving?

[-Jrabbit]

If they never broached the topic of religion, it's obviously not as important as they're making it out to be. It often takes the wedding being imminent to bring out the real issues.

[Asher]

She knows about me (see the thanksgiving comment). I met her once. Typical Christian lady, intensely polite and passive-aggressive.

[Berzerker]

It's not testing their relationship really, as the fiancee is on my brother's side on this.

but that is the test

and I suspect Rabbit's right, mom-in-law aint too happy with her daughter's selection (what a surprise). Does she know about you yet?

[Wezil]

I have a brother who converted to Catholicism before marriage on the insistence of her parents. The in-laws are now divorced.

[Asher]

FWIW, I was invited to their house for thanksgiving a couple years back but when I asked if I could bring my partner they told me they didn't have any more chairs.

[Asher]

Trust me, this is not about religion. It could have been about the font on the invitations. Sounds like she doesn't like your brother.

Kudos to your prospective sister-in-law. Tell her to remember who's wedding it is, perhaps remind her mother of that fact, and to stay strong.

They seemed to have been very fond of him. They were over the moon when my bro and her got engaged (after 2 years of dating) last year. They've just never broached the religion topic til the wedding planning.

And now it's a mixture of anxiety of losing their daughter to a cross-country move (they're moving to Vancouver, the mom wanted them to work in the small Ontario town she was from...not gonna happen, the brother's in a highly specialized engineering field and has an MEng degree). It's also involving the fact that they perceive my brother to be amoral, I think.

[Wiglaf]

I have this hot guy Christian intern in my office who does everything on time, is unusually polite and is impeccably well dressed. I don't see what your problem is. What you are describing is a problem with women not Christians.

[Wezil]

It would be a good time to tell the joke about the rabbi, priest and the irishman.

[Asher]

How do you do "individual tables to say grace"?

Stop proceedings for 1 minute where some tables say grace and the rest (majority?) stare at their tableware?

Yes. Or talk amongst themselves.

[Asher]

thats just how some moms are about their kids

but congrats to your Bro, sounds like he found a good woman (uh oh, whats that biblical saying about the seed falling close to the tree? )

This is a good test of the strength of their relationship, you know, the vow about thru good times and bad...

It's not testing their relationship really, as the fiancee is on my brother's side on this. She's just upset the mother is not talking to her right now.

I haven't even gone into the details about how two-faced she's been about this: when the mother talked to my brother about it, she was all smiles saying "that would be fine". The next day she calls up his fiancee and *****es about it. Jesus ****ing christ.

The best thing about being gay is when I get hitched, no one's gonna give a damn thing about Jesus. Amen.

[-Jrabbit]

Trust me, this is not about religion; it's about control. It could have been about the font on the invitations. Sounds like she doesn't like your brother.

Kudos to your prospective sister-in-law. Tell her to remember who's wedding it is, perhaps remind her mother of that fact, and to stay strong.

[Wezil]

How do you do "individual tables to say grace"?

Stop proceedings for 1 minute where some tables say grace and the rest (majority?) stare at their tableware?