Marriage, Gays, and Atheists

[Asher]

Originally posted by MrFun


sigh


When I was with my long-term partner we did hold hands, for example, whenever we were at the local mall together. Sometimes we got nasty glances but no real confrontations.

I think part of it is I don't understand the need for PDA. When you are walking in public, why must people hold hands with their loved ones? Is it a way to show off to the public? I don't get it, it seems frivolous to me. And in the case of gay PDA, there's no benefit and tons of complications.

[Naked Gents Rut]

He probably lives in Chelsea...

I wish...

[MrFun]

Public affection is an entirely individual's preferences. I do not think any less of couples who show no public affection.

It really just depends on what you personally feel comfortable with. With me, I feel that I should be able to be as open as straight people but unfortunately sometimes the practicality of safety and preserving life stops me from doing so.


EDIT: cross-post

[Asher]

Originally posted by MrFun
Public affection is an entirely individual's preferences. I do not think any less of couples who show no public affection.

It really just depends on what you personally feel comfortable with. With me, I feel that I should be able to be as open as straight people but unfortunately sometimes the practicality of safety and preserving life stops me from doing so.


EDIT: cross-post

Is that what it's about for you? Because straight people do it you should be able to as well?

TBH I always found it to be a sign of insecurity. People hold hands because they want others to know their partner is taken, so no one else will take him/her from you. That's my armchair psychology diagnosis anyway.

[MrFun]

That is not my only reason. It's also for the same reason straight couples show public affection - to show my love for my partner. But given the current civil rights issue, this also means that such behavior - by any gay couple - wittingly or unwittingly, is a political statement as well.

[KrazyHorse]

to show my love for my partner

GAYYYYYYYYYY

[Naked Gents Rut]

TBH I always found it to be a sign of insecurity. People hold hands because they want others to know their partner is taken, so no one else will take him/her from you.

I hate holding hands.

[KrazyHorse]

I often link arms with my wife. Only very rarely hold hands.

[Naked Gents Rut]

Linking arms is far superior.

[Asher]

I get my SO to pull the wagon I'm sitting in.

[Naked Gents Rut]

Is that gay code for something really athletic?

[KrazyHorse]

It's a low tech version of a train.

[MrFun]

Originally posted by KrazyHorse

to show my love for my partner

GAYYYYYYYYYY

[Asher]

Is that a Battle Toad smilie?

[Q Classic]

Originally posted by Asher
I'm not sure if you remember me in highschool, but it was the same for me. I went to a school in a major urban centre in Canada and there was not one openly gay student in a school of 2000 kids. There was one kid -- a flamboyant kid -- who everyone "knew" was gay while he denied it, and he was beat up several times and regularly had his locker vandalized... Since then, I know of at least a dozen kids who've come out since high school.

I'm still in the closet in Atlanta. Online, and in Chicago, I'm not.

*shrugs*

It doesn't help that my mother's a convert to Catholicism and uses the same talking points as Ben half the time. But she at least isn't as insulting or disingenuous as he is, even when she says that gays, like serial killers, are an "American problem".