How do people meet people (romantically)?

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[Zoid]

Originally posted by shawnmmcc
I met my wife through the Society for Creative Anachronisms, which is a "Middle Ages as it should have been" with a USA spin on it. Not great for historical accuracy, but a great place for meeting members of the fairer sex.

Been there done that It didn´t get as far as marriage though...

[Nanimo]

Ehmm... I've been lurking for a while now, and so I've decided to make this my debut, and give advice with a female spin on things.

A lot of it depends on what kind of relationship you want, long term romance? Casual dating? Casual sex?

I have to say that by far the easiest place to pull would be in a club. Don't expect anything more than dirty sex that'll get your rocks off for the night, though. Count yourself lucky if either of you really do call a few days later. I wouldn't recommend this method if you want something more meaningful and romantic, it's unlikely that you'd have all that much in common other than the initial attraction and the lust. Clubs are just no good for conversations.

For the casual dating, longer term romance, I'd also go with meeting them through friends, or in various interest groups. The key issue is that on meeting them, you don't go in with the intent of getting romantically involved. Most girls will be most receptive to men who just want to make friends, people they can get on with, those who make them laugh, so on and so forth.

Although it's important not to let it go too far down the friendship route... you don't want to end up in a steamy clinch with her, only to have her (or you) roll about in laughter because it's just *too weird*

It's also pretty important to read the signs, if a girl fancies you, she'll make it pretty obvious... you just need to be able to see it. :P If she blatantly doesn't like you, it will also be obvious... in that case, don't even try, it will make her weirded out and dislike you even more... However, if you're on that kind of neutral point, if you become friends, and she gets to see all your good points, you may be able to win her round....

Having said all this, by some crazy coincidence, I too have found my current target of affection online. I suppose that this has it's benefits in that you get to browse people like a catalogue... and choose to make contact if you like the sound of them... or not, if you don't think they're hot enough. :P However, most important is the fact that you're forced to concentrate on personality, which is what counts in the long run.

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[Barinthus]

I'm not so hot about bars and clubs. I prefer meeting women via friends. Work is ok but tread carefully.

[Az]

OMG DL!

[Provost Harrison]

Spamming again eh Az?

[Mercator]

Originally posted by Nanimo
and choose to make contact if you like the sound of them... or not, if you don't think they're hot enough. :P

[Zoid]

Give me a D Give a L What have you got? DL!

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[Zkribbler]

Originally posted by shawnmmcc
I met my wife through the Society for Creative Anachronisms, which is a "Middle Ages as it should have been" with a USA spin on it. Not great for historical accuracy, but a great place for meeting members of the fairer sex.

Now, there's a place it would have never occurred for me to look. But giving it further thought, I guess they're looking for their knight in aluminum armor.

[Jon Miller]

not a clue

I think confidence does a lot

men I know who I think are pretty good (like attractive, in shape, interesting, nice), do great if they are self confident

men who seem to be pretty bad (like fat, annoying, unattractive, not all that interesting) but who are confident, do OK (or even sometimes well)

so I think probably the biggest thing is confidence

Jon Miller
(I am not confident)

[Nanimo]

Originally posted by Jon Miller

so I think probably the biggest thing is confidence

Then again... I sometimes find the sweet shy guy very attractive ... Although if he's damn hot and has a nice personality that helps too.

[Mrs. Tuberski]

I have met a couple of guys at work nothing that lasted tho. Met Tuberski online 4 years ago. we talked for months before we actually met. Met my first husbasnd thru my sister. she introduced us. Married to him for 11 years at least. So Meeting through sibblings or friends is good. Internet a little more risky, I dont reccomend the work thing cause if it doesnt workout then the tension is in the air as long as you have to work with them.

[Zkribbler]

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