Are you a home wrecker?

[MRT144]

Originally posted by Spiffor

That's bull. It's perfectly possible to be sexually attracte by other people, and yet be in a healthy relationship. A relationship is much more than merely monogamous sex.

Now, a unhealthy relationship may have the consequence of you being tempted. But it's not the only cause of such behaviour.

im going to agree with you. Even in a healthy relationship you would be tempted, but you would DECIDE NOT TO DO ANYTHING because you really care.

[MRT144]

ben, what happened to that one girl you were dating for a long time, or is that this one?

[Ben Kenobi]

No, not her.

First girlfriend from before I was a Christian.

History of bad boyfriends.

[Ben Kenobi]

Denise is the one who I'm trying to get back with, since she seems to be letting me back in again.

[Asmodean]

BK: Why the urge to get out of the relationship?? Is it just that you don't love her, or has she hurt you in any way?

Asmodean

[Ben Kenobi]

With Denise or Amanda my first girlfriend?

[Asmodean]

Originally posted by Ben Kenobi
With Denise or Amanda my first girlfriend?

Your current one...the 6 month one you mentioned

[Ben Kenobi]

Denise broke up with me, not the other way around.

I haven't even seen anybody else in the year since.

[Ben Kenobi]

She's been seeing another fellow for 6 months.

[Asmodean]

Okay...I get it now. I though that the 6-month relationship you were trying to break was your own

Asmodean (who is suddenly a lot less confused)

[MRT144]

not enough sex

[Ben Kenobi]

Does that make me a homewrecker, though?

[Spiffor]

Originally posted by MRT144
im going to agree with you. Even in a healthy relationship you would be tempted, but you would DECIDE NOT TO DO ANYTHING because you really care.

That's actually my situation. I'm fundamentally a big libertine, and I see no moral problem with having several sexual partners at the same time. However, my girlfriend does see a huge problem with that idea. That's because I care of her that I pledged I wouldn't cheat on her. So far, the pledge has held very well.

[Asmodean]

Originally posted by Ben Kenobi
Does that make me a homewrecker, though?

I'd say no, but I've been hurt in the past, which may be clouding my judgement.

In my book, if she was once your partner, and she broke up the relationship, then to hell with the guy, if you can win her back.

Asmodean

[self biased]

Originally posted by Sikander


I'm 44, monogamous for over 7 years now and only tempted a few times to sleep with someone else, in every case when directly propositioned by rather attractive women. I never succummed though, and I don't even flirt or otherwise make myself seem available. I've done it all before, whereas each day in my relationship is a new milestone for me. Sleeping around didn't make me happy, it just kept me from being bored.

AMEN.