LTEC!'s relationship advise corner now open.

[Zylka]

Originally posted by LTEC!
Quit yours.

Oh, well at least that was meant to be witty?

Maybe this one will do: When sexually expressing with each other, how do I fit an obese mans'....

[LTEC!]

Ohh sorry. I get dyslexic every so often.
JOG as in excercising? HAHAHAHAH GOOD LUCK

Dress yourself up in your shortest short and barest top and go out jogging yourself. He'll either get motivated to look good or to fend competitors off.

[KrazyHorse]

Dress yourself up in your shortest short and barest top

New sig.

[LTEC!]

Originally posted by obiwan18
LTEC!



I've got a different problem from loinburger. She's Catholic, and wants to marry a Catholic for obvious reasons. I'm Protestant, and I don't really care if I marry a Protestant or a Catholic so long as they are Christian. We are both active in our respective churches, which is part of the reason we like each other, but it does cause some problems. We're still trying to work something out for both of us so that we can go to church together, and no one feels like they are giving too much up.

We've also been good friends for the past 2 years and are having problems getting on to the next step. I'd like to give it a try, and she is not so sure.

I'd really like to hear from someone who has been through this position, what worked for them?

I would say that the only problem i'd see is that you're both active on either community.
If you don't care about marrying catholic, get a baptism and go to her church. In the end, it doesn't matter which church you go to but your faith and feelings.
If you still want to go to protestant celebrations, maybe you can make an arrangement to go alternatively to both churches.

On the part that she's not sure, only both of you would be able to know why not. Talk it out.

[LTEC!]

BTW, I'm catholic. raised and schooled.

[Caesar the Great]

Originally posted by LTEC!


You're fairly young Cesar. I would say get to know girls as friends first and treat them as equals. That friendship will give you an idea of what you can expect from them or not, and will fructify in them vouching for you with their other friends.
Most girls work in networks. screwup with one and the rest will for sure know it, full details included.

In any case, I would hold off on being stuck with one until you were really sure you would kick yourself for the rest of your life for not asking that particular girl out.

oh, i'm quite good at getting into the "friends" zone.... but taking it further i'm batting 0.000

[Japher]

your waiting to long to make your move.

[Apocalypse]

Originally posted by LTEC!
The girl is uncomfortable because you treated her like an object, and now she thinks you're just with her because you're obsessed about her breasts.
So even if you are, keep the comments to yourself and if you're into them act by doing.

Actually most of our relationship is based on talking about feelings of stuff. Talking about breasts was just some added bonus. She knows that she isn't some object to me.

[Lorizael]

I need to find a way to make this explanation shorter.

There is Girl A, Girl B, and me.

Girl A and I have been together for well over a year. She's my first romantic relationship. Girl B and I knew each other well before I ever knew Girl A, but were not good friends. Almost a year ago we met again, online, and immediately became attracted to each other. We developed a great friendship and had Girl B not been disgusted with men at the time because of past experiences, something might have happened between the two of us.

By the time Girl B had gotten over the whole men suck ass thing, she had met Girl A irl. Now because I am an idiot, I did not tell Girl A about Girl B until well after the attraction developed (at the time I was starting to like Girl B, Girl A and I were very close to ending our relationship) so when she did find out, it hurt her a lot, obviously.

Anyhow, I continued to become more attracted to Girl B until I was finally just about attracted to her as I am to Girl A. In December we attempted (with the consent of Girl A) to date each other. The dating only lasted a week, however, because Girl B did not want to risk damaging the friendship (I was and still am her best friend. and yah, that sounds like a cop out reason to not want to be in the relationship, but consider the risk in entering into such an odd relationship in the first place - it seems there has to be some desire there), and because she wasn't comfortable with the whole polyamorous situation goin on.

BTW, speaking of polyamory, Girl A has done sexual things with a lot of people other than me during the course of our relationship, and has even done stuff she didn't tell me about without a little coercion. Now I haven't ended things with her because on a conceptual level, there is nothing wrong with her being with other people.

So anyway, as things stand now, I really like Girl A and B. Girl A likes me but more than I like her. I am Girl B's best friend and Girl A and Girl B are pretty good friends. The situation is tense because we often do things together, which only exacerbates the jealousy Girl A feels. Things cannot continue the way they are now and still remain stable.

Any advice?

Boy did I **** up...

[LTEC!]

You're just avoiding the fact that you're going to have to make a choice and dump either the girlfriend or the friend (sp)...and you know it.
Pick and choose and do it fast. The way this is headed is:
u-a-b=0

I believe that you know that neither girl is "the" one. just a matter of who you get to hang out with for longer.

[Lorizael]

But why must a decision be made at all? I keep hearing that relationships with multiple people can't last... but is that really true?

[Ben Kenobi]

If you don't care about marrying catholic, get a baptism and go to her church.

LTEC!

I already go with her, but the baptism is the sticky part.
Part of the problem I have with the Catholic church. When she goes to my church, she can participate fully in the Lord's supper, when I go to her church, I cannot. I like what the Catholic church has done regarding the second Vatican Council in that non-Catholic Christians are no longer apostate, but there are some regulations I do not understand.

Secondly, I go to a Mennonite church, where we practice believer's baptism. The normal Catholic rite is to baptise infants, something that I have a real problem with, the whole concept of the parents speaking for the children.

I guess the source of the problem stems from my family as I grew up in a lapsed Anglican family, where I was baptised as an infant. My folks did not live up to the promises, as they believed baptism ensured salvation regardless of their actions.

I have since been amazed by all that I missed out on, and I envy my friend and her family, the joy of growing up in a Christian home. I don't want to make the same mistake my parents did.

I like my church, they brought me to the Christian life, and I don't want to leave. I don't want to pull her away from her church either.

[LTEC!]

You mean string both girls along? sure!
it can be done. i don't recommend it though.

[Apocalypse]

Originally posted by obiwan18
Secondly, I go to a Mennonite church, where we practice believer's baptism. The normal Catholic rite is to baptise infants, something that I have a real problem with, the whole concept of the parents speaking for the children.

You're misinformed about this issue. Baptism isn't what you think it is. The parents to speak just for the kid. The person would have to go through the sacrament of comfirmation at a later date, which is when the person makes their own decision to be Catholic.

[LTEC!]

Originally posted by obiwan18


LTEC!

I already go with her, but the baptism is the sticky part.
Part of the problem I have with the Catholic church. When she goes to my church, she can participate fully in the Lord's supper, when I go to her church, I cannot. I like what the Catholic church has done regarding the second Vatican Council in that non-Catholic Christians are no longer apostate, but there are some regulations I do not understand.

Secondly, I go to a Mennonite church, where we practice believer's baptism. The normal Catholic rite is to baptise infants, something that I have a real problem with, the whole concept of the parents speaking for the children.

I guess the source of the problem stems from my family as I grew up in a lapsed Anglican family, where I was baptised as an infant. My folks did not live up to the promises, as they believed baptism ensured salvation regardless of their actions.

I have since been amazed by all that I missed out on, and I envy my friend and her family, the joy of growing up in a Christian home. I don't want to make the same mistake my parents did.

I like my church, they brought me to the Christian life, and I don't want to leave. I don't want to pull her away from her church either.

The gist of it would be then how much does bending the rules you worked so hard to believe mean to you?
If you can't do it nor can her, don't go ahead with it because you're going straight to the blame game.
The first minute something goes wrong or you disagree, you will center the attention in what you gave up to be with each other.
Make a desicion you will not have regrets about later.
(I mean it)