LTEC!'s relationship advise corner now open.

[Stuie]

Originally posted by LTEC!

Originally posted by Jaguar Warrior
Serious question: a girls birthday is coming up, and she is having a party which I will be attending. Should I ask her out before, during, or after?

Any girl should be able to tell you. Ask now.
There isn't better time than the present, if you act like you want to but don't (read wait), the girl will probably get the wrong signals or be confused.

I disagree. I waited and asked my wife out for the first time on her birthday, and the whole thing has proven more memorable for her over the years because of it. According to her, I'm the best birthday present she ever got.

[LTEC!]

Originally posted by Spiffor
I'm with my first girlfriend for two months now. We have a relationship based on trust and dialogue, and it is bliss. However, the more the time passes, the more I want to use my newly discovered self-confidence on other girls. It is purely egoistical, since I only want to know wether many girls find me attractive / a good lover.
I told about it to my girlfriend, of course, and I have no intention to cheat her or to dump her for that. However, this 'lust' for other girls is growing, and my past (unrevealed) crushes are resufacing.
What should I do ?

Nothing to boost up your ego like an ongoing relationship, and i have to tell you, it happens to most of us.
There are two roads you can take.
a) Dump your girlfriend and go scout
b) Cheat on your girlfriend and go scout.
Of course, when you dump your girlfriend, your girlfriend will be annoyed and dump your ass. And then you'll have no relationship and your newfound ego will go out the window with it because you'll be needy and crap.
But if you cheat on your girlfriend, you will be foundout (for sure) and you will be dumped anyway.

Theres another way to go. If you're constantly wondering what it would it be like to see other people, go ahead. Just be fair to the person you're seeing and tell her so.
Just remember you have to live with the desicions you make, and their consequences.

[SlowwHand]

Pic of LTEC and MtG.
How does it relate? It doesn't, but I'm rude.

[LTEC!]

We would be more like Linus and Lucy or Dexter and Dee Dee if they weren't brother and sister.

[SlowwHand]

[SlowwHand]

Oil Change instructions for Women:
1) Pull up to Jiffy Lube after driving 3000 miles since the last oil
change.
2) Drink a cup of coffee.
3) 15 minutes later write a check and leave with a properly maintained
vehicle.
Money Spent:
Oil Change $20.00
Coffee $1.00
Total $21.00
****************************************
Oil Change instructions for Men:
1) Wait until Saturday, drive to auto parts store and buy a case of oil,
filter, kitty litter, hand cleaner and a scented tree, write a check for
$50.00.
2) Stop by 7 - 11 and buy a case of beer, write a check for $20.00, drive
home.
3) Open a beer and drink it.
4) Jack car up. Spend 30 minutes looking for jack stands.
5) Find jack stands under kid's pedal car.
6) In frustration, open another beer and drink it.
7) Place drain pan under engine.
8) Look for 9/16 box end wrench.
9) Give up and use crescent wrench.
10) Unscrew drain plug.
11) Drop drain plug in pan of hot oil: ! splash hot oil on face and arms in
process. Cuss.
12) Crawl out from under car to wipe hot oil off face and arms. Throw kitty
litter on spilled oil.
13) Have another beer while watching oil drain.
14) Spend 30 minutes looking for oil filter wrench.
15) Give up; crawl under car and hammer a screwdriver through oil filter
and twist off.
16) Crawl out from under car with dripping oil filter splashing oil
everywhere from holes. Cleverly hide old oil filter among trash in trash
can to avoid environmental penalties. Drink a beer.
17) Buddy shows up; finish case of beer with him. Decide to finish oil
change tomorrow so you can go see his new garage door opener work.
18) Sunday: Skip church because "I gotta finish the oil change." Drag pan
full of old oil out from underneath car. Cleverly dump oil in hole in back
yard instead of taking it to recycle.
19) Throw kitty litter on oil spilled during step 18.
20) Beer. No, drank it all yesterday.
21) Walk to 7-11; buy beer.
22) Install new! oil filter making sur! e to app ly a thin coat of oil to
gasket surface.
23) Dump first quart of fresh oil into engine.
24) Remember drain plug from step 11.
25) Hurry to find drain plug in drain pan.
26) Remember that the used oil is buried in a hole in the back yard along
with drain plug.
27) Drink beer.
28) Shovel out hole and sift oily mud for drain plug. Re-shovel oily patch
of ground and avoid environmental penalties. Wash drain plug in lawn mower
gas.
29) Discover that first quart of fresh oil is now on the floor. Throw kitty
litter on oil spill.
30) Drink beer.
31) Crawl under car getting kitty litter into eyes. Wipe eyes with oily rag
used to clean drain plug. Slip with stupid crescent wrench tightening drain
plug and bang knuckles on frame.
32) Bang head on floorboards in reaction to step 31.
33) Begin cussing fit.
34) Throw stupid crescent wrench.
35) Cuss for additional 10 minutes because wrench hit Miss August (2002)in
the left boob.
36) Beer.
37) C! lean up hands and forehead and ban dage as required to stop blood
flow.
38) Beer.
39) Beer.
40) Dump in five fresh quarts of oil.
41) Beer.
42) Lower car from jack stands.
43) Accidentally crush remaining case of new motor oil.
44) Move car back to apply more kitty litter to fresh oil spilled during
steps 23-43.
45) Beer.
46) Test drive car.
47) Get pulled over: arrested for driving under the influence.
48) Car gets impounded.
49) Call loving wife, make bail.
50) 12 hours later, get car from impound yard.
Money spent:
Parts $50.00
DUI $2500.00
Impound fee &nbs! p; &! nbsp;&nb sp; $75.00
Bail $1500.00
Beer $40.00
Total-- $4165.00
--You know the job was done and you know the job was done right!

[DaShi]

LTEC!,

It's been two years since we've seen eachother. During that time, she had a big crush on me, but I took a while to warm. By the time we departed, we were both sad to see eachother go, but made no promises. We still kept in contact. One year later she developed a crush on a guy that she never pursued. He did one nice thing for her (gave her an umbrella in the rain) and she thinks that she may be in love with him. She doesn't know much about him or even his name. However, she was scared by her feelings and avoided him for the next year. Now she has seen him again and still feels nervous and excited around him.

I have planned to return to see her. Now she has begun telling me about this other guy and her insecurities. I still like her a lot, so I try to remind her of the times we spent together: I tell her how she didn't give up on me and how beautiful I think she is. However, despite that I tell her that I plan to return to where she is, I have only hinted that we could get back together. I have not asked her directly, but only said things along, "I'm looking forward to seeing you again." The only other thing I've done is sent her an umbrella myself as a gesture of my feelings. I've tried to be very careful about the situation because I don't want to pressure her. I won't be back there until August at the earliest. Is there anymore I can do?

[SpencerH]

Originally posted by loinburger


I'd have no problem converting or whatever so long as her religion isn't hateful or excessively kooky (neither being a problem in this case AFAIK), but she's gotta understand that I'd be converting in word alone (and that might be a big hairy problem for her). It would be great if she were just as apathetic as I am about the whole business, but I don't see a way to broach the subject without seeming too forward or whatever. I'm concerned that she's operating on the assumption that I belong to one of the milder Christian denominations (since I've never said anything to the contrary, and that seems to be the default assumption that most people make in the absence of evidence to the contrary), and would be upset were she to learn otherwise. Or maybe she wouldn't care. Or maybe she's already guessed otherwise. Who knows. :shrugs:

I think it depends on how serious she is about her faith. If she's southern-baptist serious you're screwed. If she's Italian-catholic serious you're OK.

[Caesar the Great]

Well my problem is even starting a relationship, I guess I've given up on it for a while.... any general advice?

[LTEC!]

Originally posted by DaShi
LTEC!,

It's been two years since we've seen eachother. During that time, she had a big crush on me, but I took a while to warm. By the time we departed, we were both sad to see eachother go, but made no promises. We still kept in contact. One year later she developed a crush on a guy that she never pursued. He did one nice thing for her (gave her an umbrella in the rain) and she thinks that she may be in love with him. She doesn't know much about him or even his name. However, she was scared by her feelings and avoided him for the next year. Now she has seen him again and still feels nervous and excited around him.

I have planned to return to see her. Now she has begun telling me about this other guy and her insecurities. I still like her a lot, so I try to remind her of the times we spent together: I tell her how she didn't give up on me and how beautiful I think she is. However, despite that I tell her that I plan to return to where she is, I have only hinted that we could get back together. I have not asked her directly, but only said things along, "I'm looking forward to seeing you again." The only other thing I've done is sent her an umbrella myself as a gesture of my feelings. I've tried to be very careful about the situation because I don't want to pressure her. I won't be back there until August at the earliest. Is there anymore I can do?

Besides being yourself? I wouldn't worry too much.
What is happening is that she is in love with the idea of a person she built up in her mind, and that is dangerous only until she really gets to know that person.
Can you love who or what you don't know? Not really. Infatuation, or love at first sight is only a temporary state that is ment to pass once you get to know someone. Some people can back it up, most don't.

This happens in everyday life. You never know who you're going to meet the next second. It might be just someone in passing or the most important person in your life. You would run the same risk of losing a girlfriend whether you're an inch or a 1000 miles away if it is ment to happen.

Only herself is responsible of her feelings, and there's nothing you can do to change them. Maybe when you both meet you'll find that you still care in the same way, or deeper, or not anymore. Its a tossup.
Good luck.

[LTEC!]

Originally posted by Caesar the Great
Well my problem is even starting a relationship, I guess I've given up on it for a while.... any general advice?

You're fairly young Cesar. I would say get to know girls as friends first and treat them as equals. That friendship will give you an idea of what you can expect from them or not, and will fructify in them vouching for you with their other friends.
Most girls work in networks. screwup with one and the rest will for sure know it, full details included.

In any case, I would hold off on being stuck with one until you were really sure you would kick yourself for the rest of your life for not asking that particular girl out.

[Zylka]

How can I get my painfully fat husband to TAKE A F*CKING JOG now and again?!?!

[LTEC!]

Quit yours.

[Ben Kenobi]

LTEC!

If you can live with it, set your limits and live by what you agreed with.

I've got a different problem from loinburger. She's Catholic, and wants to marry a Catholic for obvious reasons. I'm Protestant, and I don't really care if I marry a Protestant or a Catholic so long as they are Christian. We are both active in our respective churches, which is part of the reason we like each other, but it does cause some problems. We're still trying to work something out for both of us so that we can go to church together, and no one feels like they are giving too much up.

We've also been good friends for the past 2 years and are having problems getting on to the next step. I'd like to give it a try, and she is not so sure.

I'd really like to hear from someone who has been through this position, what worked for them?

[Japher]

I think it says Jog, not Job