My g/f is my best friend, and I don't find that strange at all...
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I've heard that in most cases were a man and a women are good friends it is because one of the two secretly likes the other one but is afraid to admite it.Try http://wordforge.net/index.php for discussion and debate.
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It's not really my theary just something you hear repeated on all those "relationship help" programs.Try http://wordforge.net/index.php for discussion and debate.
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Originally posted by korn469
In my experience relationships have more stress than friendships do simply because there is more potential for getting your heart broken.
No guts, no glory. If you don't take your chances, you will always remain at the same spot.
turning a long term friendship into a relationship will effect that friendship. their will be new stresses on that friendship, and there will be new sides of the person you haven't ever experienced before. Plus if thing don't work out your friendship most likely will be different than what it was before. i think everyone should consider this before they do try and date their best friend
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"Chemistry" - sexual attraction perhaps - does not always kick in near the beginning. Often it can be a result of mental attraction, which takes time to establish.
Often, too, when a man gets attracted to a woman friend, it is because he is receiving a different set of non-verbal cues - he is merely reacting to them. In this case, the man shouldn't hesistate if he is at all interested. The woman is likely to give up and look elsewhere if she hasn't received any affirmative signals, i.e., your window to react is small.(\__/) 07/07/1937 - Never forget
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I didnt read everything...
but my first serious BF was at first my best friend.
we ended up being together over 4 years.
but now...we're not friends at all after we broke up.
I don;t think I woulda been able to handle it...it woulda been too akward..too weird...
now Im in a new relationship. been in it for over 2 years (thank you Blackwidow for introducing us). my hunnnnny *swoons*
ANYHOO...dating a friend can become the best thing you can do. I don't regret my relationship with my best friend at all. Only thing is...the friend ship can end if the bf/gf thing does.
I say go for it.....but only if theres LOVE there. its the only thing that makes it worth the risk
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Originally posted by GP
Go for it, David. Get her a little tipsy one night. Go for a walk somewhere romantic (beach at night is good) and than just give here a smacker on the lips."Chegitz, still angry about the fall of the Soviet Union in 1991?
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Originally posted by aaglo
My g/f is my best friend, and I don't find that strange at all...(\__/) 07/07/1937 - Never forget
(='.'=) "Claims demand evidence; extraordinary claims demand extraordinary evidence." -- Carl Sagan
(")_(") "Starting the fire from within."
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Originally posted by Oerdin
I've heard that in most cases were a man and a women are good friends it is because one of the two secretly likes the other one but is afraid to admite it.
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It's all your fault, George.(\__/) 07/07/1937 - Never forget
(='.'=) "Claims demand evidence; extraordinary claims demand extraordinary evidence." -- Carl Sagan
(")_(") "Starting the fire from within."
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Originally posted by korn469
Lorizael
the weirdness thing comes from turning a comfortable relationship intosomething that could be less comfortable but more rewarding if it works out, lots of times you are best friends with people of the opposite sex who are nothing like the people you wanna date
In my experience relationships have more stress than friendships do simply because there is more potential for getting your heart broken. A person could have more than one best friend at once, but it is highly doubtful they will have more than one serious committed relationship at once. Friendship is based around shared interests, mutual respect, and acceptance if not approval of your friend's behavior. While friendship is an important part of a good relationship, all of the shared interests in the world don't add up for that thing in your heart that makes you completely happy when you are around the person you love and completely miserable when you aren't. Simply because you have lots in common with a person doesn't make you two soulmates. There has to be that crazy emotional attachment to them that makes you wanna spend all of your time together plus having all of those shared interests, and I don't think it takes that long to figure out if it exists or not.
And in my weird case, I knew almost immediately that I wanted this girl. I at least thought it was pretty obvious that I was wanted too. The problem was that a number of different circumstances arose (me having another romantic partneer, her being totally turned off to men because of a bad experience, the both of us not being near each other at all) nothing was able to happen. Many months later, after a very strong friendship had developed, I said screw it all and asked her out anyway.Click here if you're having trouble sleeping.
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