Dating Between Friends

[Urban Ranger]

Originally posted by monkspider
I don't agree with Asher at all, I find that best friends or good friends often make the best foundations for sucessful relationships. After all, the old saying is "Happiest is the groom who marries his best friend."
I say you go for it Dave.

Agreed.

That's the best kind of relations, really, because you two are already compatible.

[korn469]

Looking for a serious relationship. Couldn't care less about casual dates, etc

wanting commitment is good in this situation, otherwise you probably would be throwing away a friendship

[MichaeltheGreat]

Originally posted by David Floyd
You'd think it'd be easy, wouldn't you?

It is. Just remember Frederick the Great's saying: L'audace, l'audace, toujours l'audace.

In other words, go for it, don't sit on your tush and analyze what if scenarios.

[korn469]

Originally posted by monkspider
I don't agree with Asher at all, I find that best friends or good friends often make the best foundations for sucessful relationships. After all, the old saying is "Happiest is the groom who marries his best friend."
I say you go for it Dave.

Agreed.

That's the best kind of relations, really, because you two are already compatible.

i disagree here
first we all know that UR is simply agreeing with monk to put him at odds with Asher

secondly
while i think you should become best friends with the person you are with, that a lasting passionate relationship will develop out of the way you relate to somebody, and that spark will make itself known from the begining
it shouldn't take years to figure out if you wanna be with somebody, you should know it right from the begining, although the situation you find yourself in could mean that you will have to settle for only being a person friend for the time being

[David Floyd]

it shouldn't take years to figure out if you wanna be with somebody, you should know it right from the begining,

[korn469]

hehe if that's the case david then you asked us the wrong question

what you should of asked is this:
how do i make this girl who only thinks of me as a friend like me back?

[Lorizael]

What is this weirdness thing? I don't understand that! Why is it weird for two bestfriends to become more than friends? I understand that it could end badly and damage the relationship, but why would someone suddenly become uncomfortable around someone that they tell their deepest secrets to??!

Sorry, I won't bring my own demented life into this.

I think you should go for it David, I'm definetely of the opinion that beginning a romantic relationship with someone you don't know is just asking for trouble. Whereas with a bestfriend you absolutely no the two of you get along well. I also would do whatever it takes to keep a best friend, even if the romantic relationship ended badly, but my mind works strangely.

[David Floyd]

how do i make this girl who only thinks of me as a friend like me back?

Oh, but that question sounds SO 6th gradish

[Asher]

But it's a totally different question!

[Asher]

If you've fallen in love with her already and you're just looking to find a way to make her love you back, it's totally different than starting off as two friends and wondering if you should persue her...

[Urban Ranger]

Originally posted by korn469
i disagree here
first we all know that UR is simply agreeing with monk to put him at odds with Asher

No. I agree with him because he's a comrade

[korn469]

Lorizael

the weirdness thing comes from turning a comfortable relationship intosomething that could be less comfortable but more rewarding if it works out, lots of times you are best friends with people of the opposite sex who are nothing like the people you wanna date

In my experience relationships have more stress than friendships do simply because there is more potential for getting your heart broken. A person could have more than one best friend at once, but it is highly doubtful they will have more than one serious committed relationship at once. Friendship is based around shared interests, mutual respect, and acceptance if not approval of your friend's behavior. While friendship is an important part of a good relationship, all of the shared interests in the world don't add up for that thing in your heart that makes you completely happy when you are around the person you love and completely miserable when you aren't. Simply because you have lots in common with a person doesn't make you two soulmates. There has to be that crazy emotional attachment to them that makes you wanna spend all of your time together plus having all of those shared interests, and I don't think it takes that long to figure out if it exists or not.

Oh, but that question sounds SO 6th gradish

david there is always the 6th grade solution to your problem...

give her a letter that says "if you like me check the first box, if not check the second"

[David Floyd]

She'd probably get a good laugh out of that, actually

[MRT144]

i usually shy away from situations like that. also most of my female friends are my best friends girlfriends.

[Urban Ranger]

Originally posted by korn469
In my experience relationships have more stress than friendships do simply because there is more potential for getting your heart broken.

No guts, no glory. If you don't take your chances, you will always remain at the same spot.