Did your parents spank you?

[Faboba]

Originally posted by Dalgetti
Never. I was always smart enough to reason with those silly baboons called 'parents'.

Seriously , my parents , from the very beginning went for the adult reasoning technique. I think it went great. They always have explained to me why I shouldn't do a certain thing. And if I did it and I got hurt in some way in the process, They'd simply say : 'see? told you so! now you know we're always right' . after a number of broken glasses , and a few scratches, I was as obedient as a puppy.

Hmmm... maybe you were especially precoucious but most of the young children I've encountered in my time are too bloody-minded to be reasoned with. Until the age of eight it's usually difficult to properly get through, almost certainly six.

That's why I don't like all this 'no spanking' crap at the moment. It's what breeds those insolent pieces of filth who appear on chat shows sub-titled 'Ricky - my 16 year old is a crack whore'

If I didn't show the proper respect to my parents I'd expect to get hit - even if it's just a clip round the ear. There's a difference between being playfully cheeky and being rude and insolent.

[Az]

I am sure that at first I wasn't . and did lots of bad stuff that hurt me, and made me cry. The Folks did the 'told you so' routine., for several times, and then I saw that they were right , and obeyed them.

[JohnIII]

I was, but not frequently.

On sibling rivalry: I have had quite afew fights with my brother, but the onlyitme I seriously injured him was by accident, when I fell on his arm and broke it .

[Faboba]

Originally posted by Dalgetti
I am sure that at first I wasn't . and did lots of bad stuff that hurt me, and made me cry. The Folks did the 'told you so' routine., for several times, and then I saw that they were right , and obeyed them.

So when did they tell you to become a communist?

[KrazyHorse]

He's not a Communist; he's just a Zionist infiltrator.

[Az]

well , I was BORN in the soviet union. I never went to school there, so I wasn't "brainwashed".

[Kropotkin]

My impression of the child-raising issue is that parents seem to make many stupid decisions. I'm not an expert as I've only seen one side of the parents-child intrecation first hand (as a child ). They seem to let them away with small things until it reaches a level until violence often is the fastest and simplest solution. As I grew up (almost) without spanking etc there must be a relatively "easy" way to do this. I hardly think I was special from the start.

It would seem important to put your foot down early in some way and be consistent. A typical example is children crying for candy in stores until the parents give in. It's a typical way of telling the kids that a no isn't a no if i nag about it etc. The children are bound to give up that tactics sooner or later if they never get anything that way.

My girlfriends mother used a "intresting" technique. When my girlfriend as a little girl made the "cry for candy"-stunt in the line at the supermarket her mother lay down on the floor next to her and screamed too. My girlfriend never did that again.

[Caligastia]

Originally posted by Kropotkin
My girlfriends mother used a "intresting" technique. When my girlfriend as a little girl made the "cry for candy"-stunt in the line at the supermarket her mother lay down on the floor next to her and screamed too. My girlfriend never did that again.

[Arrian]

Yeah, shame and public embarrassment are powerful weapons in a parent's arsenal. More powerful, IMO, than a belt.

-Arrian

[Kropotkin]

Smarter, faster and no need for violence.

If you want a society without violence you should start at home.

[Imran Siddiqui]

I was indeed... plenty of times. Sometimes by objects, like hangers and belts (though that was done very rarely). But yes... spanked I was.

[Boris Godunov]

Originally posted by Imran Siddiqui
I was indeed... plenty of times. Sometimes by objects, like hangers and belts (though that was done very rarely). But yes... spanked I was.

Was your mother Joan Crawford?

[Imran Siddiqui]

No, it was my father mostly... my mother hardly hit us.

[Faboba]

Your father was mostly Joan Crawford? It's a wonder you managed to turn out as well as you did!

[Boris Godunov]

Originally posted by Faboba
Your father was mostly Joan Crawford? It's a wonder you managed to turn out as well as you did!

Seriously, Imran, not to make judgements...but that makes me really angry.