"I don't know if I'm in love with you any more..."

[Arrian]

That is one of the single most awful sentences to hear in the entire English language. I've heard it. Good luck, Guy.

-Arrian

[Space05us]

That is one of the single most awful sentences to hear in the entire English language. I've heard it. Good luck, Guy.

I've heard it too.

Hopefully your reltionship will still work out.

[Mercator]

How long have you known/dated/lived with her?

[Guynemer]

Four years.

[Japher]

Remember...revenge is a dish best served cold

I prefer serving it luke warm

Sorry to hear about this Guynemer. Everything will work itself out for the better, I am sure of this. Her honesty is admirable. I know I would never say such things to a doctor...

[Solly]

She's feckin someone else. Sorry.

[Verres]

Bear in mind: she's female. A weakness of our species is that we often say these things without thinking - she was probably feeling confused or uncertain, and rather than waiting for these feelings to subside, she decided to express them directly without considering the implications, or the fact that they were transient and therefore not a indication of her hopes for the future of the relationship.

Obviously, you know her better than all of us and so are more aware of how likely this is. Just remember she said she thinks she doesnt love you. That implies confusion, its by no means an end to the relationship.

[JimmyCracksCorn]

Originally posted by Park Avenue
She's feckin someone else. Sorry.

I suspect she at least has someone in mind as well, probably not cheating, but it may be her way of telling you she wants to see other people, on some level.

Which means there's still hope...

[DRoseDARs]

Geez... At the very least you're finding out there's "a problem" before you get married.

[Spiffor]

Originally posted by Verres
Obviously, you know her better than all of us and so are more aware of how likely this is. Just remember she said she thinks she doesnt love you. That implies confusion, its by no means an end to the relationship.

Hear hear.

[Yef]

I think she doesn't want to get married.
If so, then its better to end it now.

It's not a good idea to marry someone that have doubts of the relationship so close to the wedding. She obviously have doubts, and you shouldn't try to share your live with someone that have doubts. Regrets can kill any relationship, and her doubts will eventually lead her into fantasizing how her life would have been with someone else, and this in turn will lead to regret, regret to unhappiness, and unhappiness to divorce. In short, you could be wasting your time, if stability its what you are looking for.

About her sincerity, don't be fooled. She is sincere, if she is, because it serves her. Everybody follows his/her own heart, and that only proves her doubts. She might be great, the best thing that ever happened to you, as you said, but she might not be the right thing for you. At least it appears she thinks you are not the right thing for her, and since love only works as a mutual feeling, then she might not be the right thing for you.

I know its hard to hear this things, but when it comes to love you better be as selfish as you can, or waste your life in relationships that will lead you nowhere.

[Koyaanisqatsi]

Coming from the other side of it--most people, when really depressed, will start to feel this way even if they truly love the person they are with. There's often also a tendency to push the people who care about them away; if they no longer care about themselves, then being around people who do care about them hurts. It may well be linked to that, and have little to do with you. Was the idea of counseling for the two of you, or her alone?

[Theben]

Sorry to hear about your luck, guy. Can't really add anything except try the counseling.

[Yef]

Originally posted by dv8ed
Coming from the other side of it--most people, when really depressed, will start to feel this way even if they truly love the person they are with. There's often also a tendency to push the people who care about them away; if they no longer care about themselves, then being around people who do care about them hurts. It may well be linked to that, and have little to do with you.

But then she is sick, and that's even a greater reason to walk away. I'd be glad to find this out before the wedding. After the wedding I would likely stick with her, despite that illness making both our lives unbearable.

[Koyaanisqatsi]

Ah. Empathy.