Originally posted by Azazel
Autists are described as having an extremely male brain, more inclined for cold calculation than for empathy.
Autists are described as having an extremely male brain, more inclined for cold calculation than for empathy.
-Our faces, voices and body language don't naturally react to our emotions to the same extent that normal people's do. Like I said, my voice has been described as overly flat in affect, mostly because I don't alter my tone unless I'm very excited or agitated, or am consciously trying to do so. I might have the makings of a great actor with all the pratice I have in miming emotion.
-We aren't naturally sociable. We don't dislike people, but our lack of normal social skills makes it a rather exhausting task to talk to them so we usually stay to ourselves to avoid a mental breakdown.
-On a similar note, we tend to be leery of people, because autistics are autistic from early childhood onwards, and we learn very quickly that opening up emotionally to others leaves you emotionally vulnerable. Autism makes you a lot easier for bullies to exploit, and a bully doesn't have to be a genius to figure it out, so from playground age onwards we are taught over and over again that open expression is a deliberate quest for pain. I'm not saying that's a good thing, but it's how many of us are.
-As a rule, we do not have the same appreciation for shades of grey that you probably do. Though the difference between right and wrong is defined differently by different autistics, we have in common that for all of us there is absolute truth and absolute falsehood, and any difficulty in discerning between the two is the fault of individual personality flaws rather than the given moral conundrum. This is in some ways a good thing, insofar as it makes us almost totally incorruptible and nearly immune to brainwashing. You could also make the argument that such a worldview is in fact the correct one, but let's not get into that. This also causes a problem, however, insofar as it makes us look horribly unsympathetic. For example, I personally do not give a rat's arse whether a woman was raped or sexually abused, whether the condom broke, or whatever, but consider abortion immoral regardless, because it is IMO not the child's fault that one or both of its parents was a creep or a fool. The pain felt by the parent is in my eyes unfortunate but irrelevant to the question, because the alternative to feeling that pain is unacceptable to me for unrelated reasons. The mother's feelings and the child's well-being are in this case two mainly independent conditions which happen to act against each other in one aspect, and that aspect is ideally considered in light of which concern is more important. The lesser concern is not devoid of value, it just isn't as important, which is all that matters by my reckoning. Other people don't see things that way. Note that this is just an example of my thought patterns chosen because it's one I think about a great deal and can explain well; please don't turn this thread into an abortion argument.
-That also affects our self-expression in some ways, as we decide whether or not to use a given word based on how specific and correct its meaning is and whether the person we're talking to knows it. So we sometimes sound like computers unless we're consciously trying not to, or have a lot of practice at blending in.
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