When is your SO, your SO, to the extent that sleeping with someone else is cheating?

[TCO]

I am a ratbastard myself. finally got my act in gear to look for tickets. They are too high. figured I could use miles, but those are all taken too. Hate the airlines. Really wish one would go bankrupt.

I had a voucher on United, but it had to be redeemed 2 weeks ahead and I screwed that up as well.

I know I'm a slug, but would have been good to get out of Richmond.

[Jon Miller]

hmm

wrong thread?

Jon Miller

[Adam Smith]

TCO:

re sleeping, the simple test is "Would the kittens be pissed?" Regardless of the ultimate outcome of the relationship, you don't want the kittens pissed.

Watch plus stuffed animal sounds like a good solution. "several hundred" might be a bit much, but you get points for knowing she needs one.

For future reference, check out Appalachian Spring for plenty of good jewelery in the $80 to $200 range. The sales people are very good, so you don't have to know much. They probably have one at Tysons or Fair Oaks. Appalachian Spring has always come through for rme.

[Sikander]

Originally posted by LTEC!
Once the thought that she might do it with someone else makes you cringe.

[KrazyHorse]

Originally posted by TCO
I got her a nice watch. Several hundred dollars. Would have gone a bit cheaper, but the one she had before was in that range. It's no biggie in the end.

Don't break the bank...

[Atahualpa]

Thanks

[Ben Kenobi]

Couple points here.

It's pretty open and shut for me. I'm not going to sleep with anyone except for my wife, so cheating would not really enter the equation until I get married.

Spiffor:

I am not stupid enough to have sex with someone else without using condoms Besides, my gf and I are very cautious about her taking the abortion pill.

What pill are you referring to? The morning after pill or RU-486? Neither are really meant to be used for birth control due to the side effects of the hormone dosages.

[JohnT]

Originally posted by LTEC!
Join the group of people ask questions that they know the answers for, hoping someone else tells them otherwise.

My thoughts exactly when I first saw the thread title. "You know it's cheating when you start asking yourself 'is this cheating?' "

[TCO]

Originally posted by Adam Smith
TCO:

re sleeping, the simple test is "Would the kittens be pissed?" Regardless of the ultimate outcome of the relationship, you don't want the kittens pissed.

Watch plus stuffed animal sounds like a good solution. "several hundred" might be a bit much, but you get points for knowing she needs one.

For future reference, check out Appalachian Spring for plenty of good jewelery in the $80 to $200 range. The sales people are very good, so you don't have to know much. They probably have one at Tysons or Fair Oaks. Appalachian Spring has always come through for rme.

I would have gone cheaper, but she had such a nice one that she lost...

Anyway, the kittens are sluts. they like to watch.

[TCO]

Originally posted by KrazyHorse


Don't break the bank...

Too late.

[MrFun]

I believe in monogamy.

So when would I consider my relationship to be pass dating, and established as a monogamous relationship?

After me and my SO/partner/boyfriend have discussed this and we agreed that we were to be exclusively committed.

If after this discussion, he has slept with someone else, or I have slept with someone else, then the commitment is broken. Obviously it's cheating.

[KrazyHorse]

Too late

Well, then.

My only advice is to get your money's worth.

[TCO]

Originally posted by KrazyHorse

Too late

Well, then.

My only advice is to get your money's worth.

She just told me her aunt got her a watch. Will be real interesting to see her reaction. Maybe I could tell her, I'll return it and get something cheaper? Back to the soccer ball?

[TCO]

Originally posted by MrFun
I believe in monogamy.

So when would I consider my relationship to be pass dating, and established as a monogamous relationship?

After me and my SO/partner/boyfriend have discussed this and we agreed that we were to be exclusively committed.

If after this discussion, he has slept with someone else, or I have slept with someone else, then the commitment is broken. Obviously it's cheating.

So if you never discuss it, you can cat around even if you've been with someone for years?

[MrFun]

Originally posted by TCO


So if you never discuss it, you can cat around even if you've been with someone for years?

If there is that kind of lack of communication between the two, what kind of relationship would it be, anyway?

But if there were two people who have been serious for quite some time without even discussing their relationship then I think the assumption of both of them would be that they are in an exclusively committed relationship.