Best Method for Approaching Women

[MikeH]

I actually once had a drunken mindfart moment once where I went up to a girl (without any real plan) and said "do you come here often?" Then I realised what I'd said, burst out laughing and said I was sorry, didn't know what made me say that. Blah, blah. She laughed... excellent start in the end.

[aaglo]

Originally posted by Sikander
I've usually been too shy to approach women for the obvious purpose of picking them up. But I have found that by amusing myself and those around me and ignoring the girl that I am most attracted to in the room, there is about a 65% chance that she will find a way to approach me. It works.

This is quite true

[Sikander]

Originally posted by MikeH
I actually once had a drunken mindfart moment once where I went up to a girl (without any real plan) and said "do you come here often?" Then I realised what I'd said, burst out laughing and said I was sorry, didn't know what made me say that. Blah, blah. She laughed... excellent start in the end.

Exactly the sort of situation it pays to be prepared for, and I so often haven't been. There was a girl who I was mooning over for weeks. She was in a kind of slow and distant orbit around the group of people I was hanging around with at the time. She was also gorgeous, petite, wore dresses. Very feminine with an easy grace. One night I was at a party, and being kind of bored I left the conversations in the kitchen and on the porch and went into the living room where the music was playing.

No one else is there, so I decide to play my favorite album at the moment which was helpfully sitting there. I put it on and within minutes I was transported into the wonderful world of that music. I closed my eyes and and sat back, drawing in the music and its emotion into every pore. I felt someone sit down next to me. I assumed that it is one of my friends, so I don't react much at first. Finally I decide to see who it is, and of course it is her! I'm speechless, but she's friendly and asks me what music is playing. I can't believe my fortune, and manage to put myself together enough to at least follow the conversation. But I was not prepared enough mentally to deal with the situation, and blew my opportunity by not making my attraction clear. A few weeks later she was dating another guy I knew. If I had stayed in Michigan I'm sure that she would have come around again (ie broken up with that guy, giving me another opportunity), but alas I moved to Boulder a year later. Well, at least there were others to occupy me most of that time.

[Makeo]

ok.
mission: approach woman (actually they approach me)
timeframe: next half hour
objective: to obtain future social contact


edit. who am i, the shermanator?

[MikeH]

Look at the girl he ended up with though...

[Makeo]

haha i bottled it. chatted for five minutes but forgot to ask her out.
shes coming back later in the week.

[Pekka]

Well it's pretty simple. It's like business. It's like selling a product, except that you are the product and the customer buying it is the woman. So, you have to be interesting. If she's a hottie, she gets all the compliments anyway, and has heard every single pick up line. Be original.

I have found body language to be maybe one of the most important things. Don't be a stick and blurt some nervous pick up line. Just be natural man...

.. or you can always go on a mission to talk lots of girls if you're nervous, and decide not to pick up them. Just say something to them. And if conversation really starts, then you can work on it. I have found that girls want to laugh, so it's good if you can make them laugh so that they're not doing it out of being polite, but because you can make them laugh. Then you can soon find out and master it, so you can control the situation and make her laugh at will. That's what I usually do, because I like to laugh myself and make someone laugh, so we wouldn't be nervous. It fails sometimes, but it works sometimes too. I'd give it a 50/50.

Depends very much where you are though...
'Can I stalk you'.

[*End Is Forever*]

Failing that, there's always www.sosuave.com...

Where's Bodds when you need him for a laugh?

[MikeH]

Oh yeah, I look forward to his expert posts on the matter later.

[*End Is Forever*]

I think he's banned for another few days sadly.

[Q Classic]

whatever you do, the neanderthal method of picking her up, throwing her over your soldiers, and trundling off to your cave does not work these days, or endears you to the female of the species.

unless she's already with you...

[*End Is Forever*]

Amusing quote of the week from Boddington's: "I'd get a girlfriend, but I can't be bothered right now..."

[Az]

www.sosuave.com ... I planned to start an invasion to that site...

[Makeo]

haha yeah i can't be bothered either.

[Pekka]

All I have to say is spandex. Spandex.