B****es all over my d**k

[Aeson]

I am afraid...

I am not scared...

Make up your mind.

You're either scared or not. You're either ****ing other girls or not. Be a man.

[Az]

My thoughts about this progressed in the last couple of days - I am not afraid anymore.

And I am definitely not ****ing other girls - I just want you to prove to me that I am not less of a man for this. Macho ethos, etc.

[Aeson]

I'm sorry, I'm not here to help you prove your manhood still functions correctly. Wiglaf may be able to help you there.

[Az]

[Pekka]

Az, definitely do not cheat.

It's a temptation. We all get tempted. When you get married, you can be sure you and your wife will be tempted, probably more than once, and will have the perfect opportunity to go for it.

But it's just a momentary thing. You'll regret it forever. You can only cheat once and then you have cheated. Maybe some people have cheated in their past but a new relationship is a new chance to not cheat. So don't do it. If you're into others much more, then break up first, say you are not ready to commit now.

It's just bodily urges. Sure it feels strong. Hey, I rarely get sex these days after having a kid and another one on the way. I just masturbate then. Because at the end of the day, she won't cheat either. When it's all said and done, and we're dying, I have that one person next to me. That means so much more than few times of sexy time with some broads.

It's not only that you can be with someone, it's that they can be with you as well! Jeesh, when ever I get pissed off at my SO, I just think what it's like to be with me and realize I'd be much more pissed off at myself.

Don't be an alpha if it requires you to make stupid decisions. To have sex with everyone? That's stupid. To control yourself, to have high set of values and to live by them takes way more testicles than having sex with many women. Odds are those women you had sex with were idiots anyway and you'd never marry them.

[Pekka]

Don't worry about the women you could have had sex with. That's hanging on to the past. You have to be future oriented if you want to make it. If you want to think of the past, think of happy times or be constructive about some hardships you've had. No reason to think about women in the past that MIGHT have had sex with you.

If you get these... patterns of thinking or urges or the feeling that you're missing something now because you are not seizing the opportunities presented, take that energy and put it into something useful. In your career, in your current relationship, bettering yourself. That's a lot of energy, nothing good comes out of it except sexual frustration. You will just implode at some point and blame it on others, like the person you love. You might blame them for not having sex with others. I know I have, in my mind, after which I came to think how ****ing stupid that is and how glad I am I never said it aloud.

I took that energy and started wanking more. I call it meditation.

[Az]

You had me, and then you lost me at the last line. It's not my sex drive, it is my pursuit of conquest which was bugging me.

Generally, though, thanks for the best advice in this thread. tell me, how old are you?

[MOBIUS]

The logic of the Supercitizen in full flow is a wonderful thing to behold...

[MOBIUS]

You had me, and then you lost me at the last line. It's not my sex drive, it is my pursuit of conquest which was bugging me.

Generally, though, thanks for the best advice in this thread. tell me, how old are you?

Sounds like you're bored and restless with this relationship thing, even if you don't actually know it yourself. If you weren't, this pursuit of conquest wouldn't even be an issue...

[Az]

Not really, more like "I wish I could have ****ed half the planet before settling down with my current girlfriend".

EDIT: But I am over that now, thanks to Pekka.

[MOBIUS]

Then you clearly have ****ed up ego issues...

I give your relationship six months.

[Az]

Never denied it. I am struggling to release myself from my perception of my father, who, I have often heard around the house, was a legendary ladies' man.

[MOBIUS]

which also means you're not happy/comfortable in yourself.

You need to start being you and not striving to compare yourself to someone else. Especially when their life choices might seem questionable in a normal societal context.

Are you living your life for you, or your father?

[Az]

How the hell are

their life choices might seem questionable in a normal societal context.

?

He still gets high-fived over his life choices. I am glad he made most of them, since had he married earlier, I wouldn't be having this conversation, if you know what I mean.

[Pekka]

Az, this is an easy way to remember it: No one has ever got into trouble/regretted it seriously that they did not have sex with someone. There's been plenty of hurt and regret of having sex with someone.

Sex, not having it.