I'm puzzled by the random little things about women

[Al B. Sure!]

so yeah, she's not responding to my texts or returning my calls.

I actually haven't talked to her much to even screw anything up. Since she sent me the pictures, I've had one conversation with her and that was basically just rap-related business; nothing stupid. When I mentioned a date, she didn't respond back. 2+ weeks ago, when I mentioned that, she said she couldn't wait. At first, I went a few days without calling her/texting her and she did not attempt to reach me during that time. I then would send her a text or call her every other day and get little to nothing; sometimes a text back like "hey what's up" but my follow up texts would go unanswered. Been two weeks of that and she hasn't answered/returned my calls since. She's alive; she's posted on facebook.


I told yall. All these women avoid me after a week. I need a step-by-step walkthrough of the first week. How is it supposed to go down?

I can't re-iterate enough. I've done nothing stupid. My conversation with her was just about possible collaborations and studio stuff. My texts since then were all basically "hey", "whats up?", "what you up to?", etc. except for a mention of something along the lines of "what are you doing Saturday?" (I know. Vague... bad. I should've had specific plans; been like, 'let's go to ____') and one text in which I said, "are you trying to see me this weekend?" which got no response either.

[Cort Haus]

http://philadelphia.craigslist.org/w4m/

[C0ckney]

dude, if she came any stronger her knickers would have caught fire, and you've somehow managed to **** it up.

[Al B. Sure!]

dude, if she came any stronger her knickers would have caught fire, and you've somehow managed to **** it up.

I told yall. I am clueless about this first week. I don't know what I'm doing wrong. You'd think I was calling her, not saying anything, and breathing heavily into the phone the way ALL these women lose interest after a week. Instead, I did nothing wrong. I gave her space, expressed interest, and put the ball on her court. What the hell?

All those previous women... I was not tripping... they all liked me. ****, why else would they all be flirting, giving me their number, agreeing to see me, etc. but ALL of them run away after a week!

WHY!?!!?!

[giblets]

Have sex with ugly women first, then move up to the better ones once you have some experience with women.

[Gesewa]

You forgot mentioning both or one of the girls being blonde.

[Imran Siddiqui]

Quite obviously, Al, you waited too long. The woman is probably thinking "I basically threw myself at the boy and if he can't be bothered, then I'm going in another direction". Once that's in her mind (after all, no one wants to be led along for a while), it's done. Of course your texts could have been more specific - esp after the "can't wait" for the date text.

[MRT144]

Quite obviously, Al, you waited too long. The woman is probably thinking "I basically threw myself at the boy and if he can't be bothered, then I'm going in another direction". Once that's in her mind (after all, no one wants to be led along for a while), it's done. Of course your texts could have been more specific - esp after the "can't wait" for the date text.

No, see Al was being aloof. He's doing exactly what he set out to do.

[Bugs ****ing Bunny]

There's probably a vital clue hidden in the picture you deleted before I was able to offer my unique insight on it.

[Riesstiu IV]

We need to archive this thread for when the rape trial proceedings begin.

[-Jrabbit]

Your answer is contained in back-to-back sentences:

2+ weeks ago, when I mentioned that, she said she couldn't wait. At first, I went a few days without calling her/texting her

So she said she couldn't wait, and you responded by waiting?????

[Zoetstofzoetje]

I can't re-iterate enough. I've done nothing stupid.

Come again? (Pun intended)

Listen, you showed zero initiative. Ignoring her for a few hours is ok. A few days and she finds another target. Also your texts sound superboring.

Forget about this one. The next on that shows interest:

1) Respond - not immediately, but after a few hours.
2) Make an appointment. Nothing too desperate like 'tonight' if it's tuesday... but Friday night if it's a wednesday is ok
3) Be interesting and interest her. Don't throw yourself at her, make it clear to her that you're interested but pretend that you've not decided yet if she's good enough for you.

If this fails with the next one again, consider throwing yourself at one of those pick-up artist forums. 32-year old virgins group together to scientifically deduce how to seduce women. Still, might be a step up for you... (Hey, it's better to be confronted with the truth than have someone sugarcoat you some false reality, n'est-ce pas?)

[Al B. Sure!]

3) Be interesting and interest her. Don't throw yourself at her, make it clear to her that you're interested but pretend that you've not decided yet if she's good enough for you.

Isn't that what I did?

And this girl told me she was interested in me last summer... LAST SUMMER. If she was cool waiting this long, why wouldn't she have been cool a couple days?

[Zoetstofzoetje]

Menstrual cycle. They get horny, they stop being horny, repeat. You missed your chance. + the other stuff I said about you being boring and slow. Hey, the best thing to do now is to ignore her. She might get back to you in a few weeks.

[MRT144]

Isn't that what I did?

And this girl told me she was interested in me last summer... LAST SUMMER. If she was cool waiting this long, why wouldn't she have been cool a couple days?

Reaping what you sew! Being aloof sure worked!