Why is life so hard?

[ricketyclik]

Why is life so hard?

Why is life so hard?

Why should it not be?

[Adagio]

In my personal view, Filipino women are not the most, shall I say, loving. Anyone who has seen a soldier with a Filipino bride knows where my view comes from. Men overseas meet these women; beautiful, young, love to sing even with their god awful voices, loyal, respectful, and age slowly. But in the end they tend to drain the bank account with their constant family traveling or making you dish out to transit her entire family to where you are.

I have heard a lot of those stories too. If she was in it for the money she could have picked any other guy
On the other hand, she doesn't care much about her family back home (with the exception of her two siblings). The part of her family that she cares about lives outside the Philippines

I hope you've learned your lesson: don't date a foreigner.

Danish girls are too boring

[Lefty Scaevola]

Why is life so hard?

To prepare you somewhat for the afterlife, which is much, much worse.

[Zkribbler]

Thanks
The Philippines. It probably wont be possible for me to get a job there in my field ...

Count on it. The only person I know of who made a reasonable amount of money in the Philippines is Aeson, and he can only because he runs an internet business and can do it from anywhere in the world.

[RGBVideo]

You have my sympathy. Everyone should be allowed to live wherevr thy have people to vouch for them. In context, where is the "other end of the world?" Why is the only solution moving her rather than you? Do you really think that 6 months to two years of intermittant separation is a long time?

in girl months, thats approx 12 other guys he'll be ****ing with

edit: oh, she's been raised as a filipina. doesn't apply to her, then... i thought we were talking about danish chicks

[MrFun]

Do you really think that 6 months to two years of intermittant separation is a long time?

Dumb questions are annoying.

[Rufus T. Firefly]

Well, since I'm the guy that Lancer goes to for his Filipina visa advice, I think I can weigh in here as Poly's expert.

So first off: sucks to be you, and sucks that Filipinas are so notorious fro entering into sham marriages for immigration purposes.

That being said, a question: what if you went to the Philippines and married her there? Would presenting her to the Danish or German governments as your wife, rather than your fiance, make any difference (it would under US law)?

[Theben]

Also be wary that, after she can legally stay overseas, her eyes cast around as much as any other woman...

[Adagio]

That being said, a question: what if you went to the Philippines and married her there? Would presenting her to the Danish or German governments as your wife, rather than your fiance, make any difference (it would under US law)?

Unfortunately not. For it to make any difference in Denmark I would need to have lived with her for several years in some other country as far as I know. Otherwise it would still cost a lot
Also it would need that we then get married in February in the Philippines, and then after the marriage we will apply for her to be allowed to stay, which would then also mean that we have to wait 6-12 months before we know if she can stay by me

[Zkribbler]

I wonder if the Philippine Embassy can be of any help? They would know the ends and outs of working with the local government and laws, and one of their jobs is to help their citizens who are abroad. It's worth a phone call and/or a visit.

For the record: Zkribbler stands four square in favor of love & marriage.

[Dis]

come to Vegas to get married. We need the business.

But I feel for you. It's tough to be young I suppose. And even tougher to be in love. I hope you find something that works.

[dannubis]

Danish girls are too boring

[Adagio]

I wonder if the Philippine Embassy can be of any help? They would know the ends and outs of working with the local government and laws, and one of their jobs is to help their citizens who are abroad. It's worth a phone call and/or a visit.

Unfortunately there's no Philippine Embassy in Denmark

[Lancer]

Do whatever it takes. My wife is from Bohol and we've been married over 12 wonderful years. We live here on Bohol quite a bit of our time. I thought the US process was tiresome but Denmark sounds pretty extreme. Adagio, what if you married her here in the Phils and until that law helps you just travel back and forth, 6 months here, 6 months there in Denmark. Question, how many months away in each year does the Danish government require to meet their qualification of living with your wife here?

You're impatient I understand and your government is telling you basicly who you should and should not marry and they have their laws on their side, many of them there for your protection. That's a biggy I learned from Rufus. While I don't know your Danish laws its possible that some of those laws are there for that purpose. You just have too jump through the hoops, that's my experience gleaned from helping several Americans and by harassing Rufus for his gems of wisdom. Anyway, life is long and this too shall pass if you stick with it. If she's the girl you expect her to be then someday she'll be with you there for many years to come. It will be like it is for Dolores and I, the government a fading memory and our lives are our own. (except we are always helping others through the process and offering encouragement.)

I'll ask my wife about this too, she's got some friends or relatives married to Danish guys. First thing she'll ask is what island your fiance calls home?

[Berzerker]

love will find a way