Part 2: What do gays PRIMARILY look for in their partners?

[Asher]

BTW Asher, thanks for the answer. Do you even know how stupid that makes you "guys" sound? It's an honest question that many find intriguing. I wasn't confronting you, I was asking seriously, but immediatly, you felt cornered and answered like a 15 year old boy. Get over your self.

It's a retarded question that generalizes an incredibly complex and person-specific question. It doesn't deserve a serious answer.

As for relationship duration, I've been in my relationship for 4.5 years now.

[Asher]

QCubed: Are you teh bi? I'd no idea.

[Flubber]

Originally posted by Spec


Before I tell you guys, I would like to have this answered. Generally, may it be with gay man or gay women, do their relashionships tend not to last as long as hetero couples do? I honestly have no idea.

Well the stereotype is that gay men will almost all have lots of sex with lots of different partners. Some may settle down with one person.

The stereotype for lesbians is commited relationships-- with very little fooling around.

Since these sterotypes are pretty much the same as for heteros . .. men want sex, women want relationships - -- take it as just that-- a stereotype

[Flubber]

Originally posted by Q Cubed


Sex isn't a big deal, it's a bothersome physical affair that only has meaning if there's an emotional connection.

I actually think that this is an unfortunate opinion. To consider sex to be bothersome??

TRy to have more fun and if you don't want sex without an emotional connection well then don't have it. It should be a pleasurable activity and never, ever as negative as you portray it

[Spec]

Originally posted by Asher
It's a retarded question that generalizes an incredibly complex and person-specific question. It doesn't deserve a serious answer.

Still feeling cornered?

As for relationship duration, I've been in my relationship for 4.5 years now.

Not talking about you, talking about in general.

Spec.

[Arrian]

Asher is right, Spec. We tried to explain this in the other thread, but you wouldn't accept it.

Just go ahead and make your big proclaimation about what you think the answer is.

-Arrian

[Asher]

Originally posted by Spec


Still feeling cornered?

Cornered? Why would I be cornered?

I'm open about my sexuality. I'd feel more cornered if I were a French Canadian not-so-subtly inquiring about homosexuality.

[MikeH]

Originally posted by Asher

BTW Asher, thanks for the answer. Do you even know how stupid that makes you "guys" sound? It's an honest question that many find intriguing. I wasn't confronting you, I was asking seriously, but immediatly, you felt cornered and answered like a 15 year old boy. Get over your self.

It's a retarded question that generalizes an incredibly complex and person-specific question. It doesn't deserve a serious answer.

- FACT!

[Spec]

Hmmmm FACT, is it?

Then, answer me this.

Most of us agreed in the other thread that we could generalize for hetero men and women. Right?

Spec.

[Arrian]

Actually, lots of posters objected to that, including (in his special way) Asher.

-Arrian

[Spec]

But MOST agreed.

Yes, or no?

Easy question. The answer is yes.

You, wiggy and LS (For some reason) disagreeded. I understand that your wife is "special" in a kind of way but not different as I explained, wiggy always disagrees no matter what....why LS disagrees is beyond me....

So my other question is, why is it wrong to generalize with gays? If Asher could be a little more mature and reasonnable, he could probably tell me why its bad to generalize with gayss and not with heteros.

Spec.

[Lorizael]

Golly, Spec, why is it that every single statement you make is a gross generalization? Gross generalizations are never right, Spec. Only douches make generalizations.

[Asher]

Originally posted by Spec

So my other question is, why is it wrong to generalize with gays? If Asher could be a little more mature and reasonnable, he could probably tell me why its bad to generalize with gayss and not with heteros.

Spec.

It is bad to generalize both. Taste is subjective.

For instance, I find the concept of being in the same room as you repulsive but I'm sure there's at least one creepy old guy in the world salivating over taking you to bed and making you beg for mercy.

[Cort Haus]

Originally posted by Arrian
Asher is right, Spec. We tried to explain this in the other thread, but you wouldn't accept it.

Indeed. Though I wouldn't go as far as Asher in calling the question 'retarded', but a number of us were claiming that generalising about this with a straight-forward 'one size fits all' answer is likely to be an over-simplification.

[MikeH]

Yeah, I posted stupid answers in the other thread because that one was silly too. It was also just a bit smug. "I know what women want in a relationship, do you?". Please.

Most people agreeing with you in the other thread doesn't mean very much IMO. Poly is hardly a bastion of great relationship advice or knowledge.

Even so, I think a lot of people disagreed and many more didn't post coherent disagreements because we couldn't be bothered.