My problem with porn (need some advice)

[Spiffor]

Dis's girlfriend has found 'Poly?

[Lancer]

Men look at porn for the same reason that a woman fixates on what color to paint her lips that day.

[Provost Harrison]

Originally posted by Spiffor
Dis's girlfriend has found 'Poly?

[Dis]

Originally posted by Spiffor
Dis's girlfriend has found 'Poly?

hey now. My girl would never be wantin' more. . But I can't speak for that yet, as we haven't done it yet.

[shellym]

been there done that, have talked arugued etc etc, he is well aware that i dont feel like we have enough sex, twice aweek! seriously! I dont know what its like to be a 35yr old but come on its only 35 not fing 65!

I agree i would like to share in some of his porn habits, he doesnt feel its right, it should be secretive he thinks.

He does not go solo unless its with me its not at all.... ummmm so now whats your thoughts eh?

Michelle

[General Ludd]

Originally posted by Lancer
Men look at porn for the same reason that a woman fixates on what color to paint her lips that day.

Sorry to break it to you, but masterbation doesn't make you more attractive. Infact, the cumstains on your pants can have quite the opposite effect.

[Dis]

that's why you don't masturbate with your pants on.

[Dis]

I really don't know what to say. You say you've talked about it. He should be more considerate of your feelings on this matter. As I mentioned before you could try a relationship therapist or something. But you'd need somebody reputable.

And your post is a little confusing, he says he goes solo with you? I thought he liked to view his porn in secret? Either way, that seems strange. I can see going solo every now and then for old times sake. And because porn is something different. But it is impacting your sex life.

I'm at a loss for advice. I can't imagine having a wife who wanted to have sex with me, and turning it down. I've been looking for this for years.

[shellym]

sorry ment he does NOT go solo (jerk off) so he isnt (according to him) looking at porn for a jump start or to jerk off to, this is why i dont understand his desire to look at it (he wants all of it pics dvds all of it), if it isnt to get you going (either to jerk off, or to come to me) then why? Thats what i meant about hes worried that if we do look at it together i will want to have sex more! Seriously worried about that!

[Dis]

in that case he may just have a lower sex drive than you. I'm not sure there's a whole lot you can do about it.

But I just can't imagine looking at porn for no particular reason. I only look at it a couple times a month, myself. And that's for the primary purpose of you know what.

[Jon Miller]

Its an addiction, he does it out of habit.

Addictions can be hard to break, and impossible if the person doesn't want to do so. However, if he isn't jerking off then it might be unrelated to the two of you having different sexual appetite levels (I would suggest that he needs to work with you on that, spouses are suppose to do their best to satisfy their mates).

Jon Miller

[shellym]

yeah yeah i know! I wish it was that simple for me, well thanks again for all the advice.. still have no idea what this site is for but it was nice talking.

Michelle

[Geronimo]

Originally posted by Lorizael


I just wonder how a woman worrying about her man's porn addiction stumbled onto Apolyton...

maybe by googling for "Do all men look at porn?"

[Jon Miller]

I know it was an addiction for me, and for a lot of other guys. It starts out with masturbation, proceeds to porn watching (w\masturbation) and then apparently the masturbation can stop, but the porn can still be there...

Habits formed of a life time are hard to break.

Jon Miller

[shellym]

But do they need to be broken? He is obviously finding it too hard and wnts to start again, should he? He story is compelling, he doesnt want to give up something he thinks is natural.