My problem with porn (need some advice)

[General Ludd]

Re: Re: My problem with porn (need some advice)

Originally posted by duke o' york


Right..... Ask some of the guys here who are/were in the army and I'm sure that they'll confirm that porn has no place whatsoever on an army base, and that those soldiers who look at porn are seen as weirdos by their comrades.

Who needs porn when you're surrounded by fit studs?

[Kuciwalker]

The previous boyfriend in the army was lying.

[shellym]

Thanks all of you!

Not sure you helped all that much, confermed alot of what i was already thinking ie he does it .. like it or lump it! Not the positive message i was hoping for, not sure what i was hoping for.

Not sure how i stumbled on the message log but very glad i did, some of you are quite weird and honest.. hard thing to find these days.

Thanks
Michelle

[Donegeal]

Originally posted by Lorizael


I just wonder how a woman worrying about her man's porn addiction stumbled onto Apolyton...

It's Ms Tubs DL!!!!!

[Velociryx]

some of you are quite weird and honest.. hard thing to find these days.


weird's easy to find (and you've certainly come to the right place for that!)

-=Vel=-
(but I agree with you 'bout the honest part...that IS a good bit tougher to find these days )

[atawa]

If a man watches porn you shouldnt be insecure. Its like pubnight with the mates or football, dont try to understand it, just accept that we cant live without it.

[atawa]

Oh, now if your man is increasing his daily porndosis its indeed a sign he's getting bored........

[Gibsie]

Originally posted by Lorizael


I just wonder how a woman worrying about her man's porn addiction stumbled onto Apolyton...

Well if you want the opinion of men who do little more than whack off to porn all day, you could do worse than come to Apolyton...

[Lorizael]

I wonder if we should tell her that this website has nothing to do with porn? (ignoring the habits of the members offsite)

Edit: Arg, timing sucks.

[Nanimo]

I believe that the most important thing is that the partner remains emotionally faithful, the sexual and the physical is secondary.

Looking at porn is masturbating is natural and healthy for most human beings, women included. Of course, it becomes a problem when it is an addiction which is consumed in secret.

I think that if you could make it an activity that both of you can enjoy, then it could become a further aspect of your relationship that can strengthen your bond. By sharing such a close and intimate act with your partner, you will also have the added bonus of increased sexual satisfaction for yourself. Seems like a win-win situation to me.

You will get to see how he works, what works on him, and increase your understanding of him as a sexual beinig.

Likewise for yourself, you should be able to find your niche and find what kind of porn or other external stimulation works for you. It might be photos of naked men, or it might be sensual videos of women receiving cunnilingus... or it might be having your partner read out erotic literature to you...

I guess, the best way to think about it is... well, think positive, and make it into more fun, games and experimentation with your partner...

[Nanimo]

Having said that.... I think sometimes masturbation needs to be a private business... and, as with life in general, sometimes you just need some time and space with yourself.... though, if that "alone time" grows exponentially, then I think that maybe it's best to talk about the relationship and maybe remove the pesky problem of having to see eachother at all...

[Dis]

doesn't seem like the usual DL post, so I'll respond.

I've never been married though, so I may not be qualified to say anything. But you say you want more than he can give. It seems like he's giving too much away by himself. This looks to be a problem to me. I can't imagine preferring solo activities to sex. But again, I've never been in that situation. He may want to do that once in a while. Maybe a couple times a month seems reasonable. I don't know how good those sex therapists are, some of them may be quacks. But it may be worth a shot.

[Dis]

Originally posted by Japher


Unlike those of us who post here, whose wives would one day like to check our browser history and see porn sites rather than Poly threads

women know how to use browser history?

[Dis]

Originally posted by alva


There's a small link.

Seriously, there's seems to be some correlation between size and succes (sperm having to travel less distance, etc...).
However, that wasn't the point of my post. It had more to do with size and faithfullness, not succes rate.

I know what you are talking about, it was on some tv program on the learning channel or something. The mongamous lifestyle of primates was based on penis size. I can't remember the exact details though.

[Dis]

Originally posted by shellym
Thanks all of you!

Not sure you helped all that much, confermed alot of what i was already thinking ie he does it .. like it or lump it! Not the positive message i was hoping for, not sure what i was hoping for.

Not sure how i stumbled on the message log but very glad i did, some of you are quite weird and honest.. hard thing to find these days.

Thanks
Michelle

don't go yet. You haven't read my posts. . Seriously, you should drop some subtle and not so subtle hints that you want a little more. But other than that, don't worry about his porn use too much. Just indicate you'd like a little more attention as well.