Oi women are teh confusing. 'Poly women mind translating for me?

[Colon™]

Originally posted by Imran Siddiqui


Still am. I consider chivalry to be a misogynistic anacronism among other things. I just think that it is silly to ignore that the "maybe I like you, maybe I don't" playing around practiced by a lot of women is horribly cruel, and derives from the ridiculous women have to play hard to get so they don't get seen as sluts morality.

Women acting more like men sexually is not a bad thing. It's progress. Denying our inherant sexuality and desires under the guise of 'morality' is absurd.

I agree with you, even though I can understand the need not to appear too willing. That friend I mentioned in my previous post has had A LOT of boyfriends who treated her like crap, essentially because she didn't play it by the rules. Luckily she now appears to have found someone who won't abuse her honesty.

Whenever I see a girl who at first sight looks like a slut or who's labelled as a slut, I'm inclined to believe she's just not playing the game as she's expected to. With at least some of them, when I got to see their other side, they actually appeared extremely insecure and shy.

It goes both ways...

[Tuberski]

Originally posted by Ted Striker
I think you guys are being really cruel to Lancer and are projecting alot of crap onto him that has absolutley nothing to do with his situation. Maybe you saw some crap on Oprah or Dateline Wednesday with their "expose" of the week.

He and his wife are happier than most people I know and they are good, decent people. So who is to stand here in judgement of them.

Bottom line is that they are happy people, who gives a damn how they met.

It's not how they met that caused the problem, it's the constant pimping of Phillipinas that grates on the nerves.

We would neither know, nor care, where Lancer met his wife, if he didn't post about it in every single thread.

I've been to the Phillipines and it's not all paradise like he claims.

ACK!

[Lancer]

Originally posted by boann
go head , go find some foreign woman who doesn't know any better , who just wants a ride to america,
and who will be your quiet little slave girl. who won't talk back to you or have an opinion thats not yours.
who will wait on you hand and foot and do anything you say , cause she doesn't know any better. being raised in a repressed society where women are property.

but you may just have to go over there to live
because once you bring them home they will learn
all about freedom and mix with us awful american women and find out they don't have to put up with your bs... so you might as well not bother.

or better yet just blow up a doll that would cost less.

Btw, my wife actually does live here with me in the US. She's shocked at the way some American women treat their husbands and talk about them to others at work. She thinks less of some American women than I do. Dolores has freedom to go and do as she pleases, which she does. She likes to spend her time at home with her husband. Dolores has had her freedom since she was born, the Phils is a free country as is the US. However filipnias don't choose to do the same with their freedom that many 'enlightened' western women do. They care about themselves, their reputations, and they love their husbands and respect their husbands opinion and point of view. "Slave girl"? "your quiet little slave girl."
Woman, you are offensive.

"who just wants a ride to america,"

You think you know my wife's motives? Ever met her? Do you think for a second she would say such a thing about you?

Enough of this waste of time.

[Lancer]

Hey! Guys, Ted, Imran, Colon too, thank you!

[Imran Siddiqui]

Whenever I see a girl who at first sight looks like a slut or who's labelled as a slut, I'm inclined to believe she's just not playing the game as she's expected to. With at least some of them, when I got to see their other side, they actually appeared extremely insecure and shy.

I find the same about 'playas'. There is a reason why they display a macho exterior all the time. It's like that old cliche about the macho homophobe really being gay underneath it all.

The 'rules' of society make them feel they have to overcompensate for their shyness and insecurities. They have to show their manliness.

[Ted Striker]

Originally posted by Tuberski


It's not how they met that caused the problem, it's the constant pimping of Phillipinas that grates on the nerves.

We would neither know, nor care, where Lancer met his wife, if he didn't post about it in every single thread.

I've been to the Phillipines and it's not all paradise like he claims.

ACK!

Lance does mention it alot, that's true.

But I think he just sees the younger guys that are frustrated and wants to help them out, share something that he has found that has worked for him.

I think what made me really mad was boann's post with the whole, "slave girl" thing. Especially since she doesn't even know Lance and is basing alot of it on generalizations. I mean it totally sounds like a Dateline story.

I can just see Jane Pauley now. "But how do these girls REALLY feel? I went with my crew to find out just that."

[Mr. Harley]

For the record - getting hit in the head really hard hurts substantially less then getting hit in the nuts. You are knocked out cold. Now the waking up, swelling, ice packs, etc. for several days - that hurts ALOT more.

Boann - sorry to hear about you bad luck. I do agree with Oerdin. I found myslef at 29 out of a five year bad relationship, with friends who preferred hammer and tong arguments, and had to reexamine why I had picked so many unpleasant people in my life. I realized that (and this has been written about) that I had a high tolerance for those people, due to my father. I said "Screw this, I want to be happy." I'm still working on it, but my life is much better now, even with other problems outside my control that suck.

[Ted Striker]

shawn,

What's a "hammer and tong" argument? I have never that term before.

[Lancer]

Hammer and tongs...I think that's doing the wild thing.

[Mr. Harley]

"Hammers and tongs" as in blacksmiths - like Molly Bloom and Ned arguing over WW2 history.

[Mrs. Tuberski]

I dont think boann said that lances wife in particular was a slave girl. she may have made a generalization. Just as the older mexicans did, the ladies served then men. in the united states women dont do this so to attack boann for a simple comment might be a bit off.
Yes lancer does have a tendency to mention to all of the folks here to go get a phill woman. Has it occured that that might be an insult to the america woman??? I guess not by all means lets just all roll over and play stupid like this hasnt been going on for a while now. Im glad that lancer is happy with his wife thats al god but i do regret to say i might have been offended by him saying the phill ladies are better then the american ones

[Ted Striker]

Well, she has it in for Lance personally, so I have no doubt it was specifically directed at him.

[Ben Kenobi]

i do regret to say i might have been offended by him saying the phill ladies are better then the american ones

Well, it's been my experience that American women are better than Canadians.

[Ben Kenobi]

Hey Ted, can you fill us newbies in on what you mean by a personal feud between boann and Lancer?

[Lancer]

"the phill ladies are better then the american ones"

I always say 'many' western women, to avoid such generalizations.

Certainly there must be western women who a very good.

However many western women ignore that in order to accuse me of something else.