Why am I such a good friend!?

[Space05us]

I dont want to be a friend, I want to be in a relationship damnit!

Is there some secret phrase/handshake that Im missing out on or something?

[joncha]

Yeah. You ugly.

[Pyrodrew]

The reverse is bad too. Not so attractive women or giant amazons seeking a relationship and flirting then when you don't show any interest back they turn from a friendly acquaintance into a vile succubus trying to make your work life hell.

[Ted Striker]

Pyrodrew,

You've been hitting it in the maintenance closet, huh?

[Pyrodrew]

Originally posted by Ted Striker
Pyrodrew,

You've been hitting it in the maintenance closet, huh?

Trade shows are better, there's a larger sample of women.

The most attractive woman I've ever dated from the office looked like a young Julia Roberts. But, I normally stay away from office relationships.

Is there some secret phrase/handshake that Im missing out on or something?

These threads usually result in "don't seek women/relationship advice from the Poly forum." I would offer some suggestions, but since I'm not in a relationship now it would seem hypocritical.

[oedo]

Behave like a friend and you'll be a friend. Behave like a lover and you'll be a lover. Plain and simple.
Not a single time in my live I've been able to turn a friendship to a girl into a relationship. Not a single time in my life I've been able to turn a relationship into a friendship after we broke.

[Urban Ranger]

Originally posted by oedo
Behave like a friend and you'll be a friend. Behave like a lover and you'll be a lover. Plain and simple.

There's a huge grey area in the middle.

[Harovan]

oedo has it right. And UR, that grey area is not as huge as you think. If you aren't a winner, you're a loser. It matters not if you are second or last. ("you" not meaning you specifically).

[Urban Ranger]

That certainly isn't my experience.

My take is space keeps missing the non-verbal cues. There's only a window of opportunity, and if he misses it, he remains a friend.

[DeathByTheSword]

and if you miss the window you are in the friend zone


but this is all bull...i have met girls i was friend with for a year and after one night of hot drunken monkey sex we had a 'relationship'... so my advice....everything is possible with tequila

[oedo]

well yes, alcohol could work.

filling up your female friend up in order to **** her

but contact Thomas Mesereau before you try that.

[DeathByTheSword]

err...i most the drunk one...

[Urban Ranger]

Originally posted by DeathByTheSword
and if you miss the window you are in the friend zone


but this is all bull...i have met girls i was friend with for a year and after one night of hot drunken monkey sex we had a 'relationship'... so my advice....everything is possible with tequila

The thing is you have no idea when the window is going to swing open and when it is going to slam shut.

[DeathByTheSword]

Originally posted by Urban Ranger


The thing is you have no idea when the window is going to swing open and when it is going to slam shut.

with tequila slammers every thing starts swinging and flying....


but you are ofcourse right...but ever closed door and be talked or forced open by your charms ..that is my experience atleast...i never had a girlfriend that I wasnt friends with first for a long time...(probably this is because people has to learn to like my strange habits)..i dont give a very good first impression.

[Pekka]

here is how you end the friend part - ask the person to join you for a tea.. make sure you use posh old british accent and maneurs. Be like one of those 'I am the personal friend of Dutches Yorkenminster and I kindly wish to inform you, sir, that you are free to explore the great lands of my ancestors if you accept my invitation for fox hunting, jolly merry bloody buggery'...

then when she comes, teabag her from behind (she sitting on couch) and say you were all out of tea but you had the bags. Don't lose the accent. A gentleman is a gentleman, even when bagging a dear friend.