girl thread

[Pekka]

az, No no.. it's more.

Ralph, you were drop head first as a kid so there.

[Az]

Just ****ing call her. You annoy the **** out of me. If you call her, I'll make an attempt to trace this chick I knew from highschool.

[Pekka]

I annoy you? Ok what ever then.

I might call her or not, I won't post in this thread about it anymore.

[Az]

Doesn't really matter since it seems that I can predict your actions and their consequences just fine.

Spam away, people!

(you're free to open another thread about it, when you finally decide to call, so as not to break your precious promise)

[child of Thor]

Originally posted by Pekka
I don't know.. I'm thinking after I actually picked up the phone now twice, maybe this isn't meant to be even when I feel so. I just don't know. Yesterday and today, I've been thinking maybe the best solution is to get over it, connect with someone else or something. I trust in my fate. If it's meant to happen, it's meant to happen. I'll prolly bump into her somewhere anyway when I change my residence back to the old neck of the woods anyway, plus we have mutual acquaintances so it's bound to happen at some point. I'm not talking about quitting though. I've just been thinking, maybe this isn't such a great idea after all. I mean, she says OK let's go out then what? We still live in different cities, she ain't moving in with me from another city just like that. And I can't move there either. Long distance then? Nah, won't work. I mean yeah it can work but.. I mean I have to think about myself. I want to get my degree, keep my eyes on the goal and not let anyone interrupt me with emotions and stuff. I need to stay cool and rock. I've been thinking that ever since I started with this whole emotions things again, I have achieved less in hard cold statistics, and it made me weaker. So, from now on, I'm only allowed to feel pissed off and angry, and victorious to balance it out. Plus, there might be a small chance of me fighting too (competition), so I'm not going to let my mind go into stupid places. Romance and what ever crushy tushy is in the ban now for unknown time.

Well i think we should respect Pekkas wishes - he has good reasons not to just call her for a quick 'hi - how are you?' type call.

I just hope that in the years to come, she doesn't fall in love with some other guy and you loose your chance. Still the Norns will weave their fates for mankind as they see fit, if your meant to suffer a little hardness then so be it. As you say these situations can make a strong man stronger, so use the positives as best you can

[Pekka]

you're only making it easier not to attention whore about it.

It's a different thing when it doesn't matter what you do or say, someone is still going to bash you for it. As far as what I'm going to do with the whole thing, well, most likely I'll continue what I was doing, but talking about it in here is not a win win situation. You can only lose talking in here about it, because no matter what you do, this will happen.

You might go and say yeah well now he won't call anymore. Like I said, it's a no win situation. Or you can say, you called her, and she said no, well, we knew that anyway what did you expect. Or if I call her and she says yes, there will be 4 balloons and then 'well it won't last, things starting out like that, it's a joke'. Or 'she just wants to be polite/friend'. There are few things that I care for and would risk my neck over, and I don't feel like getting bashed for it, for the few things that are important to me. So in that sense, while I care what you people think about it and say about it, I also care about the situation more and can just STFU. And you know how difficult it is for me to shut up. Well, I will shut up about it, because you guys won't let me move around but force into no win situation. It's for me, not for you. It's for me. I already called. I called twice. You think that was easy for me? It was very difficult and stressful. You might say, well, we call girls all the time so what's your problem. Hey, I call girls too all the time, let's get a reality check virtual studs, I've actually gone out during this year, more than once . OK? So, it's not about that, it's about my personal built up about this particular case.

But Kid got me thinking what he said with the whole building up thing and I think he's right. But no matter what, I'll have to check it out, I won't say what if later on. That's what I need to do, what I don't need is to build up more pressure from you guys about it. I'm a worrier, and I go about it relaxed, and I haven't enjoyed these couple of days at all. I'm thinking who am I doing this for. For you or for myself. This is for myself, and the better I feel about it, the better I can go on about it, so no, I don't need to answer to any of you about it. I expected to get advices and support, and I got some, but I didn't expect mass of trolls from people I knew from here. I expected folks to go on more like laurentius, my political arch enemy, who offered to even set it up IRL. I have to respect and appreciate that. And unlike many others, he didn't start with the whoel bashing and pressuring thing. I said several times I don't work like that, to try to push me into something where I'm kind of nervous to go won't get me to do it, it has the opposite effect and only makes me pissed off.

So I prolly will make a thread if I hook up with her, maybe, but I won't discuss with this anymore. And the next person who tries to imply and suggest something about my decision can look in the mirror. If you won't help, why would you go and screw around when thjis clearly means much to me? It's not helping any. So I'd rather not think about what some trolling dudes might think about, I'm just going to think about how I can make my moves outside the internet and go on about that. But to be honest, yeah, I did kind of assume it wouldn't go to this, I'm not disappointed at all, just surprised. Well, I'm now wiser and won't make the same mistake again.

In other words I feel like I need to shut up and put up. Stop the talk and walk the walk. All champs isolate themselves and train and go execute. And the crowd is nothing but entertainment seeking bastards .

ta-ta!

[Hueij]

Ahhh... SuperCitizen is offended because we poked a little fun at him...

[dannubis]

wow man,

love surely does make your toes grow, doesn't it...

[Kidlicious]

Originally posted by Pekka
I want to get my degree, keep my eyes on the goal and not let anyone interrupt me with emotions and stuff.

That's a good idea.

[chequita guevara]

He can dish it out, but he can't take it.

I was so hoping things would work out, too. I'm a sucker for romance.

[Mercator]

I'm sorry if I might have giving the impression that I was trolling, or if I was being a nuisance. I do mean well, but I just really think that you should call her. If she doesn't answer the phone, leave a message.

I got in touch a bit over a year ago with a girl I used to, um, rather like. It didn't work out, but at least I got it/her out of my system, and I don't regret getting in touch with her.

I think it will be good to call her, regardless of how she will react and regardless of you living in different cities and you having to finish your degree (I'm working on my degree too). In fact, that may be beneficial because it will allow you to slowly build up your relationship... I think your objections are understandable, but I also think you're just trying to rationalize not having to call her.

But if you don't want to talk about it anymore, I'll have to respect that.

Good luck in any case, with or without her.

[SirOsis]

Damn. I don't know why I bothered with this thread. I read page 1 and you were talking about calling and it's page 7 and you still haven't?

Get on it! Call right now and emerge from this fantasy you're in.

Reading this is almost as painful as writing my dissertation. Hmm.. I need to get on that.

[Az]

I was so hoping things would work out, too. I'm a sucker for romance.

[aneeshm]

Good luck , Pekka , in case you decide to call .

[Ecthy]