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  • #31
    good luck asher!
    i hope that this helps moves your life a step forward, and that you find understanding people along your way



    ps...i was really disappointed in you about two weeks (possibly three) when nintendo had to downgrade earning estimates because of the success of the xbox in north america and europe, and you didn't even mention it lol

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    • #32
      Originally posted by korn469
      ps...i was really disappointed in you about two weeks (possibly three) when nintendo had to downgrade earning estimates because of the success of the xbox in north america and europe, and you didn't even mention it lol
      I saw no need to state the obvious.
      "The issue is there are still many people out there that use religion as a crutch for bigotry and hate. Like Ben."
      Ben Kenobi: "That means I'm doing something right. "

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      • #33
        So, you gonna throw a party, like a Bar Mitzvah or something?

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        • #34
          Congarts Asher

          My parents acted much the same way when I came out.

          I first told my mother. She in turn, asked if she could invite my father into the conversation.

          I said NO!....

          But my father noticed my mom and I talking seriously, so he came over and asked "what's up?"

          my mother then turned to my father and said: "Well. he's finally admitted it."

          My dad said "Good. That's nice to hear."

          When I asked my folks what all of that was about, they said that they have known that I was gay since I was 9 years old...but they didn't want to say anything to me for fear that I would kill myself or what not.

          Granted, both my parents still had to come to grips with the whole "gay" issue - especially when I brought my significant other along for a visit...and the issue of not having children also is hard for them (Roman Catholic and all) - Now they ask John (my partner) and I "When are we planning on adopting a child?

          My mother summed it up rather well. She said:

          "Your father and I don't really understand this whole gay thing, and we're not happy about it - But If you are happy with your life, then we are happy for you and accept and love you for who you are, whether you are gay or straight."

          Plus, they just adore John!

          Asher, it will get easier after your parents have time to "digest" the information. I promise.
          ____________________________
          "One day if I do go to heaven, I'm going to do what every San Franciscan does who goes to heaven - I'll look around and say, 'It ain't bad, but it ain't San Francisco.'" - Herb Caen, 1996
          "If God, as they say, is homophobic, I wouldn't worship that God." - Archbishop Desmond Tutu
          ____________________________

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          • #35
            Potential songs for your coming out party:

            I Will Survive
            Do Ya Think I'm Sexy
            Le Freak

            and, of course,

            I'm Coming Out by Diana Ross.

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            • #36
              A "coming out of the closet" party, hmmm.
              Would that involve closet drinking?
              I'm building a wagon! On some other part of the internets, obviously (but not that other site).

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              • #37
                Originally posted by Wittlich
                Asher, it will get easier after your parents have time to "digest" the information. I promise.
                I hope so. I kinda avoided them all day if possible, because it's just uncomfortable right now.

                I decided to tell both my parents at once, to get it overwith, but I'd considered telling my mom first...

                John: That's not my style.
                "The issue is there are still many people out there that use religion as a crutch for bigotry and hate. Like Ben."
                Ben Kenobi: "That means I'm doing something right. "

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                • #38
                  JohnT, how about "its raining men" if you really want to patronize us.
                  "I hope I get to punch you in the face one day" - MRT144, Imran Siddiqui
                  'I'm fairly certain that a ban on me punching you in the face is not a "right" worth respecting." - loinburger

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                  • #39
                    Originally posted by Wittlich
                    Congarts Asher

                    My parents acted much the same way when I came out.

                    I first told my mother. She in turn, asked if she could invite my father into the conversation.

                    I said NO!....

                    But my father noticed my mom and I talking seriously, so he came over and asked "what's up?"

                    my mother then turned to my father and said: "Well. he's finally admitted it."

                    My dad said "Good. That's nice to hear."

                    When I asked my folks what all of that was about, they said that they have known that I was gay since I was 9 years old...but they didn't want to say anything to me for fear that I would kill myself or what not.

                    Granted, both my parents still had to come to grips with the whole "gay" issue - especially when I brought my significant other along for a visit...and the issue of not having children also is hard for them (Roman Catholic and all) - Now they ask John (my partner) and I "When are we planning on adopting a child?

                    My mother summed it up rather well. She said:

                    "Your father and I don't really understand this whole gay thing, and we're not happy about it - But If you are happy with your life, then we are happy for you and accept and love you for who you are, whether you are gay or straight."

                    Plus, they just adore John!

                    Asher, it will get easier after your parents have time to "digest" the information. I promise.
                    "He finally admitted it." How did they know you were gay when you were 9?
                    "You're the biggest user of hindsight that I've ever known. Your favorite team, in any sport, is the one that just won. If you were a woman, you'd likely be a slut." - Slowwhand, to Imran

                    Eschewing silly games since December 4, 2005

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                    • #40
                      Trust me, your parents are just as uncomfortable as you are right now Asher...
                      ____________________________
                      "One day if I do go to heaven, I'm going to do what every San Franciscan does who goes to heaven - I'll look around and say, 'It ain't bad, but it ain't San Francisco.'" - Herb Caen, 1996
                      "If God, as they say, is homophobic, I wouldn't worship that God." - Archbishop Desmond Tutu
                      ____________________________

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                      • #41
                        Originally posted by Wittlich
                        Trust me, your parents are just as uncomfortable as you are right now Asher...
                        Good to know.
                        "The issue is there are still many people out there that use religion as a crutch for bigotry and hate. Like Ben."
                        Ben Kenobi: "That means I'm doing something right. "

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                        • #42
                          Good question Jaguar.

                          I asked the same thing from my mother. I told her that I didn't know that I was gay at 9 years old - how could she? Here's her response:

                          "Even though I'm not your biological mother" (she's my step-mom who raised me since I was 3), "I've noticed how you've grown compared to your brother" (step-brother, 5 months younger than me). "I've watched both my boys grow, and there was a definate difference." My mother continued: "The only reason why your father (who is my biological father, by the way) accepts who you are is because I've been warning him that you are gay since you were 9 years old, even though you yourself didn't realize it at the time."

                          It just goes to show you - "Your Mother Always Knows" (and it doesn't have to be your biological mother!)
                          ____________________________
                          "One day if I do go to heaven, I'm going to do what every San Franciscan does who goes to heaven - I'll look around and say, 'It ain't bad, but it ain't San Francisco.'" - Herb Caen, 1996
                          "If God, as they say, is homophobic, I wouldn't worship that God." - Archbishop Desmond Tutu
                          ____________________________

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                          • #43
                            There is a phase that my stepmom always told me:

                            Don't forget for a single moment that just because you didn't grow beneath my heart you're not my child...You will always be my child because you grew within my heart."

                            And for the record, I address my biological mother by "Mother" and my step-mother by "Mom" - She's earned it.
                            ____________________________
                            "One day if I do go to heaven, I'm going to do what every San Franciscan does who goes to heaven - I'll look around and say, 'It ain't bad, but it ain't San Francisco.'" - Herb Caen, 1996
                            "If God, as they say, is homophobic, I wouldn't worship that God." - Archbishop Desmond Tutu
                            ____________________________

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                            • #44
                              Good job.

                              Now if I can only deal effectively with my parents about me having a girlfriend for the first time...

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                              • #45
                                But Wittlich, how did you act like a kid?

                                Did you play soccer and baseball, watch sports on TV, play with lego, that kind of thing?

                                Or did you play House, watch figure skating on TV, and play with barbies?
                                "The issue is there are still many people out there that use religion as a crutch for bigotry and hate. Like Ben."
                                Ben Kenobi: "That means I'm doing something right. "

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