Need advice from relationship gurus: possible bisexual girlfriend

[monkspider]

God bless ya Boris, Mr Fun, Jon, Comrade Ranger, et al.
I don't feel quite as strange for feeling this way about bisexual chicks, and I am confident in confronting my girlfriend about this issue this evening. Wish me luck.
Thanks so much for the kind, and listening ear guys.

And I don't find your feelings to be hypocritical at all Mrfun.

[MrFun]

Thanks, monkspider.

And I hope things turn out for the best, for both of you -- however you two decide.

[Jon Miller]

be diplomatic

Jon Miller

[Bugs ****ing Bunny]

You are so going to get dumped.

[bigvic]

Monkspider. How old are you? How old is she? Not trying to insult you, but, well, gee, ... If you are under 25, don't get too serious w/ anyone. If you are 25 - 30, face up to the fact that romantic love is a fancy term for lust and desirous attraction, like licking honey from a razor blade. If you are 30 - 35, realize that you really ain't going to find no one perfect, and a little bisexuality ain't the worse there is . If you are about to turn 36 like me and just divorced from a gorgeous ice princess, you read something like this and think, "Bisexual live in girlfriend? Oh my god YES!" Idon't want to lead you down the unrighteous path, my boy, but I passed up on an opportunity like that years ago and never stopped regretting it .
Geez, have some fun, hold off on fallig "in luv" til you really know her or anyone else.

From the advice collumn, "Ask Bigvic", former pornstar wannabe.

[SpencerH]

Originally posted by Boris Godunov

How on earth do you make that stretch? He's talking about being uncomfortable being in a RELATIONSHIP with a bisexual, not merely being around them. Why would that be a factor for a heterosexual and gays? Apples and Oranges, dear.

Well dearie.

Perhaps I did stretch things a bit, but I dont think its apples and oranges unless you or MF can actually give a reason. The question is why MF is "uncomfortable."

Isnt one of the constant banners of the gay movement that the important factor that should decide legal status for example is a loving relationship of any kind rather than a heterosexual relationship?

Perhaps you can tell us that gay men arent attracted to bisexual men? That would seem like a big stretch to me. What you have both said has more in common with homophobia than you are willing to admit to.

[Bugs ****ing Bunny]

There's something deliciously Freudian about a "former pornstar wannabee" called "bigvic" who uses only tiny, disappointing lower case letters.

[Bereta_Eder]

I kinda had a bisexual girlfriend for some moons but I only found out about it when her ex-girlfriend appeared. so i am not a good person to ask for insight. i'm blind too i guess.
for what it is worth during our very short stay together she did not comment on other girls and i didnt notice anything out of the ordinary

[bigvic]

Originally posted by Bugs ****ing Bunny
There's something deliciously Freudian about a "former pornstar wannabee" called "bigvic" who uses only tiny, disappointing lower case letters.

Ah, sense of humor, best remedy for female problems.

[MrFun]

Originally posted by SpencerH


Well dearie.

Perhaps I did stretch things a bit, but I dont think its apples and oranges unless you or MF can actually give a reason. The question is why MF is "uncomfortable."

Isnt one of the constant banners of the gay movement that the important factor that should decide legal status for example is a loving relationship of any kind rather than a heterosexual relationship?

Perhaps you can tell us that gay men arent attracted to bisexual men? That would seem like a big stretch to me. What you have both said has more in common with homophobia than you are willing to admit to.

I can be good friends with bisexual men.

I can also have casual sex with bisexual men.

I believe that bisexuals are entitled to relationships and unions as much as homosexuals and heterosexuals are entitled.


Where are you getting that I am biphobic??

[SpencerH]

Originally posted by monkspider
God bless ya Boris, Mr Fun, Jon, Comrade Ranger, et al.
I don't feel quite as strange for feeling this way about bisexual chicks, and I am confident in confronting my girlfriend about this issue this evening. Wish me luck.
Thanks so much for the kind, and listening ear guys.

And I don't find your feelings to be hypocritical at all Mrfun.

MS, do I take it from your signature that you consider yourself to be a christian? If so, would that be the source of your doubt in this matter?

How ironic that Boris and MF have supported MS in his feelings (~doubts) about a girl who he's planning to live with because she may be bisexual.

[Bereta_Eder]

BTW monkspider, when I found out it kind of put me off.

so no you are not the only one to not like it.

i guess many people play liberals but when the **** hits the fan thats when we really discover about ourselves.

(of course there were other complciations in my case such as homicide attempts and other not so well appreciated things).

i dont know if it was because i found out that she was bi or because i found out how psychotic they both were (her and her ex) that i took my baggage and went away so to speak.

[monkspider]

Nope, I am a breed of christian who sees nothing wrong with Gays or Bisexuals in a theological sense.

[Jon Miller]

yes, I will repeat Monkspider

be very careful (because in many ways you say she is nice)

and no matter what do not say that you think she is bisexual

just say something along the lines of that you are not into haveing an SO who is bisexual and you hope that she is not

because, honestly, she does not sound Bi to me (maybe if you got into more detail...)

and it is not fun to have your sexuality questioned (praticularly by those who know you well, I am speaking from expereince here)

Jon Miller

[monkspider]

Thanks Jon,
I will be certain to broach the subject delicately.